A4P Guest: I read what you posted a couple days ago and I wish I read that post few years ago. I too lived with a man that I am not married to. We both consider ourselves born again Christians. But I wonder what we do in life matches our confession. We were attracted to each other so much that we both convinced ourselves not to wait to get married and we started to live together, promising that we would get married soon. Now we have a one-year old child. I am in the middle of a mess. I wish I didn’t do this. I was a virgin when I moved with him and I thought I was doing the right thing. Well, my heart was telling me that I was not married to him. What do I need to do now?

A4P: What are you willing to do and for what reason?

A4P Guest: I know I already messed up my life. I am only 28 years old. Do I need to leave him or marry him? Missy, I want to live for the glory of God. I want to honor God in my marriage but I know I don’t have one now.

A4P: I don’t think it is wise for you to divorce him now. You have a son and you’ve been with him. So, I think getting married will be the first right step to take. Then after that, taking a marriage class will be great so you learn how to keep your marriage bed pure.

A4P Guest: The problem is, he wants to go back to Ethiopia and marry his “cousin” and bring her here. Then he will divorce her and he said, “After that we will get married.” ///

P. S. One short example of what is going in many people’s lives. My friends, how can we lead our lives like pagans and seek to receive blessings from God? Yes, we immigrants do/did anything and everything to escape poverty but do we trash our “yet-to-be-marriages” too? Do we disregard God and His laws for this material world? Don’t we worry about our kids’ future and our future? Or, do we think that God cares no more about sin, for which He sacrificed His Son Jesus Christ? Oh, LORD, forgive us! The Bible says, “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” Hebrews 13:4 NASB