A4P Guest: I was seeing this guy I love very much! But because of his background and bad childhood, he is not faithful. I am not saying, he is stealing or anything but he tends to cheat on me on social media, something like that. Thinking that it would help him to stop that, I slept with him. I was a virgin. But that didn’t stop him. I asked him to seek help for the things that made him do all those kinds of things but he did not want. You see, his dad was an alcoholic who always beat his mom and physically abused him. My sisters and friends hardly understand him and his situations but I totally understand him and my heart bleeds for him every time I think about him. Anyways, to make it short, with the advice of my friends and sisters (I have two older sisters), I broke up with him. Just so I wouldn’t see him in church, I stopped going to church. It’s been now five months but I constantly think about him. I love him so much. What do I need to do?

A4P: Sweetheart, I don’t think his background is hurting him as much as you hurt him. I think you may have a background that made you think and reason the way you do here. He doesn’t need help because he is not seeking it. Who actually needs help here is you.

Are you the 2nd “Mother Theresa?” And if you are, to save him from his misery, you don’t sleep with him again; rather you hand him over to men who hold him responsible and accountable for his acts and behaviors.

After all, all of us have one or more than one “not-so-good” backgrounds but we can say no for our backgrounds to mark and tint our future bright lives.

And I am sure the guy is not just hanging out on social media. He did worse things but here you are covering up for him. Do you call this love?

A4P Guest: You’re right. I didn’t tell you everything because I didn’t want to expose him because the Bible says, “Love covers a multitude of sins?”

A4P: Sure it does but the same Bible also says, “God is love.” And this love of God covered the multitude of our sins but God’s love never take part in our sin or try to save us from our sin by offering a better “sin.” Do you see how you want to dive back into the sinful life you left behind and try to call that “love?”

Precious, it is not called love! It is called LUST. And lust cannot be appeased or quenched by giving in to its demands. Killing it is the only way to deal with lust. And by His great mercy and grace, God has given you sisters and friends who fight for you. Having them on your side as a support system, keep marching away from this guy and toward knowing and understanding the heart of God in your “womanhood,” the thing, it seems, you have absolutely no respect for.

Please listen to me: Yes, with love cover the multitudes of this guy’s sins he has committed against you; but with the same love, run away from him, praying that the mercy and grace of God will find him too.

Remember, loving God is expressed by hating what God hates, i. e. sin.

And don’t ever think that you can save the guy by you going after him. You are a mere human being, not a savior. There is only One Savior given for a human race to be saved in, His name is Jesus Christ:

“Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved.” Acts 4:12 NIV ///