A4P Guest: I have a question. Is phone -sex recommended for Christian husband and wife?
A4P: What is “phone-sex?” The phrase itself is counterintuitive and I will tell you why.
Sex is the physical, spiritual, mental and emotional union and oneness of a husband and a wife. This union includes the presence of God who is the only source of sexual pleasure (assuming that both of them are the temples of the Holy Spirit). In view of these two points (and more), the word “phone-sex” is counterintuitive.
A phone or telephone is “an apparatus, system, or process for transmission of sound or speech to a distant point, especially by an electric device.” It is a tool we use to communicate via sound and/or filmed or photographed call (Face-Time). So, when you say, phone-sex, the phrase itself deviates from the actual sexual intimacy God created for us.
Phone-sex is nothing but a way of burning in lust (just like viewing porn); it only makes you orgasmic but leaves you with more hunger and thirst for sex (again just like viewing porn and doing masturbation). There is no lasting pleasure, joy, fulfillment and contentment in it only shame, guilt, hunger and thirst for sexual release, love, closeness and intimacy. Since it doesn’t include God, there is no blessing in it, only curse which mainly kills true love and passion for one another as it abnormally elevates their sexual desires. Doing so is against the original purpose of God for marriage.
Anything that rejects God and His purpose brings to life nothing but curse. Stay away from it. You ask this question probably because you and your wife live in different places. But the Bible never ever recommends for the couple to live in different places. If you read 1 Corinthians 7, it actually commands married couples to never separate physically for any reason other than fasting and prayer (exception for soldiers). Trying to do sex through electrical wire is like trying to play with wildfire to get pleasure from it. Don’t play with wildfire. It burns you because wildfire is not a respecter of a person.
So the short answer for your short question is: No, phone-sex is not recommended for Christian married couples.
What is recommended for them is for them to live together and have sex in a real life until death do them part. Will it cost them to live together? You beat it will. Why? Because there is no following Christ without a cost. ///
P. S. This question was posted this morning on the comment box of one of my videos I uploaded a couple days ago.