Marriage is not an easy thing. Two sinners are living under the same roof! Hello! What do you expect the result will be?
Yes, chaos squared!
Paul advised those people he was trying to mentor in Christ to choose celibacy over marriage and he presented his reason in a short statement:
“But those who marry will have trouble in this life, and I want you to be free from trouble.” 1 Corinthians 7:28 NCV
Yep! If you are single, you may run to get married. I mean, nothing wrong with that but it is good for you to know that many life troubles are in store for you in your future marriage and you have to prepare yourself for that.
How?
How else but by reading and studying the word of God!
You see, if you know the word of God, you will know what to do or what not to do when you face trouble in your marriage. If you don’t, you always make your own ways to go out of life troubles. Guess where those “ways” will lead you? Always to death!
The Bible says,
“There is a way which seems right to a man,
But its end is the way of death.” Proverbs 14:12 NASB
For example, if you are a woman and married to a man and find out that your husband is cheating on you, you first pray. Then you go to those mentally and spiritually matured people/marriage counselors who can talk to you and your husband.
Let’s say, your husband resists to even go for counseling with you but you continue going for counseling to know the right steps you need to take.
While you are in the middle of this process, do you start chatting with another man, thinking that your marriage is ending, that there is no hope for your marriage and you may as well find another man to replace your husband?
Do you start flirting with another man on Facebook? Do you look for your high school sweetheart on social media so he can pacify your pain?
Do you say to yourself, “Well, my husband is leaving me for another woman? So, I may as well find myself another man to marry me?”
But your marital covenant is still standing. And your covenant is firs with God and then with your husband. Legally and spiritually, you are still married.
Are you following your husband’s dangerous path?
Some women in a similar situation say, “But I was not looking for my high school sweetheart on social media. We accidentally found each other. It must be God who helped us to find each other, mainly to comfort me. And he first asked me about my marriage and I told him. Since then, he’s been my only go to person. He’s been comforting me. In the process, we both found ourselves falling in love.”
Divorce is a very stressful and disastrous life event! Marriage is a one-flesh relationship and divorce is splitting this “one-flesh” and making two people out of one. You are that one piece, that hurting and “bleeding” piece.
The one man the Bible encourages you to go to is Christ, not another human being. Another man cannot pacify your pain. The pain of marital conflict as well as divorce is deep.
And while your marital covenant is still standing, how can you go to another man? How could you make one covenant over another covenant?
Is that the way of God?
No, it is not!
This is actually the way you double and triple your pain and hurt yourself even more. You cannot rectify the damage sin has caused you by another sin. Doing so will bring into your life all kinds pains, hurts, even death.
“There is a way which seems right to a man,
But its end is the way of death.” Proverbs 14:12
The Bible says,
“A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband.” 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 NIV
Choose the path of righteousness!
“In the way of righteousness is life,
And in its pathway there is no death.” Proverbs 12:28 NASB ///