Have you ever had this kind conversation with a young woman about the man she is dating and thinking of marrying:

You: “How come I don’t see the man you’re dating in church?”

The woman: “He does not like to come to church.”

You: “Why not? He does not believe in God?”

The Woman: Are you saying we who come to church are saints and those who don’t are evil. He believes in God. Does he have to come to church to show his faith?”

You: “No, I don’t mean that; but it is kind of strange for a believer not to come to church.”

The woman: “I don’t see it that way. After all, he is much better than a number of Christian men I dated in church. He does not drink alcohol and all that. He is a fine man. I love him.”

Then you open your mouth to unpack the word of God to her but you realize that she has nowhere to be found to hear what you have to say.

Why do young Christian women decide to go into marriage with unbelievers?

“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers” is not a denominational “motto” but a spiritual command which speaks life into our hearts. (2 Corinthians 6:14)

Not only a command but it is wise advice! Marriage is oneness, where one man and one woman come to be one in all areas of life.

And, if a woman decides to marry an unbeliever, she can’t enjoy all levels of oneness with her husband; the oneness God has for her, spiritual and physical oneness, oneness of the two souls.

How can she be then one with the man whose spirit is dead, not awakened by the spirit of God? She can’t! Physically? Yes, she will become one with her husband (as the Bible says on 1 Corinthians 6) but she can’t have that fulfilling and pleasurable oneness which comes not only from the physical but also from spiritual, mental and emotional oneness.

If you are entertaining the idea of marrying an unbeliever, please stop!

The man you are attracted to may come to church with you and sing Gospel songs but you know in your heart that he is not in Christ. You know for sure that he is not a believer in Christ Jesus!

Oh, please, stop!

For a Christian, marriage is not a goal of life but to live for Christ.

If so, it will be closer to impossible for you to live for Christ after you marry an unbeliever! So, you rather die as a single person than be married and die without living for the glory of Christ!

Forget about those life testimonies you heard about others, how the wife decided to marry an unbelieving man and how God had touched his heart after 15 years of prayer and fasting! We thank God for them but you can’t follow their examples, thinking that it will also happen to you. How can you bargain your life like that? What if it doesn’t happen to you? Think about it! The safest thing for you, ALWAYS, is to follow the Word of God and you shall never be put to shame! ///