Category Archives: Singles

Sexual Purity, Singles

Uh? Christian Dating???

If you are a Christian and you want to know if there is such a thing as “Christian dating”, proper for a Christian, the answer is sure there is. But before I say anything about the typical, honorable “Christian dating”, I have to define what “Christian” means so that the definition itself will be a ground upon which I build my case.

Christian means, a person who lives or thrives to lead a life that brings glory and honor to the name of Jesus, not out of duty and obligation, but out of love. Continue reading Uh? Christian Dating??? →

Marriage, Sexual Purity, Singles

Heading Into A Mess

It is wonderful to see couples tying the knot to be one, never to be two.

As a married person and a teacher in the area of sexual purity, I can’t tell you how I rejoice whenever I see a wedding.

Yes, the Bible says that marriage protects us from being soaked in sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 7). What a joy then to see someone escaping such a “ruthless tyrant” as sexual immorality! Continue reading Heading Into A Mess →

Sexual Purity, Singles, Truth

“Fireworks?”

He was not going to church as regular as he used to. He had good fellowship with some Christian friends but he kind of caught up with busy life and became stranger to them and the things of God.
 
Then little by little, his prayer time turned from one hour to five minutes. He knows that he is a good-looking guy who attracts any woman in his vicinity. At times he blamed his looks for finding himself in bed with a number of women he didn’t even know their names. He swore to God and himself never to have sex with a woman before marriage but he didn’t seem to be able to stick it out.

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Sexual Purity, Singles

Give US Evidence

A4P Guest: Can you give us evidence why masturbation is wrong? When it’s been said that between 95 and 98 percent of young men are engaged in masturbation and the rest lie about it, don’t we add burden of guilt on men when we say masturbation is a sin?

A4P: Before I say anything, let me say this: “Burden of guilt” – guilt feeling, feeling sorrowful about what we do/did is a God-given emotion; it always leads to repentance when its source is the Holy Spirit. Continue reading Give US Evidence →

Sexual Purity, Singles

High Testosterones???

A4P Guest: “I’m a 24-year-old Christian man. I know that sex before marriage is a sin and I don’t want to sin against God but because of my unique sexual nature, I’m sinning against God almost every day with porn and everything. My sexual desire is getting stronger and stronger every day. What should I do to decrease it? It is driving me nuts!”
 
A4P: First, congratulations for having sexual desires, one of the signs of good physical health.

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Sexual Purity, Singles, Truth

Hot or Cold

There is one good saying in Amharic. It goes something like this: Just because you have two legs doesn’t mean that you can climb two trees. (I know, some of you may translate it better but I guess this is the best I can do).

A similar one in English would be: You can’t have your cake and eat it too.

You can have your cake and keep it in the fridge or you can eat your cake and you won’t have cake to keep in the fridge. Both these situations cannot be true at the same time. You have to choose one. Continue reading Hot or Cold →