Category Archives: Marriage

You Have A Good Marriage If – – –

Many marriage experts agree that no one can have a perfect marriage.

Duh! We all are imperfect people and when two of us come together, we can’t create a perfect life.

Okay, that is like one of those “no brainer” facts. But do you know that many marriage experts (means, people who spend most of their days studying about marriage) agree that there are only two kinds of marriages: Good or bad? Yeah, it is very true.

And they said, you have a good marriage if:  Continue reading You Have A Good Marriage If – – –

My Wish to Marry A Christian Man

A4P Guest: “I am a 40 year old woman. I grew up in a well-educated family, have a BA, on the looks department, I am okay, I have a pretty face, bit short, great confidence, beautiful heart,( as told by people). I am not a born-again Christian, but I am faithful, love to read the Bible, and Christian articles, very curious for knowledge, I love to read a variety of books, from children’s stories to politics. I love to dance, I don’t drink. I have had a range of boyfriends, mostly kind and good guys never had a full sexual relationship with anyone, due to my views, that sexual relationships are best only in marriage, as I believe God’s wish is. Right now, I don’t have any boyfriend, but these days I am facing a big problem, my family is pressuring me either to get married or have a baby out of wedlock (I am the eldest child, out of four siblings). I do understand their concern, and wish/dream to become grandparents, uncles, aunties, but it is also against my wish and belief to have a child out of wedlock. The option of being married is out of the picture right now. So what do I do? I know my parents are not getting any younger, nor am I for that matter. My wish to marry a humble Christian man, be a faithful wife, build a Christian family is becoming almost a mirage. I have prayed hard for the right partner, but my Boaz is nowhere to be found. I am stuck between fulfilling my and my family’s wishes the wrong way, or spend the rest of my life, alone, childless, and killing everyone’s dream and wishes, what do I do? You can share it on your Facebook page, some women might have the same problem so we can learn from each other, but keep my identity a secret.”
 
A4P: I believe you are at a tough place in life. Sure you are a bit older. I get it, you are 40 but I’m not sure why you said “The option of being married is out of the picture right now.”

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Few Things about Marriage Counseling

I made this video message this afternoon to say few things about marriage counseling.

For those of you who can’t understand Amharic, I’m hoping that this video will be captioned in English soon. Please bear with us. But for today, the main message of the video is: Let’s put counseling in its rightful place in order to get the full benefit of it. ///

Does Age Difference Matter in a Marriage?

We can’t afford to ignore this issue just because it makes some people feel uncomfortable, can we? No, we can’t. And I believe, this issue matters more for those who are yet in the process of finding their lifelong partner than the people who already are married.

Let me first say this: As far as I know, there is no “age-difference” topic in the Bible. So, this is a simple answer for anyone who may ask for a Bible reference for the points I’m about to make. Some people argue, “If the Bible ignores this issue, we don’t need to talk about it.” And some say, “What matters the most is how much the couple loves each other.” Hmm! I better leave these lines of reasoning right here and move on to my point, not because I don’t want to deal with them but I may easily get sidetracked from the point I wanna make today trying to address them.

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Check the Expiration Date

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A woman’s beauty and charm have a short shelf life. They expire before you even get a chance to introduce her to all your friends; families and co-workers.
 
But a woman’s internal beauty that only comes from the fear of God has no expiration date. It lives on!
 
So, before you let yourself fall in love, check the expiration date. ///