“For years, years and years I was addicted to pornography”
“It was my secret that nobody knew and that allowed to grow and it got bad”
“My wife literally said, “I don’t know you anymore. I’m outta here.” And that changed me”
“I literally had to go to rehab for it”
“I did not get help so I could get my wife back. . . I got help because I needed it . . . my wife decided to stay with me because she knew I was repentant; she knew I was going to get help; she knew I was sorry. Let me tell you, IT IS NOT ENOUGH TO JUST ASK FORGIVENESS. It is always necessary to make amends; fix the problem, do whatever you can to fix the problem.” – and Terry said more.
A4P Guest: My boyfriend and I grew up in church and we both had decided never to have sex before marriage; but yesterday we accidentally had sex. What should we do now?
A4P: What does “accidentally” mean?
A4P Guest: You know accident that happens before you know it.
A4P: Well, I ask this question because sex is not a rock you stumble over when you walk on a street. Sex requires many things to be set in place for it to happen; for example, you have to find a place where you guys can be all alone. But let me ask you. So, why did you guys decide to keep sex for marriage in the first place?
A4P Guest: Because Jesus said so.
A4P: Did Jesus say “Save sex for marriage?” Where?
“Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me. Fool me 50 thousand times, you are the weather man.”
Makes you smile and think twice, doesn’t it? Nobody fools you more than once unless you let them, and after you let them fool you multiple times, going around and blaming them for fooling you makes you look even more foolish.
You definitely teach others how to treat you. So, before you blame others for what they did to you, ask yourself this important question:
A4P Guest: “After I read what you posted yesterday, “I thought I loved her but – – -,” I decided to inbox you my question. Before I do that though, let me give you a background story. I’m one of the ministers in our local church. I work more in counseling than preaching. Right now, it’s been two and half months since I’ve been counseling one young man, 27 years old. He came to me seeking help after one girl accused him of making her pregnant. She is three months pregnant now. Then another woman came, saying she is seven months pregnant from him. Then the third one came after a week or so saying the same man was the one who made her pregnant a year ago but she had a miscarriage. These three women want to marry him saying that they were virgins when he convinced them to sleep with them. The young man didn’t deny any of these stories. I sat down with each one of these girls telling them that the man was not ready to marry them; but they didn’t seem to listen to me. Four of these people are our church members. The girls’ age is between 25 and 27. The young man has now a change of heart, I witnessed the change myself; so did other ministers who work with me. He promised to take the responsibility of raising his kids in everything he can. He even wrote a letter stating his promise and sent a copy of that letter to each one of the pregnant girls and to the church. He promised to go above and beyond the child support money he is required to pay. I told him that these three women want to marry him. He just said, “I will do what you tell me to do.” Well, what should I tell him to do? I know I can’t advise him to marry three of them because of what Genesis 2:21-24 says. I don’t think I can apply the law found in Deuteronomy 22:28-29 & Exodus 22:16-17 either. What should I do then?”
