Do Not Be An Enabler

A4P Guest: “Whenever my wife and I have a conflict, my wife sleeps on the sofa in the living room.”

A4P: When did she start doing that?

A4P Guest: From day one of our marriage. We’re now married for ten years and that is how she’s always been reacting to conflicts.

A4P: Why did you let her do that for ten years and what makes you think that she can change her ten year-old habit within a two-hour counseling session?

Take home message:  Don’t be an “enabler” of a wrong or bad habit of others. Make it a big deal the first time you see it so that it won’t continue happening. You make it a big deal because it is a big deal. ///