A4P Guest: “I am a 40 year old woman. I grew up in a well-educated family, have a BA, on the looks department, I am okay, I have a pretty face, bit short, great confidence, beautiful heart,( as told by people). I am not a born-again Christian, but I am faithful, love to read the Bible, and Christian articles, very curious for knowledge, I love to read a variety of books, from children’s stories to politics. I love to dance, I don’t drink. I have had a range of boyfriends, mostly kind and good guys never had a full sexual relationship with anyone, due to my views, that sexual relationships are best only in marriage, as I believe God’s wish is. Right now, I don’t have any boyfriend, but these days I am facing a big problem, my family is pressuring me either to get married or have a baby out of wedlock (I am the eldest child, out of four siblings). I do understand their concern, and wish/dream to become grandparents, uncles, aunties, but it is also against my wish and belief to have a child out of wedlock. The option of being married is out of the picture right now. So what do I do? I know my parents are not getting any younger, nor am I for that matter. My wish to marry a humble Christian man, be a faithful wife, build a Christian family is becoming almost a mirage. I have prayed hard for the right partner, but my Boaz is nowhere to be found. I am stuck between fulfilling my and my family’s wishes the wrong way, or spend the rest of my life, alone, childless, and killing everyone’s dream and wishes, what do I do? You can share it on your Facebook page, some women might have the same problem so we can learn from each other, but keep my identity a secret.”
A4P: I believe you are at a tough place in life. Sure you are a bit older. I get it, you are 40 but I’m not sure why you said “The option of being married is out of the picture right now.”