Marriage, Sexual Purity, Truth

It Feels Right… But Is It?

The Attraction of Divorce – Part 1

“I am excited to be back” does not fully express what I am feeling right now—and I am not just saying that for the sake of saying it. I am truly thrilled to be back on the Appeal for Purity platforms to do what I love most: to share the good news with all—that a Savior has been given to humanity, and His name is Jesus Christ.

I am also here to share with you what I know to be true about this life according to the Word of God—mainly focusing on purity (mental, emotional, physical, and sexual purity) and marriage between one man and one woman.

What a wonderful opportunity this is for me today, and I thank God for it.

Thank you, my friends, for patiently waiting for my return while praying for me. I have prayed for you as well. That is one of the reasons I am here today—because I genuinely care about you.

Well, as usual, let me quickly get back to the main matter.

🔹 Why Does Divorce Feel Right?

Today, Lord willing, I begin a very important teaching series, and I hope and pray that you will stay with me until the end, as you always do.

Let me ask you something very honestly:

Why does divorce sometimes feel… right?

Not only right—but at times it feels easy, justified, even necessary, as if it is the only way to find relief.

But what if what feels right is actually a carefully crafted lie?

A lie that promises peace… but slowly destroys what God intends to restore.

🔹 What This Series Is About

In this series, we are going to expose what I call “the attraction of divorce.”

Not just the act of divorce—but the thinking, the imagination, and the deception behind it.

Because before divorce ever becomes a decision… it first becomes a belief problem.

However, it is important to clarify something:

I am not saying, “Stay married at all costs.”

Scripture gives legitimate grounds for divorce, such as sexual immorality and abandonment (Matthew 19:1–9; 1 Corinthians 7:12–16). My focus in this series is not those cases.

My focus is deception.

🔹 How Marriages Break Down

Most people do not pursue divorce because they want destruction. They pursue it because they believe it will bring relief.

Relief from:

  • stress
  • tension
  • disappointment
  • emotional exhaustion

Most marriages do not explode.

They slowly fill with pressure until something small finally exposes what has been building for a long time.

Tension builds when:

  • small issues are ignored
  • sin is tolerated
  • truth is neglected
  • and the heart slowly drifts

And when that happens, the door is opened wide for lies.

🔹 This Is Not a New Problem

This pattern is as old as the Garden of Eden.

In Genesis 3, the serpent did not say, “Rebel against God.”

He asked:
“Did God actually say…?”

That question shifted Eve’s attention away from what God had given—and toward what God had restricted.

God said:
“You may eat of every tree…”

The serpent focused on:
“What you cannot have.”

And Eve followed that shift.

She downplayed what was allowed and emphasized what was forbidden.

Then she added to God’s Word.

And then the serpent directly contradicted God:

“You will not surely die.”

🔹 The Shift That Changed Everything

Genesis 3:6 says:

“So when the woman saw…”

That “so” is critical.

It means:
After hearing the lie—she looked again.

But nothing had changed in the tree.

What changed was her perspective.

She was now seeing through the lens of deception.

What she believed shaped what she saw.

And what she saw shaped what she chose.

🔹 The Same Lie Today

The same voice speaks today in marriages:

  • “You deserve better.”
  • “This is not what you signed up for.”
  • “You married the wrong person.”
  • “There is a better life waiting for you.”
  • “There is someone who will finally make you happy.”

When these thoughts are entertained, they begin to erode what God has established.

🔹 The Battle of the Mind

Scripture tells us:

“Whatever is true… think about these things.” (Philippians 4:8)

Why?

Because:

“Be careful what you think, because your thoughts run your life.” (Proverbs 4:23)

Once the mind is occupied with lies, imagination begins to grow.

  • “If I leave, I will have peace.”
  • “If I leave, I will be understood.”
  • “If I leave, I will finally become happy.”

But here is the problem:

You are not comparing reality with reality.

You are comparing your real marriage with an imagined life that has never been tested.

🔹 What Comes Next

That imagined picture feels real.

But it is not.

And that is where the danger begins. ///

(continued next time)