Last time, we left off after covering two key points that can help a young woman identify a God-fearing man. Today’s message is a continuation of that conversation.

Of course, this list is by no means exhaustive. Lord willing, we’ll revisit this topic again in the future. For now, let’s briefly review the two points we discussed previously:

1. Be a God-fearing woman yourself.
   It’s unwise for a girl to search for a spiritual man hoping to “learn” how to fear God from him—while she herself is far from being a woman who fears God and His Word.

2. Look for fruits, not flashes.
   A man’s church attendance, connections to well-known pastors, or his presence on the stage (singing or preaching) are not proof of godliness. The true evidence is in the fruit of his life—his consistency, his integrity, and his willingness to stay away from evil.

Now here are three more practical points to consider:

3. Don’t allow yourself to be groomed.
   Some men are skilled with words and know how to spin spiritual conversations to impress you. Be wise. Ask thoughtful questions that bring out the real person behind the spiritual “talk.” Shift the conversation from theology to practical life. For example:

   “How did you choose your major?”
   This sends a clear message—you’re not there to be manipulated emotionally or spiritually. You’re trying to discern if this man is a trustworthy future husband.

4. Don’t let him make you his ‘god.’
   If a man constantly says, “I can’t live without you,” or threatens harm if you break up with him, that’s manipulation, not love. Run. You are not his god, and you cannot carry the weight of being someone’s emotional savior.

5. Remember: There is no perfect man—but there is a Perfect Man.
   That Perfect Man is Jesus Christ. If you want to be wise in love and marriage, start by being united with Christ—know Him deeply and personally. His Spirit in you will guide and protect you from spiritual actors who only appear godly on the outside. ///