A4P Guest: I’m 28 years old and I got married a year ago. My husband is a nice person. I decided to marry him because I thought I was attracted to him but to my nightmare, I now realized that I was only attracted to his spiritual life, not to him. He used to tell me about God, the word of God and what God had done in and through him when we were dating. It was my joy to see him on stage. He is a solo singer and he also leads worship. He is loved and adored by everybody in our church. When he leads worship, Missy, the whole congregation gets lost in the worship. I was very excited when he asked me out because he was the dream man of many of my single friends and mine too. I now come to know that I am in love with the man on stage, not off the stage. I don’t know if you understand what I am saying. I still love to see him on stage, leading worship and everything but other than that, I am totally not attracted to him, especially sexually. Whenever he approaches me to kiss me and everything, I get dis – – – because there is nothing in him that draws me close to him. No chemistry! Every interaction with him feels like chores. And on the other hand, he doesn’t have that much spiritual life outside the church. He doesn’t pray that much. I thought he would help me to grow in the Lord. I am now the one to remind him to pray. I feel stuck!!!! What do I need to do? Continue reading I feel Stuck!→
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A4P Guest: Missy, I hope I’m not losing my mind here. So my “man” whom I am thinking of marrying soon just told me that he doesn’t believe in giving money to the church. Now I am having a second thought to marry him?
A4P: Does he believe in going to church and receiving spiritual benefit from the church?
When I recently talked to a young married man who was struggling with porn and extramarital relationships, I struggled hard to help him see the root cause of his problem.
He keeps saying, “No, Missy, you don’t understand. You see, here in Europe, it is not like America. I know, in America, you guys at least hear the word of God in your local radio and TV stations. We don’t! They throw on our face all kinds of sexual stuff all day long. Young and beautiful women throw themselves on you, begging you – – -. You know what I mean? You don’t understand! And on top of that, my wife demands a lot from me. She nags me all day long so I spend time with her and our son. I have two jobs. I have no time to do that.” Continue reading The Eden Garden Won’t Edify You→
Let’s assume for a moment that you’re in the Sahara Desert, looking for a drop of water. Then all of a sudden, a man appears with a coca cola can and hands it to you.
You finish the whole can in a second and look up hoping that he would give you another one. Laughing at you hysterically, he gives you another can. Continue reading You’re Thirsty Doesn’t Mean→