The most life threatening environment for a man to live in is a house where the presence of a mean-spirited wife is felt everywhere.

First he fights, and he finds out that he has little or zero chance to win, then he withdraws (tends to watch soccer or football a lot or becomes a politician and/or a philosopher). Then he checks himself out from his kids’ life and at last he desires only one thing; and that is to die.

Here is the dictionary definition of “mean”: offensive, selfish, or unaccommodating; nasty; malicious. And a wife who is mean spirited can destroy her husband’s life.

That is why the Bible says, “A quarrelsome wife is like the dripping of a leaky roof in a rainstorm;” (Proverbs 27:15)

Germans (or I will say, Nazi) used to punish their war prisoners by leaving them in the room where the roof leaks. Or they put them in the room where the tap water drips. They did that to kill the prisoners in the most heinous and tortures way possible.

When these prisoners live in that room day after day, day after day, first, they start hallucinating, then, they become crazy. After that they will kill themselves or they will die of complication from their mental confusion.

The Word of God says, a man who lives with a quarrelsome wife, a mean-spirited wife, dies as if he was living in a room where the roof leaks, where dripping of water can be heard, constantly. Wow, scary! Isn’t it?

This is then the message to a wife who may be trying to change her husband by being mean; or to a wife who is mean-spirited and keeps on saying “This is the way I’m. I can’t change myself.”

If “the way you are” is hurting your marriage and kids, and your relationships with others, “the way you are” is wrong and it needs to go.

“I am not mean; I just scream when I get mad” or, “If he stops making me mad, I will stop being mean” can’t be good enough reasons to continue to live in meanness.

And remember, meanness has never been one of the fruits of the Holy Spirit. Just because we go to church and call Jesus’ name, our meanness cannot be “sanctified” enough to be considered as the fruit of the Holy Spirit.

If you are a single man reading this and being scared of “her”, you are ready to find a wife for yourself. If you understand this and are scared for your own future married life, you are at the right place to look for a wife. Your decision now won’t be influenced or biased by what you see from the outside but the inside where characters and attitudes hide. ///