Category Archives: Love

Sex before Marriage

Let’s first see a theoretical story as an example for the many similar real and true stories I frequently encounter in my ministry:

A couple, while they were dating, they kept on putting themselves in a very tempting environment. Their relationship didn’t start that way. Both of them had clear boundaries when it comes to sexual purity and they communicated that clearly but they let one compromise sneak in to their relationship.

Continue reading Sex before Marriage

The Most Depressing Reason to Get Married

The most depressing, frustrating and disappointing reason to marry is to have sex. Do you know why? Well, let me give one analogy to make my point clear:

Let’s assume that a married couple has sexual intimacy three times a week. (I’m not suggesting that having sex three times a week is the norm or anything. It can be a norm for some and for some, three times a week may feel like a fasting season).

Continue reading The Most Depressing Reason to Get Married

Your Life Testimonies warmed my soul!

Thank you so much for all of you who stopped by at my inbox to let me know how much A4P benefited you in many ways and levels! I thank God for it! And may all the glory and praise be to Jesus Christ!

Yes, it feels really good to hear from you guys because sometimes I feel like nobody is out there to hear me. Yes, as it is with every Facebook page owner, it is good to see lots of “Likes” on a post but for me personally, I want to hear from the hearts of people who are reading my messages. And today, you all let me hear from your heart. So, thank you so much guys!

Continue reading Your Life Testimonies warmed my soul!

Issue of kissing, AGAIN!

"If I kiss my girlfriend, is that considered as a sin?"

Assuming that our common point of reference is the Bible, let’s see what the Bible says:

"- – -anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Matthew 5:27-28 (notice the last word, "his heart" – Key word)

When a man looks at a woman he is not married to, he thinks about taking her clothes off and imagining her naked body and – – – (that is a short overview of lust in man’s brain, let me save you from the detail).

When a man lets his eyes wonder off and his heart and mind follow, the man is considered "adulterer" according to the Bible because the damage of sin has already been done to the soul (heart) of that person. Sin of adultery has already been committed at a spiritual realm, a realm you and I are called to know and worship God (John 4:24). (BTW, this is the main difference between the Old and the New Testament Law!)

Remember, the man didn’t even touch the woman when he is held responsible for a sin of adultery.

If seeing a woman lustfully is considered as “adultery” (dangerous sin which has a potential to wreck one’s future), how do you think exchanging saliva with a woman a man is not married to through kissing is considered as? As “holiness" or as “a different face of adultery?" I leave that question for you.

Remember, the issue here is not the actual pre-marital sex but the condition of the heart and mind of a person because one’s body is like a “robot.” It does what the heart and mind of the person instruct it to do so.

What does a man think when he kisses a girl he is not married to? How wonderful Matthew 5:27-28 verses are??? Or something else?

I leave that question for you too.

BTW, when a man kisses his woman, a woman he is married to, what goes on in his mind is not Matthew 5:27-28 but images of his wife’s naked body and how exciting the sex is going to be (and more, again I save you from the detail). And, that kind of thinking and imagining, my dear, is like a holy worship. Do you know why? Because it is the will and word of God for the man to be consummated in sexual intimacy with one woman he is married to. When the two become one, their sexual intimacy gets decorated by God’s presence. God’s presence in turn makes their sexual union pure and honorable (Hebrews 13:4) and fulfilling and pleasurable more than you can ever think or imagine (Song of Solomon 3).

This being so, don’t you think “Is kissing a sin” kind of question is nothing but baloney? ///

His Unchanging Love

Our little son is the one who usually comes up with a biblical question which makes our brains hurt.

“Is God fair?”

You may say, “Duh, God is always fair.” Well, if you say that, let me ask you this: If a plane crashes and a loving husband of one woman and a father of four little kids die but another loving husband of one woman and a father of two survived, is God fair for both families for the second family? Tricky! Tricky! Continue reading His Unchanging Love

“Are you tired?”

Through the hard day of work, one thought carries a husband and brings him home. That thought is this: “Sex is in store for you at the end of the day.”

After a husband finishes his task for a day, the one thought that remains with him is SEX! He is very happy that he is able to provide to his wife and kids but above all, he enjoys that sex is included in the package. Whether his day is good or bad, he loves to comfort his soul by saying things like, “Sex is in the menu.” Continue reading “Are you tired?”

Looking for a woman or what?

“It has been almost two years since I’m in the process of looking for a wife. So far I asked four girls. The first one never says “I love you” to me and I thought she is emotionless and left her. The second one, she is nice one day and the other day, she just ignores me. I couldn’t stand her mood swings. So, I broke up with her. The third one, she is not specific in what she wants. Continue reading Looking for a woman or what?