Category Archives: Marriage

I Can’t Keep My Cool

– – – because I am a woman!

Well, let me say this before somebody out there gets mad at me.

Some women can keep their cool from month to month and from year to year; and we are very thankful for them. But some of us are struggling at least for three or four days out of a month trying to keep our “nice attitude” from turning into a nightmare. And during those few days of the month, we scare the people who live with us to death.

My Berhan knows how to go around my mood but my kids used to struggle to understand it. When they were little, it was a very strange and sometimes scary moment for them. Continue reading I Can’t Keep My Cool

No Amount Of Perfection

One day our youngest son, I think he was second or third grade, came from school looking very sad. I took a quick look at his face and within a second knew there was something wrong with him.

When we got home, I called him to my bedroom and asked, “You look very sad. Is there something you want to talk about?” His eyes were actually ready to let it all out.

So, wiping his tears, he said, “So and so said to me, “Your Mama doesn’t look like a mother.”

Helping him wipe his tears, I asked him, “Did you ask him what your Mama looks like?”

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“But Mom there is one thing missing- – – ”

I always love the time I have with my kids early in the morning. When I drop them off to school, I love the opportunity God is always giving me to be with them. While their brain is fresh and wide awake to absorb anything, I strive to speak truth to their hearts using every opportunity I get. We always pray as we drive to their school. We usually listen to the Christian radio channels, such as 95.1FM (WRBS), 91.9FM (WGTS) and 105.1FM (WAVA). I can’t tell you how much these radio stations changed my life and theirs for the better. May the LORD bless the people behind these stations! Continue reading “But Mom there is one thing missing- – – ”

Nakedness

It was few years back when our kids were very little. While I was reading one of those interesting psychology books, I don’t remember which one; I read that in every human heart, there is this deep seated desire to be naked. I said to myself, “You must be kidding me!” The author continued saying that not only we desire to be naked but we desire others to be naked as well.

I said to myself; “That is absurd!”

Well, I respectfully disagreed with the idea and moved on to the next one. But the idea kind of stayed with me. Then to my surprise, I noticed something.

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Whoever Dwells in the Shelter of the Most High – Part I

Sitting in the dark room, in the middle of the night, he began sweating as if he ran five miles. The question which kept on coming in his mind was, “How did I end up here?”

He grew up in the church. He knows more Bible verses than most of his friends. Growing up, he was considered as one of the spiritual young men who could take a place of pastoral position or something. Even as a young lad, some people used to come and ask him to pray for them.

As his mother only son, his mother raised him as if he was the last man from human race. She didn’t let him go through circumcision until he turned thirteen. His father and uncle pressured his mother and she agreed to let him get circumcised at the age of thirteen. Continue reading Whoever Dwells in the Shelter of the Most High – Part I

Last Reply to the Issue Regarding “Physical Abuse”

The toughest and busiest day just passed! It was tough and busy day because I was trying to do five things at the same time. Anyways, I survived it! Praise the LORD!

So, when I found a minute to sit, I read some of the comments which were dropped off on the post titled “Pleading for Physical Abuse to Continue.”

Reading the comments, I said, “Huh?” once or twice. And I sat down to write this as “my last threading point”.

I said “last” because we have a lot of issues to bring up on this page. We can’t afford to be stuck on one topic. Let’s agree to disagree and move on to the next point as adults.

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Question about “One Basic Principle – – – “Is oral sex okay?” video clip

A4P Guest: “So are you saying that if a married couple feels comfortable doing any sexual act, such as anal sex, it is acceptable before God?”

A4P: Hmm! When I read your question, I remember this saying that goes like this: “I’m only responsible for what I say not for what you understand.”

I also remember this saying, “Two wrongs don’t make a right.”

The question that begs an answer here is not whether the married couples agree on the act or not, but who those agreed married couples are?

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“Lone Ranger-ism” in Christianity!

If you look in the dictionary for the word or phrase “a lone ranger” you will find this definition: “one who acts alone and without consultation or the approval of others.”

Can one of my organs be a lone ranger and make it?

Hmm! Can you just imagine if my heart one day wants to act alone, take a decision without consulting with my brain and without the approval of the other body organs and say something like this: “I want to chill today; I want to take a one week vacation because I am tired of pumping blood?”
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Pleading for Physical Abuse to Continue

A4P Guest: I came to your page recently and I am trying to catch up with your writings going into your website archives. I love what I read so far except one, titled “Broke my heart into pieces” where you advised a wife to call 911 because her husband was abusing her physically. I can’t believe that you are advising the woman to do that. I am a living testimony where I changed from one person to another completely different person because of my wife’s patience and prayer. Twelve years ago, I used to abuse her physically, mentally and emotionally. Right now, I am a loving husband to her and a loving father to my two sons. If my wife had called 911 during that time, our marriage would have been history. So, why don’t you advise wives to be submissive enough as the Bible says so that their husbands will change and their marriages will be saved instead of advising them to call 911?”

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