A4P Guest: I read your blog yesterday about encouraging single girls to marry a man who loves Christ more than he loves the girl he is dating. Well, I thought I found that man and married him three years ago. All the spiritual things I thought he had were nothing but fake. I now don’t even think that he is a believer in Christ anymore. He is addicted to all sorts of Internet filthy stuff and he has no plan to deal with it. As he told me, he became addicted to this thing ten years ago. Had I known about this while we were dating, I wouldn’t have married him but there was no way for me to know that he was addicted while we were dating. And he didn’t tell me even if I shared with him everything about me.
A4P: So, tell me how you came to know him and what had made you believe that he was in love with Christ more than he was in love with you?
A4P Guest: I met him in my church. I thought he was very spiritual because he used to talk about God 24/7 and if the church door opened for whatever reason, he was there. He missed no church program. He also used to preach in some church programs. I used to be blessed by every word he uttered. He encouraged me to grow in Christ and used to text me spiritual messages almost everyday.
The truth of the matter is: no one can get sexual fulfillment by attending his/her sexual urges outside the confinement of marriage that includes God. People, who seek sexual fulfillment outside the will of God, become slaves to all their sexual instincts. They can’t say “No” to any of their urges. Hunger and thirst for sexual fulfillment takes over their lives and makes them slaves. They get too obsessed as to how they meet their next sexual urges. They browse around from one website to another; from one social media to another with hopelessness and despair. They tend to say, “But I have more sexual desire than any normal person.”
But the truth is, most often than not, they are normal people with normal sexual desire; the difference is, they throw themselves in “the Sarah Desert” as they seek fulfillment without the will of God. They do all sorts of things, but they get nothing out of it.
I didn’t plan to upload this video but one father made my day this morning as he called and said to me: “Missy, my wife and I are listening to you; we are parents of little kids and we are learning a lot from your mistakes and challenges. So, keep it up!” Thank you my dear brother!
Yeah, so, I decided to upload this clip for them and for those who may find something important in it.
It is the story of our son, Abel Banko. He is 17 now and he gave me permission to share it with everyone who may benefit from story. He is such a gentle man, isn’t he!
John Angell James (the Puritan – 1785 – 1859) – There was one particular pastor who had been unfaithful to his wife, children and the church and later he was caught red-handed. Everybody in the church and in town heard the news. So, during that time, one of John Angell James’ students asked:
“Can this pastor be restored to his ministry after he has sinned grievously?”
John Angell James replied, “When his repentance is as notorious as his transgression was, then that pastor is ready to be restored to ministry.”
When our repentance is as notorious as our transgression, total healing comes not only to us but also to the whole body of Christ. ///
I’m so thankful for Christian apologists such as Ravi Zacharias! I can just sit and listen to Ravi the whole day without moving one finger.
From the zillion things I love about Ravi, the one thing I adore the most is this: His respectful approach to questions which ought to sound to him “- – -” (given what he knows) – hmm! How can he do that? Grace! His anointing! The Spirit of God, the Word of God he is filled in! What else? Phenomenal!
Have you ever heard him speak about sexual purity? You have to! That means, you have to take sometimes, if you haven’t already, and go through his Facebook page and website and everything he has online. Incredible! ///
A4P Guest: My husband doesn’t pursue me for intimacy. I told him about Viagra but he is not willing to go to see his doctor. I tried to seek counseling from our church ministers but the thing is our church ministers blame me for everything, so I don’t want to go to them. What do I need to do for my husband to pursue me again for intimacy? He is not interested in sex anymore.
A4P: What do you mean your church ministers blame you for everything? Are they saying that you are the reason for your husband’s loss of interest for intimacy?
A4P Guest: Yes! They always say that I control and dominate my husband.
A4P Guest: “I get irritated when I hear you speak about sex. Sex is not something God cares about. And in the Bible, God kept the topic of sex as a taboo and it has to stay like that. Why are you talking about sex? Why don’t you talk about Jesus only?”
A4P: Very, very important questions; but before I address your questions, let me say this regarding two statements you made at the beginning of your message:
