A4P Guest: I’ve been seeing this man for the last 13 months and he proposed to me last month and gave me an expensive diamond ring. We both are Christians and we were planning to get married next summer. Two weeks ago, I found one text message in his phone from a woman. From her message, I could tell that he was sleeping with her the night before I found the message. When I confronted him, he said, “I am not in love with her. I went to her because you said no to sex.” Now I feel like I need to call her and tell her that he is engaged to be married with me. Do you think she will leave my man alone?”

A4P: Hold on a second and let me read this question again. Maybe I’m reading it backward.

Oh, Precious, do you know what you are doing to your life? Do you see what is going on in your life?

You’ve definitely been blinded by the idea of getting married.

Sister, God is stepping in your life to show you that your decision to get married with this man is wrong. God is saying that disaster is waiting for you if you continue in this path.

The man has no character and integrity. He thinks that he would die unless he does sex. He has different moral values than yours. What are you going to do if this happens in your future marriage and he says to you, “I didn’t sleep with this woman because I love her but because you are not able to do sex being eight months pregnant?” What are you going to do? Call the woman and ask her permission for you to sleep with your man?

Leave the woman alone. That is her life and decision. You are called to take care of your life, not somebody else’s life. Run your own life, not somebody else’s life.

The ball is in your court, why do you want to send it to another woman who has no role in your life? It is your game, my dear! Play it well! Send the man out of your life!

Sell the proposal ring and buy something beautiful for yourself! Run away from him.

BTW, he is not engaged to you; only you were engaged to him! You are free my dear to go now before it is too late. ///