A4P Guest: I’m 28 years old and I got married a year ago. My husband is a nice person. I decided to marry him because I thought I was attracted to him but to my nightmare, I now realized that I was only attracted to his spiritual life, not to him. He used to tell me about God, the word of God and what God had done in and through him when we were dating. It was my joy to see him on stage. He is a solo singer and he also leads worship. He is loved and adored by everybody in our church. When he leads worship, Missy, the whole congregation gets lost in the worship. I was very excited when he asked me out because he was the dream man of many of my single friends and mine too. I now come to know that I am in love with the man on stage, not off the stage. I don’t know if you understand what I am saying. I still love to see him on stage, leading worship and everything but other than that, I am totally not attracted to him, especially sexually. Whenever he approaches me to kiss me and everything, I get dis – – – because there is nothing in him that draws me close to him. No chemistry! Every interaction with him feels like chores. And on the other hand, he doesn’t have that much spiritual life outside the church. He doesn’t pray that much. I thought he would help me to grow in the Lord. I am now the one to remind him to pray. I feel stuck!!!! What do I need to do? Continue reading I feel Stuck!
A4P Guest: Missy, I hope I’m not losing my mind here. So my “man” whom I am thinking of marrying soon just told me that he doesn’t believe in giving money to the church. Now I am having a second thought to marry him?
A4P: Does he believe in going to church and receiving spiritual benefit from the church?
Continue reading A Second Thought To Marry Him
I read about “Marshmallow Test” study today done at Stanford University in 1960. The subjects were children of ages four to six year olds.
These little kids will be given one marshmallow (can be cookies or pretzel sticks). They are told that they would be rewarded with the second marshmallow if they wait for 15 minutes “without giving in to the temptation.” Continue reading Sweet and Colorful Marshmallow
A4P Guest: I lived outside of Ethiopia since 2000. Last time I went back home was in 2011. I met this amazing girl at that time and fell in love with her instantly. We couldn’t spend much time together since I had to come back in short period of time. Before I went for vacation, I told my friends that I was going to meet my future wife and told them that I wouldn’t touch her except shaking her hands and that was exactly what I did. It’s been more than three years now and we are still together. We are actually more in love now than back then. I’m planning to bring her down here anytime soon. My eyes are dying to see her. I missed her so much. My question is when she arrives here, she only has me. I don’t want to sin against God and I’m a bit worried. I don’t even know if I can kiss her before we get married. I’ve already made my mind to propose to her. I just want to know if we can start kissing after I propose to her. What do you think about that?
Continue reading Your Wife LEGALLY
A4P Guest: I am seeing a nice, loving guy. I am 27 and he is 30. He proposed to me a month ago and I am struggling now to live with my decision.
A4P: What is your decision?
A4P Guest: I said “Yes” when he proposed.
A4P: And? Continue reading “They Cheated on Me”
I read this on Facebook yesterday (actually watched the story in a short video clip) and I want to share it with you. I made few changes to the story though so it fits right into the message of this page.
So, a man gets attracted to three girls at the same time. He knows that he cannot marry three of them. So, he struggles to choose one.
Continue reading Think Like a Man
Sexual attraction between two Christian lovers is healthy as long as it is not allowed to overrule their desire to honor God in their lives. When it is allowed to overrule and reject the Word of God, their sexual attraction turns into lust, not love. Lust means wanting to have sex with someone you are not married to (Matthew 5:27-28).
Continue reading True Love Waits!
A4P Guest: I’m a 36 year-old woman and I’ve been dating a man (38 years old) for a couple years now. We both are born again Christians. This year, I was expecting him to propose to me but he doesn’t even talk about marriage at all. I told him in several occasions how much I desire to get married. But he usually changes the subject and avoids it totally. What do you advise me to do?
Continue reading True Love Waits!
Seventeen years ago, on Friday, December 01, 2000 around 1:30am, God added Lydia Banko to our family.
Continue reading Happy Birthday to Our Only Daughter!