A4P Guest: My husband and I are writing this to you together. After four years of marriage, our sexual intimacy got cold and we both began complaining about it. Then one day I came across a porn site and told my husband about it. So, we invited porn to our bedroom and after that for few months, we thought we got back our sexual pleasures we lost through the years. But as you already said it on most of your articles, the porn soon destroyed everything we had. We went for counseling because we couldn’t get along anymore. We didn’t tell to the counselor about the porn because we were very scared. The counselor tried Continue reading Marital Sexual Intimacy After Porn
A4P Guest: What is the one thing that pulls a man in porn addiction?
A4P: The woman in porn doesn’t demand and ask anything from the man. She is willing to give him anything he asks and more. She takes nothing from him but gives him everything. She doesn’t ask him to love and care for her. All she is asking him is to give her his soul. That is all!
A4P Guest: But why doesn’t the man then be happy with porn and live quietly? Why does he seek help to stop viewing porn? Continue reading Porn And A Man
For those of you who are voracious readers, here is a book to devour: Breaking Free – Understanding Sexual Addiction & the Healing Power of Jesus!
Sure, it is written for men and I am not a man but I didn’t see on the cover that says, “Women are not allowed to read it!” So, I read it like nobody’s business and I love it!
If you want to get a glimpse of what sexual addiction is, this is the book. If you want to break free from that long standing masturbation and porn addiction, frequent visit to prostitutes or strip club, or anything similar, this is the book to read. Continue reading “Breaking Free”
I love playing Whac-A-Mole game. Wikipdia defined Whac-A-Male game this way:
“A typical Whac-A-Mole machine consists of a large, waist-level cabinet with five holes in its top and a large, soft, black mallet. Each hole contains a single plastic mole and the machinery necessary to move it up and down. Once the game starts, the moles will begin to pop up from their holes at random. The object of the game is to force the individual moles back into their holes by hitting them directly on the head with the mallet, thereby adding to the player’s score. The quicker this is done the higher the final score will be.”
From all the kids’ games, I love playing Whac-A-Mole and I am sure you know the reason. I love it because it is easy. All you have to do is you hold on to your “hammer” and bung the head of every mole which tries to come out of its hole. No matter how much that mole tries, if you “bung” it, it will go back down to its hole. It doesn’t need your prayers, it doesn’t require your brain, it doesn’t need your hard work either. You just stand on a side and bung, bung, bung, bung! And if you bung lots of moles and able to keep them right back to their holes, the machine will declare that you are the winner. Continue reading Whac-A-Mole
Do you know the meaning of the word: “imposter?”
It means: a person who practices deception under an assumed character, identity, or name.
The one word that is very close to the word impostor is masquerade. And the word masquerade is defined as: false outward show; disguise.
A masquerade or an imposter leads a double life. He may look from the outside as someone who is a serious servant of God who doesn’t compromise but in his/her private life, he/she leads a sinful life.
Do you know if a person chooses to be an “imposter” he/she can get to the point where nobody can help him/her?
If for example a husband who is an imposter has a marriage problem and goes to marriage counseling, he presents himself to the counselor as someone who is very spiritual. And the counselor looks at his wife with a suspicious look that says, “Why are you complaining about this kind and spiritual man?”
Wow! Do you know that nobody can help an imposter, not even God? Nobody! Until he/she comes to his/her senses and says to him/herself, “Enough of this life,” he/she lives in darkness. It doesn’t matter if he/she goes to the church and gets involved in a ministry; he/she lives in darkness.
Do you know a big imposter? You guessed it! It is the devil! Listen what the Bible says:
“For such people are false apostles, deceitful workers, masquerading as apostles of Christ. And no wonder, for Satan himself masquerades as an angel of light. It is not surprising, then, if his servants also masquerade as servants of righteousness. Their end will be what their actions deserve.” 2 Corinthians 11:13-15
Who are we lying to when we masquerade and impose? To no one but ourselves!
Abraham Lincoln once said, “You can fool all the people some of the time, and some of the people all the time, but you cannot fool all the people all the time.”
That means God knows who we really are and other people will eventually come to know who we really are. So when we impose, we pretty much lying to nobody but to ourselves. Think about it!
Let’s be true to ourselves, others and God because that is where we find our healing. ///
A thermometer doesn’t have its own temperature. It tells you the surrounding temperature it is in.
If you stick it under your arm, it reads 98.9 degree Fahrenheit. If you take it out and stick the same thermometer in your deep freezer, it reads -20F. Why? It is a thermometer. It has no “temperature” of its own.
Well, that is not the story with a thermostat! Wow! Thermostat sets its own temperature and takes possession of its surrounding! Its surrounding won’t tell it at what temperature it needs to run! Oh, no! The thermostat itself tells its surrounding at what temperature it needs to exist! Continue reading Are you a Thermostat or a Thermometer?
I heard the news on my way back from my kids’ basketball game yesterday night. I wanted to write this before I went to bed because I was totally “SPENT.” So, as usual, I prayed so that God would give me this day to write about it. Praise the LORD! God gave this day!
So, on the news yesterday, they said that freedom of speech had to be “reevaluated” once more “because some people are using social media to “target and assault” individuals.” The lady who was interviewed (from my memory, not word by word) said, “Facebook and other social media are targeting, for example, women.” Continue reading Freedom of Speech on Social Media
A4P Guest: I’ve been married for the last four years now. We have a 2 year old daughter and a one year old son. God and the things of God have a special place in my heart. And I know that God called me to a ministry, to get involved in counseling and leading the prayer group in our church. However it is getting very hard for me to attend church programs and prayer meetings because my kids cry a lot whenever I go out of the house and my husband doesn’t want me to get involved in any church ministry. Jesus said, “If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters—yes, even their own life—such a person cannot be my disciple.” Luke 14:26 – and last week, I meditated this Bible verse for the whole day and decided to go to church for a prayer meeting, even if my kids were crying and my husband was pouting. When I got there, the pastor asked me to lead the prayer meeting and everybody was blessed beyond measure. So that night I realized that it was the devil who was behind all these; trying to keep me away from my call. Please tell me how I can fight the devil. Continue reading “The devil is trying to keep me away from my call”
– – – because I am a woman!
Well, let me say this before somebody out there gets mad at me.
Some women can keep their cool from month to month and from year to year; and we are very thankful for them. But some of us are struggling at least for three or four days out of a month trying to keep our “nice attitude” from turning into a nightmare. And during those few days of the month, we scare the people who live with us to death.
My Berhan knows how to go around my mood but my kids used to struggle to understand it. When they were little, it was a very strange and sometimes scary moment for them. Continue reading I Can’t Keep My Cool
One day our youngest son, I think he was second or third grade, came from school looking very sad. I took a quick look at his face and within a second knew there was something wrong with him.
When we got home, I called him to my bedroom and asked, “You look very sad. Is there something you want to talk about?” His eyes were actually ready to let it all out.
So, wiping his tears, he said, “So and so said to me, “Your Mama doesn’t look like a mother.”
Helping him wipe his tears, I asked him, “Did you ask him what your Mama looks like?”