A4P Guest: “I’m a 34-year-old single man. I strive to be sexually pure. I have male friends with whom I pray and discuss personal issues, including our sexual struggles. But I have a question for you. I’ve been praying for God to give me a wife but God is not answering my prayer. I’m not in any addiction or sinful lifestyle. Why do you think that God is not answering my prayer?”
A4P: Before I say anything, let me say this: Kudos to you, my dear brother, for keeping yourself away from a sexually immoral lifestyle!
A4P Guest: “I’m sixteen years old. I don’t have a girlfriend and I don’t think it is the right time for me to have one. But I have this strong sexual desire which drives me nuts. It makes me do things I don’t want to do. I believe in God and I am active in my church. I also have good friends I can talk to and all of them have similar struggles. My whole family members are believers. I know nothing about this world. I grew up in the church, I love God and the people of God, and I know God has a purpose and plan for my life. But these days, I doubt the goodness of God in my life. Continue reading “Hold On To My Sexual Desire”→
A4P Guest: “After reading some of your articles, I got convicted that I’d been flirting with men around me. I’m one of the worship leaders in my church. I used to like to wear tight pants and/or short dresses. I was enjoying the attention the men were giving me. A couple weeks ago, I decided to buy a dress which is neither tight nor short but still cute. I wore it to the next church program. I was actually leading the worship that day. Continue reading “I’d been flirting with men”→
“How far is too far?” is one of the most famous questions I receive after I give a class or seminar on sexual purity.
The question itself makes me cringe a bit because it sounds like this: “What kind of sin can God tolerate?” or “Which sin can I do without severing my fellowship with the Holy Spirit?”
First, let me define the word masturbation. From all the “colorful” dictionary definitions given to the word masturbation, I chose one word, i.e. self-gratification, which helps me make my point easy and clear.
In most study results, from Christian and secular research works, it’s known that closer to 95 to 97% of young boys go through a stage where they touch and explore their private part and in the process find a good sensation.
This experience, which is one of the developmental stages called “puberty”, may occur between 9 and 12 years of age. I don’t think that this innocent act of exploring and finding good sensation deserves a punishment. Locking a nine year old boy in his bedroom for the whole day because he was found exploring and playing with his body won’t result in anything except putting the boy in a dangerous emotional distress that may encourage (or even force) him to explore more to find what his parents are afraid of. Continue reading Is Masturbation a Sin?→
It is a natural human tendency to want to fight and win. Our whole body is designed to fight to save itself from any danger. For example, if somebody throws something at us, our eyes blink instinctively to save themselves. If we are faced with a furious tiger that is charging at us, to our surprise, we find out that we are, after all, a marathon runner.
I’m telling you, I love technology. There is no way for me to travel to Ethiopia right now but guess what? Technology allowed me to take part in one amazing graduation party in Addis Ababa and I will tell you all about this party.
So, one church in Addis Ababa, known as the Unique 7000 Church, bought my book, “Beyond the Fairy Tale” a few months ago and launched the CG-STAT program (Chosen Girls for Such a Time As This). The leaders decided to include more teaching materials other than my book so that they would be able to add the young men of their church into the program.Continue reading This morning, I was in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia→
Did you hear that Almaze Ayana just set the world record in the women’s 10,000 meters at Rio 2016 Olympics, winning gold and beating the 23 year old record by 14 seconds? Fantastic news!
Congratulations to her, her family and friends and to all of us Ethiopians! It feels really good.
Why does this news feel good to me? Duh! I’m from Ethiopia! And I don’t only feel good when I hear good news like this one, but I feel really down when I hear not so good news about Ethiopians, too.
It wouldn’t be fair to give dating principles for girls and forget about young men. I mean, I have two young men here in my house. So, here are the five basic dating principles I share with them: Continue reading →
