Category Archives: Sexual Purity

“Convicted of Flirting with Men”

A4P Guest: “After reading some of your articles, I got convicted of flirting with men around me. I’m one of the worship leaders in my church. I used to like to wear tight pants and/or short dresses. I was enjoying the attention the men were giving me. A couple weeks ago, I decided to buy a dress which is neither tight nor short but still cute. I wore to the next church program. I was actually leading the worship that day. For some reason, I felt clean standing before the people of God, consciously dressing up in a non-seductive way, if you know what I mean. Continue reading “Convicted of Flirting with Men”

“Hello, I’m Your Wife to be”

A4P Guest: “I’m a 34-year-old single man. I strive to be sexually pure. I have male friends with whom I pray and discuss personal issues, including our sexual struggles. But I have a question for you. I’ve been praying for God to give me a wife but God is not answering my prayer. I’m not in any addiction or sinful lifestyle. Why do you think that God is not answering my prayer?” Continue reading “Hello, I’m Your Wife to be”

“I THOUGHT I LOVED HER BUT – – -”

A4P Guest: “I’m a 25-year-old man. I am one of the solo singers in my church. I graduated from university with my first degree in electrical engineering last year and I am currently working on my profession. I wanted to start a brand new life this year. The problem is, a year ago; I made the most serious mistake of my life. I slept with one of the girls who sing in our church choir. She is very pretty and loves God like nobody else. The next day, I went to her and asked her forgiveness and we both cried before God. Then I went to one of the ministers in our church and told him the whole story. He counseled both of us and told us to stay away from ministry for three months which we both did. Throughout those three months, I was fasting and praying and going for counseling with this particular minister who restored my life. The thing is, Missy, I don’t want to have any relationship with the girl I slept with. I know you may judge me here for saying that but please hear me well first. I thought I loved her but after that incidence; I didn’t even want to see her. Continue reading “I THOUGHT I LOVED HER BUT – – -”

A Factory of Idols

John Calvin once said: “The human heart is a factory of idols.” 

Looking at my heart, I see Calvin’s statement to be right on the money.

You see, the first thing I always say when I open my eyes is this: “Jesus Christ is Lord!” And brushing my teeth and washing my face, I will continue preaching to my soul so my soul won’t get a chance to preach to me. 

But today, the first thing that came to my heart was this: “I have to find out if Dr. Abiy Ahmed, the new Ethiopian Prime Minister, is doing okay today.” 

Yes, I was reprimanded by the Word and Spirit of God today and I said this prayer: “Forgive me LORD! You are the One who brought Dr. Abiy to power and You are the One who is going to protect him. I don’t need to worry to the point of letting go of my morning devotion. I don’t want him to be my idol. I know that My heart is a factory of idol. Please help me to focus on You alone, leaving all my worries and cares at Your feet. No, Abba, You are my God. You are my only Hope and source of joy! No one else!”

May God give us all a discerning heart so “that Satan might not outwit us. For we are not unaware of  his schemes.” (2 Corinthians 2:11)

What are his schemes? 

Mainly to use anything and everything to distract us from our devotion to and focus on Christ and fill our hearts and minds with fear and doubt. 

God says: 

“Be still and know that I am God;

I will be exalted among the nations;

I will be exalted in the earth.” (Psalm 46:10a)/// 

Disappointing Reason To Get Married

The most depressing, frustrating and disappointing reason to marry is to have sex. Do you know why? Well, let me give one analogy to make my point clear:

Let’s assume that a married couple has sexual intimacy three times a week. (I’m not suggesting that having sex three times a week is the norm or anything. It can be a norm for some and for some, three times a week may feel like a fasting season). Continue reading Disappointing Reason To Get Married