The toughest and busiest day just passed! It was tough and busy day because I was trying to do five things at the same time. Anyways, I survived it! Praise the LORD!

So, when I found a minute to sit, I read some of the comments which were dropped off on the post titled “Pleading for Physical Abuse to Continue.”

Reading the comments, I said, “Huh?” once or twice. And I sat down to write this as “my last threading point”.

I said “last” because we have a lot of issues to bring up on this page. We can’t afford to be stuck on one topic. Let’s agree to disagree and move on to the next point as adults.

First thing first: When we want to agree or disagree with “the issue” which is discussed, staying and focusing only on the issue, without attacking the person who brought up the topic, makes us civilized and adult people. So, the issue here is what to do when a woman gets beaten up by her man.

Second, there is NO reason for a woman to be beaten up by her husband. Period!

If the man is physically, mentally and emotionally abused and over powered by his wife, he can walk out of the marriage; which is something some men respectfully did and I respect them very much so because REAL MEN DON’T PUT THEIR HANDS ON A WOMAN NO MATTER WHAT!

Listen what the Bible says, “The prudent see danger and take refuge,
but the simple keep going and pay the penalty.” Proverbs 22:3

Most men who beat their wives are disciplined guys outside their home, such as at their work place, because they know that they can’t “touch” anybody unless they want to end up in jail. If their boss insults and abuses them verbally and hurts them mentally and emotionally, they quit the job because they know that, that is the only thing they can do to not end up in jail. Why do they think that they can beat up their wives, not their annoying boss? I have no idea!

Third, there is no Bible verse that says, “Die and save your marriage” because marriage is an earthly covenantal relationship; which only lives when the two involved party live.

Fourth, I don’t recommend 911 as “a marriage conflict solution” but as an emergency solution to stop a physical abuser from harming (or killing) his wife and children.

Fifth, we are called to die for the Gospel, like what American missionaries are doing right now, as we speak, in the most dangerous places like Iraq and Afghanistan; we are not called to die at the hands of “an unlawful man” who lives next to us. Listen what the Bible says,

“For rulers hold no terror for those who do right, but for those who do wrong. Do you want to be free from fear of the one in authority? Then do what is right and you will be commended.  For the one in authority is God’s servant for your good. But if you do wrong, be afraid, for rulers do not bear the sword for no reason. They are God’s servants, agents of wrath to bring punishment on the wrongdoer.” Romans 13:3-4 (Please read the whole chapter)

If all our problems had to be dealt with pastors and ministers, this particular chapter and similar chapters wouldn’t be needed to be part of the Bible. But they are part of the Bible because they are very important.

911 people are not from hell but assigned by God to hold accountable those who are “wrongdoers”.

Sixth; a marriage which is a “constant threat” for the safety of the people who are living under it should be addressed seriously, starting with separation! There is no “dying with a marriage”! Marriage is not the Cross of Christ!

Seven; every authority has a limit as to how far it exercises its power and authority. When the issue gets to a limit, it has to be transferred to the higher authority.

Eight, please take note! If you live in America and happen to counsel a battered woman to stay quietly with her abusive husband after she told you, for example, that he punched her and knocked out one of her teeth, and if she ends up dead on her husband’s hand the next day, my dearest you will be in jail. (I can’t talk about any other countries’ law, because I don’t know.)

Nine, civil and criminal issues have to be deal with according to the law of the land. In America, beating up a person (whether a wife or a boss) is a civil crime and it has to be dealt with the law of the land. Saying “The devil made me do it”, or quoting a Bible verse or commanding the devil to go away won’t address the issue.

Last but not least: If you are a woman/man who is enduring physical, emotional and mental abuse, please seek help! Call the National Domestic Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. There is help out there! If you and/or your kids are in any danger at any point, call 911. ///