A4P Guest: My wife tends to hold grudges for years. It doesn’t matter if I say, “I am sorry.” Every opportunity she gets, she brings my past mistakes. I am very tired of that. We used to pray together but we don’t now anymore because again she has a problem with forgiveness. What do you advise me to do?

A4P: Hmm! Tell me a little bit about your last conflict with your wife. What was it all about? And how long ago was that?

A4P Guest: Sure! It was like three weeks ago. I accidentally stumbled on one inappropriate website and I was looking at it. I work from home since the pandemic shut down. And my wife came to my office and she found me looking some motion pictures. She was very furious. She didn’t even give me a chance to explain. Knowing that nothing would help, I fell on my face on the ground and cried asking her to forgive me.

A4P: Crying? Why did you cry?

A4P Guest: As I told you, my wife is very stubborn. So, I don’t want her to ignore me days. And we have two little kids and I don’t want them to witness that.

A4P: I am a bit confused. So, you cried for your kids or you cried so your wife would stop being stubborn?

A4P Guest: Probably both.

A4P: I don’t get it but let me ask you this. So, is this incident the first time that ever happened in your marriage?

A4P Guest: No. It is the second time.

A4P: Let me guess. Your wife accidentally caught you and you cried?

A4P Guest: Yes! I wish you knew my wife. Her heart is like a stone.

A4P: What about your heart?

A4P Guest: What do you mean?

A4P: You said, your wife’s heart is like a stone, and I was wondering how to describe your heart like.

A4P Guest: I’ve never thought about that but I am not stubborn like her. That is for sure.

A4P: Can you tell me another different incident that you and your wife flight over?

A4P Guest: My wife normally doesn’t want me to be on my phone. So she always fights with me about that and ignores me for three or four days. This is my life.

A4P: Do you always cry when you ask your wife to forgive you?

A4P Guest: Unless I cry, she doesn’t take me seriously.

A4P: Hmm! And you cry to cover up the real thing or to shut her mouth.

A4P Guest: No! Why would I do that?

A4P: You tell me.

A4P Guest: I told you. Unless I cry, she doesn’t pay attention to me. And to tell you the truth, I only cry when I am serious, like, dead serious.

A4P: I’m totally lost here. Let me try something else here. Tell me, what is your wife asking you to stop?

A4P Guest: She is asking me to put my phone away when I come home.

A4P: And?

A4P Guest: I only use my phone to watch news and something like that. I told her that.

A4P: In my opinion, your wife is not stubborn and I don’t think she has a problem with forgiveness. What she has is a husband who does not take her seriously. Until you start taking her seriously, she won’t stop making your life miserable.

By the way, how many times a week do you accidentally view that website? ///