Category Archives: Singles

CG-STAT, Sexual Purity, Singles, Truth

Fool me once

“Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me. Fool me 50 thousand times, you are the weather man.”
 
Makes you smile and think twice, doesn’t it? Nobody fools you more than once unless you let them, and after you let them fool you multiple times, going around and blaming them for fooling you makes you look even more foolish.
 
You definitely teach others how to treat you. So, before you blame others for what they did to you, ask yourself this important question:
 
“Have I taught this person to treat me this way?”

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Love, Marriage, Singles, Truth

My Girl is Younger than me

A4P Guest: Is it wrong for me to marry a girl who is younger than me?
 
A4P: What do you mean? I’m glad you picked a girl who is younger than you. I think that is how it should be, should it not?
 
A4P Guest: I know but the girl I am dating now and deciding to marry is much younger than me.
 
A4P: How much younger?
 
A4P Guest: She is 24 years old.
 
A4P: That is a wonderful age for a girl to get married. Good for her! How old are you?
 
A4P Guest: I’m 41 years old.

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Sexual Purity, Singles, Truth

Phew! This is beyond me!

A4P Guest: “After I read what you posted yesterday, “I thought I loved her but – – -,” I decided to inbox you my question. Before I do that though, let me give you a background story. I’m one of the ministers in our local church. I work more in counseling than preaching. Right now, it’s been two and half months since I’ve been counseling one young man, 27 years old. He came to me seeking help after one girl accused him of making her pregnant. She is three months pregnant now. Then another woman came, saying she is seven months pregnant from him. Then the third one came after a week or so saying the same man was the one who made her pregnant a year ago but she had a miscarriage. These three women want to marry him saying that they were virgins when he convinced them to sleep with them. The young man didn’t deny any of these stories. I sat down with each one of these girls telling them that the man was not ready to marry them; but they didn’t seem to listen to me. Four of these people are our church members. The girls’ age is between 25 and 27. The young man has now a change of heart, I witnessed the change myself; so did other ministers who work with me. He promised to take the responsibility of raising his kids in everything he can. He even wrote a letter stating his promise and sent a copy of that letter to each one of the pregnant girls and to the church. He promised to go above and beyond the child support money he is required to pay. I told him that these three women want to marry him. He just said, “I will do what you tell me to do.” Well, what should I tell him to do? I know I can’t advise him to marry three of them because of what Genesis 2:21-24 says. I don’t think I can apply the law found in Deuteronomy 22:28-29 & Exodus 22:16-17 either. What should I do then?”

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“I thought I loved her but – – -”

A4P Guest: “I’m a 25-year-old man. I am one of the solo singers in my church. I graduated from university with my first degree in electrical engineering last year and I am currently working on my profession. I wanted to start a brand new life this year. The problem is, a year ago; I made the most serious mistake of my life. I slept with one of the girls who sing in our church choir. She is very pretty and loves God like nobody else. The next day, I went to her and asked her forgiveness and we both cried before God. Then I went to one of the ministers in our church and told him the whole story. He counseled both of us and told us to stay away from ministry for three months which we both did. Throughout those three months, I was fasting and praying and going for counseling with this particular minister who restored my life. The thing is, Missy, I don’t want to have any relationship with the girl I slept with. I know you may judge me here for saying that but please hear me well first. I thought I loved her but after that incidence; I didn’t even want to see her. Whenever I see her, I remember the whole episode which I don’t want to remember in my life. I lusted after her and the consequence of my lust had been the most painful experience of my life. She wanted to continue to have a relationship with me saying that I was her first. She cried on me lots of times. I couldn’t open my mouth to tell her that I have no love for her. Oh, God, please help me. I know I sinned against her, the church and God; but I can’t punish myself by marrying her for what I did. I have interest to neither marry nor have any relationship with her. Please Missy, understand me. Two of her sisters quoted the story of King David’s Son, Amnon, who slept with his sister, Tamar (2 Samuel 13), and later despised her and how God punished him. But our case is not like that. I didn’t rape her. We both agreed to do it and we both made the stupidest mistake of our lives. Even if I struggle to forgive myself, I can’t force myself to marry her against my desire. Everybody thinks that I have another relationship with another girl for rejecting her but I don’t and I don’t think I will have any relationship with any girl soon. I want to first find myself. Please advise me how to communicate this with her without hurting her.”

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CG-STAT, Marriage, Sexual Purity, Singles, Truth

Real freedom comes with boundaries

I did this video last year but for some reason I’m thinking of Galatians 5:1 & 13 today and I thought this might be a good message to pass along to you today.

Remember, freedom comes with boundaries; including the freedom we have in Christ. Freedom without boundaries are called enslavement or bondage. ///

P. S. One correction on this video: 1 Corinthian 6:18 (not 6:8)