Category Archives: CG-STAT

I feel Stuck!

A4P Guest: I’m 28 years old and I got married a year ago. My husband is a nice person. I decided to marry him because I thought I was attracted to him but to my nightmare, I now realized that I was only attracted to his spiritual life, not to him. He used to tell me about God, the word of God and what God had done in and through him when we were dating. It was my joy to see him on stage. He is a solo singer and he also leads worship. He is loved and adored by everybody in our church. When he leads worship, Missy, the whole congregation gets lost in the worship. I was very excited when he asked me out because he was the dream man of many of my single friends and mine too. I now come to know that I am in love with the man on stage, not off the stage. I don’t know if you understand what I am saying. I still love to see him on stage, leading worship and everything but other than that, I am totally not attracted to him, especially sexually. Whenever he approaches me to kiss me and everything, I get dis – – – because there is nothing in him that draws me close to him. No chemistry! Every interaction with him feels like chores. And on the other hand, he doesn’t have that much spiritual life outside the church. He doesn’t pray that much. I thought he would help me to grow in the Lord. I am now the one to remind him to pray. I feel stuck!!!! What do I need to do? Continue reading I feel Stuck!

Sweet and Colorful Marshmallow

I read about “Marshmallow Test” study today done at Stanford University in 1960. The subjects were children of ages four to six year olds.

These little kids will be given one marshmallow (can be cookies or pretzel sticks). They are told that they would be rewarded with the second marshmallow if they wait for 15 minutes “without giving in to the temptation.” Continue reading Sweet and Colorful Marshmallow

Your Wife LEGALLY

A4P Guest: I lived outside of Ethiopia since 2000. Last time I went back home was in 2011. I met this amazing girl at that time and fell in love with her instantly. We couldn’t spend much time together since I had to come back in short period of time. Before I went for vacation, I told my friends that I was going to meet my future wife and told them that I wouldn’t touch her except shaking her hands and that was exactly what I did. It’s been more than three years now and we are still together. We are actually more in love now than back then. I’m planning to bring her down here anytime soon. My eyes are dying to see her. I missed her so much. My question is when she arrives here, she only has me. I don’t want to sin against God and I’m a bit worried. I don’t even know if I can kiss her before we get married. I’ve already made my mind to propose to her. I just want to know if we can start kissing after I propose to her. What do you think about that?

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A Jerk?

A4P Guest: I am 27 years old and my girlfriend is 26. I am pursuing medicine, soon to graduate. I plan to pursue further studies to do my PhD in medical research. My girlfriend, who loves Jesus Christ very much and loves life, on the other hand, has absolutely no interest in any form of formal education. She wants to be a businesswoman. Her parents have business and both of her parents have no higher education and she wants to follow their footsteps. I told her that I would pay for her school if she goes to school but she is not interested at all. Missy, please understand me. I want an educated wife, not that I want her to pursue medicine, but at least I want her to have a degree or something. So, after I think about it long and hard, I decided to call it quits. Am I a jerk?

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True Love Waits!

A4P Guest: I’m a 36 year-old woman and I’ve been dating a man (38 years old) for a couple years now. We both are born again Christians. This year, I was expecting him to propose to me but he doesn’t even talk about marriage at all. I told him in several occasions how much I desire to get married. But he usually changes the subject and avoids it totally. What do you advise me to do?

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