A4P Guest: I am 23 years old. I go to a church where most of my high school and college friends go to. I had a crush on this guy that I went to high school and college with and now we both are graduating this year. And I, indirectly, let him know of my feeling about him and he directly said, “Now is the time for me to focus on my finals. Then after graduation, try to get a good paying job. After I find a good job, I will think about dating and all that stuff.” I believed him when he said d that to me but within a month or so I began seeing him with this girl I know and I have no doubt that they are dating. The thing I really want to ask him why he lied to me and tell him directly that I have a feeling for him but I’m sacred. Do you think it is a good idea?

A4P: No, I don’t think it is a good idea.

A4P Guest: Why?

A4P: I think the man is a gentleman, he knows how to protect woman’s heart. He nicely told you that he was not interested in you. And now going after him may hurt you because he may directly spell it all out for you.

A4P Guest: But the girl he is seeing now is not his type. I don’t think she is a serious believer.

A4P: Are you saying that you are his type?

A4P Guest: No! But at the same time, I really don’t want to see him drifting away from the Lord because of her.

A4P: So the solution you’re presenting to save him from drifting away is another girl friend for him, and that girl friend is you?

A4P Guest: Not like that but as a sister in Christ, I care for him.

A4P: Pray for him and leave the rest to God.

A4P Guest: I did that but the more I prayed for him, the more I began to think about him. So I stopped praying for him.

A4P: So what is your question then?

A4P Guest: I still want to tell him that I love him.

A4P: I think I already answered that particular question, didn’t I?

A4P Guest: I guess you did but I still want to take the risk of being rejected because I don’t think he knows how much I care for him.

A4P: You asked me advice, I gave you the best advice I could think of. The decision as to what to do next belongs to you, not to me. ///