A Woman Looking for A Husband

It is fascinating to see and be amazed by all creations of God. I was reading one particular book and the author encourages his readers to see and notice how many trees his readers have in their neighborhood or in their work place. What was his point? To teach his readers how seeing and noticing nature can be therapeutic. The next day, I came out of my house and started noticing the trees next to our house. I have literally never seen them before. I had no clue that those trees were sitting there. I mean, I am busy. I don’t have time to notice them. But I was wrong. They are beautiful! They all are amazing creations of God. And as the author said, I found it to be therapeutic just looking at the trees and the differences each tree had to one another. (“Anxious for Nothing” by Max Lucado – was the book for anybody who is interested to read, the book is based on Philippians 4:4-7)

But lately other than looking and appreciating the trees, stars and moon, I find it intriguing to read and notice how God created a woman.

Let’s look at what the Bible says when Adam and Eve were created,

“Then the Lord God formed man of dust from the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living being. . . So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; then He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh at that place. The Lord God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man.” Genesis 3:7, 21-22NASB

Notice the word “formed” in verse 7. In the original Hebrew word, “form” is the word they use to make simple things like a cup or a chair, their use is simple and straightforward. I mean, what do you do with a cup, right.

But when you read verse 21 & 22 where we read how God created Eve, we find a different verse being use.

Notice: –

“Then the LORD God formed man”

“The LORD God fashioned into a woman the rib”

These two verbs in those two sentences, formed and fashioned, are two different words in Hebrew. “Fashion” is the word they use when they want to make complicated things such as “palace.” I mean what do you do with a palace? Countless things!

What caused these differences?

Well, God made Adam from dust. To make Eve, God first said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18NASB

God said, I will make “a helper suitable for” Adam. That means, God was fashioning Eve meticulously, taking all His time, so that Eve would be “a perfect fit” for the already “formed” Adam, so that she would be “a perfect fit” according to God’s eternal plan and purpose. Adam was not created to be “a suitable” or a perfect fit to anything. A woman is created in a special way, not to say, a better way here; but only to say, Eve was created to be “a suitable helper” to the already created Adam.

Because of their order of creation, a man is the leader in his home and a man leads in a church, not a woman (1Timothy 2). This doesn’t mean that a woman is a second citizen. Not at all! It means, because of their unique creation and order of creation, man and woman have unique and different places and roles in the home (marriage) and church, both roles are beautiful and right in their own places.

“A suitable helper,” by the way, means a creation of God who makes a man’s life beautiful and enjoyable, and some translate the original Hebrew words “suitable helper” as “a warrior partner who stands next to the man.”

I mean, hello!

This creation of God, a woman, is very complicated like building a palace; it wasn’t like building a chair or a cup. In short, her wiring is different from a man. A woman is the one who gets pregnant and nurse her baby, not a man. I mean, how can you switch these roles? You can’t! This is permanent, it is here to stay as long as human race exist on this planet, even though every “modernized generation” tries to switch their roles.

A woman is, for example, by her creation, is a nurturer. She has a special and strong bond with her child that no one can break. Who made her to be like this? God, her Creator.

However this same unique creation and wiring made a woman “a weaker vessel” than her counterpart, the man. She is more emotionally wired than the man. This same wiring made a woman to be delicate and fragile. She is created to be “a suitable helper” to her man (not all men but to her husband), and her man shields and protects her.

That is why Peter writes like this to husbands:

“You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.” 1 Peter 3:7NASB

Peter is not saying to husbands, “Too bad! You have a mentally retarded partner! She is your cross! Bear her so you get to heaven!”

No! That is not what Peter is saying. Peter is saying, “Look, God created your wife in a way to make her a perfect fit to you and to make her a nurturing and caring partner to the human beings you two bring to this world. This same nature makes her weaker than you. So what you need is understanding this truth of God when you live with her.”

Woman’s unique wiring made her to enjoy and sometimes to be carried away by what she hears, feels, sees and touches. So, her man will protect her (Adam failed Eve in this sense in the Eden Garden; but not to say that Eve was not responsible for her own sin. She is!)

So, the Bible puts a husband’s role in his wife’s life like this:

“For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.” Ephesians 5:23ESV

Did you see that?

As Christ is to the church, so is the husband to his wife. As Christ is the head of the church and the Savior of the church, the husband is the head of his wife and “the savior” or his wife. A man whose body is the temple of the Holy Spirit protects and shields his wife from many deceiving and dangerous things, such as false teachings which often appeal to the emotion of their hearers, not the mind. Sound doctrine, sound biblical teaching, often appeals to its hearers’ mind and intellect.

So, when a single woman looks for a husband, she is actually looking for “a savior” – this is not implying “the Savior from sin, Satan and hell.” Jesus is the only Savior there is for human beings! No one else!

A woman knows this truth of God only if she reads/studies the word of God. If not, she follows her sight, feelings and emotion to pick a man as a husband, or her carnal mind that thinks according to this world: “Does he have money? Is he a good looking guy? Does he add any value to my status? Can I get pregnant from him?” If not, she moves to the next candidate.

A man may have lots of money, may be handsome and can make a woman pregnant but this same man cannot be “a savior” of his wife unless Jesus Christ is the Lord of his life, he himself is filled in the word of God.

A woman finds a man who is sold out for Christ only when her mind keeps renewed in the word of God as she study the word and keeps an intimate relationship with the Holy Spirit through prayers.

Aren’t you happy that the Bible is not the most expensive or rare thing to find?

Jesus stood and cried out to His hearers,

“If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink. He who believes in Me, as the Scripture said, ‘From his innermost being will flow rivers of living water.’” John 7:37-38NASB

Reading/studying the word of God and applying God’s word into our lives is like “drinking,” or “believing” in Christ. This means, it is not a hard thing for a woman to come to Christ and save her life. She just has to ask herself, “Am I thirsty and does nothing seem to quench my thirst in this life?” If her answer is “Yes,” here is what she needs to do next: Pick up the word of God and read/study it. The word of God is the Bread of life that came from heaven; the word of God is the fountain of life that quenches any thirst from our lives.

Jesus said, “I am the bread of life; he who comes to Me will not hunger, and he who believes in Me will never thirst.” John 6:35NASB Amen! ///