Category Archives: Singles

CG-STAT, Sexual Purity, Singles, Truth

“I Thought Showing Off My Bellybutton”

Summer is my favorite season of the year mainly because I get a chance to spend more time with my kids. Truth be told, these days I am spending less and less time with them as they are growing very fast and are very busy with their own lives. My older son, Abel, leaves home around 8:30am for his summer internship, which he’s doing at the University of Maryland and he doesn’t get back home until late in the afternoon. I’m not responsible to drop and pick him up anymore since he drives himself; and letting my kids go, JUST LIKE THAT, has been the most challenging and emotional part of parenting for me. Very tough!

For my husband, forget it! He is waiting for the day that he is going to say “Goodbye” to our little one, Biruk, who is very much ready to be on his own. I, on the other hand, dread the passing of each day knowing that my kids are not going to be with me for much longer.

Oh, how I love each one of my kids! You have no idea. I’m sure you are not surprised by that since I’m a mother. I mean, duh, what else can a mother say about her kids other than saying that she loves them to death? Nothing! Continue reading “I Thought Showing Off My Bellybutton” →

Sexual Purity, Singles, Truth

“What does “God forgives us” mean?”

A4P Guest: I want to ask you about something that is bothering and confusing me these days. I am a 25-year old Christian girl. I grew up in a Christian family and I learned early on that sex before marriage is a grievous sin before God. I’ve been holding on to that truth since childhood. Nowadays, though, my faith is being shaken because many Christians are having sex before marriage and they seem okay with it. They are still coming to church and their relationship with God seems unshaken and unaffected by their sinful lifestyle; they seem to be happy and enjoying life to the fullest while I struggle and wage war against my flesh to keep my body, soul, and spirit pure; they seem to get married quickly, throwing their wedding parties in churches, and having kids too. Comparing my life with theirs, I began to doubt the importance or relevance of my stand against sexual immorality. If I get into that kind of life, God will forgive me and I should be able to move on with life just like them. It is hard for me now to see sexual sin as different from any other sin such as lying. And I feel like God won’t do anything special for me because I keep myself from sexual sin. Please tell me if I’m wrong in my thinking. I don’t know if the devil is deceiving me in this. What does “God forgives us” mean? Does it mean that when God forgives, He takes away the consequences of our sins and our life will be bliss?

A4P: What a precious topic for me to deal with on this gorgeous Sunday afternoon! Praise God!

Thank you for asking these questions and thank you for giving us permission to address your questions on this page. Continue reading “What does “God forgives us” mean?” →

Sexual Purity, Singles, Truth

“Doubting My Worth”

A4P Guest: Is my worth as a woman attached to being a virgin?
 
A4P: What do you mean?
 
A4P Guest: Does a virgin mean a worthy woman to marry?
 
A4P: Hmm, I’m not really sure what you are asking me. Give me some background to your story so I can see your question in the same way you see/feel it.
 
A4P Guest: Okay, I’m a 25-year old Christian girl. After I dated a Christian man for a year, he dumped me for a silly reason. I cried for two or three days and begged him to come back but he left me just like that. Then one guy came into the picture. I was not attracted to him but I thought I would forget the first guy by going out with this other man. Well, this other guy was not a committed Christian and asked me for sex on our second date and I told him that I was a virgin and he promised that he would stay with me for the rest of his life and I slept with him. Well, it’s been a month now since I heard from him. And my first boyfriend called me two weeks ago and told me that he wanted to come back to me after he ignored me for six months. He knew that I was a virgin before he left me. So, I thought it would be fair to tell him and I told him that I slept with a man I dated and he said, “I will never forgive you for it, so we may as well continue going our separate ways” and he hung up the phone. Now, I’m doubting my worth.

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CG-STAT, Love, Marriage, Sexual Purity, Singles, Truth

“I Let Go the Girl I love”

A4P Guest: I’m a 32 year-old married man. Before I got married, I was seeing one Christian girl. I was very much in love with her and all. Then I met my high school classmate on Facebook and began chatting with her. I had a crush on her when we were in 11th grade. Other than that, there was nothing between us. Then before I knew it, I began spending more time with this girl on Facebook than with my girlfriend. Then, to make a long story short, I lost interest in pursuing my girlfriend and continued my relationship virtually with my high school classmate and decided to marry her. At the time, she was living in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia and I brought her here to the US. We are now expecting our first child. The problem is, to my surprise, I am realizing that I’m not actually in love with my wife but with my ex-girlfriend. I can’t stop myself from thinking about my ex. I can’t take her out of my mind. She is a strong Christian. While we were dating, she didn’t even let me touch her body let alone sleep with her. My wife, the first day she came from Addis Ababa, she was willing to sleep with me. We were not married. I felt guilty about it but she didn’t feel a thing. I constantly think about my ex-girlfriend’s devotion to Christ and sincere faith. She influenced my walk as a Christian. Continue reading “I Let Go the Girl I love” →

CG-STAT, Sexual Purity, Singles, Truth

50 Shades of Grace???

I’m sure many of you know Priscilla Shirer (daughter of Pastor Tony Evans and she is one of the main characters in the “War Room” movie). Well, this is her show called “The Chat with Priscilla” (made possible by Lifeway Christian Resource.)
 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=40All91wT2s
 
So, in this show, Priscilla had two guests and one of whom is, Mo Isom, a blogger and speaker, known by her “50 Shades of Grace” blog.

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Sexual Purity, Singles, Truth

“May the Lord forgive you for saying that”

A4P Guest: I’m 25 years old. I came to Christ when I was 13. Since then, I have been in the house of God. I’ve never had a relationship with a woman. And knowing that it is a right season for me to look for a wife, I began praying about it. And amazingly enough, while I was in the middle of a two week program just to pray and fast before God for a wife, I began thinking about this one particular girl I know in my church. That weekend, I went to church and a man of God who is a prophet called me and prophesied saying, “The woman you are thinking about is your wife.” So, I accepted that and prayed about it and went to the woman and told her. She said she would pray about it and yesterday she called me and said that she didn’t think I am the one she wants to marry. I told her that she shouldn’t sin against God by refusing to listen to what the man of God said. I don’t know why she said that, maybe because she is not that strong in the Lord. How can I convince her and help her to grow spiritually?

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Sexual Purity, Singles, Truth

“My Wife is Stubborn Beyond Measure”

A4P Guest: I’m 37 years old. I got married a couple years ago. My wife is pretty and has lots of good qualities such as she is a very hard worker, she keeps her home in order and she goes to school part-time and she always gets good grades; but she has this problem: She is very stubborn. If she says something, I have to agree with her or take a hike. She doesn’t change her mind whether the issue is a minor or a major one. Early on in our marriage, it didn’t bother me that much but now, the baby being on the way; it is bothering me a lot. Missy, we are pretty much fighting and arguing about everything. She made my life very difficult. What should I do?

A4P: Was she stubborn when you guys were dating?

A4P Guest: Yes, she was. Even for our wedding ceremony, she was the only one who decided where to do the wedding, who to invite and not to invite. I had no say in anything. It is just impossible to make her change her mind. Missy, my wife’s stubborn beyond measure.

A4P: So, it is not something that all of a sudden appeared in your marriage after two years of marriage, am I right?

A4P Guest: Correct.

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