You have no idea how excited I am to start this new series!

To be honest, I didn’t originally plan for this topic to become a series—but once I began to study it deeply, I realized that it would be impossible to cover it in one single video.

And what is the topic?

It’s one that, if you hear and apply it, will revolutionize your walk with Christ. And if you are married, you will likely discover that this is the one crucial ingredient that’s been missing—the ingredient that could take your marriage from surviving to thriving.

So what is it?

Forgiveness.

Yes, forgiveness is not just a helpful tip for a happy marriage—it is essential. If it’s already present in your marriage, your home is likely full of peace. But if it’s missing, your marriage may feel more like a battleground. When forgiveness is absent, a marriage becomes a place of silent suffering rather than healing.

This series is focused on Christian marriage, between one man and one woman, and centers on biblical forgiveness.

But before we get into what forgiveness is, let’s first talk about what it is not.

Forgiveness is not just a cultural gesture, a feeling, or a response to pressure. Biblical forgiveness is deeply rooted in theology—in the nature of God and His command to His people. Forgiveness doesn’t mean:

• Trusting your spouse blindly.

• Pretending the offense didn’t hurt.

• Or instantly restoring the relationship without accountability.

Forgiveness does mean:

• Refusing to let bitterness take root.

• Choosing not to seek revenge.

• Releasing the offender from your personal judgment.

• Trusting God to bring justice and healing in His way and time.

Forgiveness says:

“I will not demand repayment. I will not hold onto grudges. I will not let my heart be ruled by bitterness. I trust God to work this out for His glory and my good.”

Now, let me say this clearly:
A Christian is someone who has been forgiven by God through Jesus Christ.
That’s the very foundation of our faith.

We are wretched, sinful people who have received undeserved grace, mercy, and eternal life—not because of our merit, but because of Christ’s sacrifice.

That means the phrase “unforgiving Christian” is an oxymoron. The very least that God expects of us is to forgive those who wrong us. To refuse to forgive is to deny the very mercy we’ve received.

But what if someone professes to be a Christian, yet refuses to forgive?

Well, here’s the truth:
Forgiveness of others is only truly possible for someone who has been born again.

John 1:12–13 says:

“But to all who did receive him [Christ], who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God—who were born, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but of God.”

And 2 Corinthians 5:17 says:

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.”

This new creation includes a new heart, new desires, and new capacity—including the ability to forgive even the deepest wounds.

Christians are branches of the Vine—Jesus Christ. And the life of the Vine flows into the branches. If He is a forgiving Lord, His life in us produces a forgiving heart.

So when a professing believer refuses to forgive, they may be saying one of two things:

1. “I’m not truly saved.”

2. “I’m not living as a new creation.”

And that’s why “unforgiving Christian” simply doesn’t make biblical sense.

This video is just Part 1 of the series. There’s much more to come, Lord willing.
So stay tuned, and please don’t miss the rest. I truly believe it will bless and challenge your heart. ///