A4P Guest: I read your blog yesterday about encouraging single girls to marry a man who loves Christ more than he loves the girl he is dating. Well, I thought I found that man and married him three years ago. All the spiritual things I thought he had were nothing but fake. I now don’t even think that he is a believer in Christ anymore. He is addicted to all sorts of Internet filthy stuff and he has no plan to deal with it. As he told me, he became addicted to this thing ten years ago. Had I known about this while we were dating, I wouldn’t have married him but there was no way for me to know that he was addicted while we were dating. And he didn’t tell me even if I shared with him everything about me.
A4P: So, tell me how you came to know him and what had made you believe that he was in love with Christ more than he was in love with you?
A4P Guest: I met him in my church. I thought he was very spiritual because he used to talk about God 24/7 and if the church door opened for whatever reason, he was there. He missed no church program. He also used to preach in some church programs. I used to be blessed by every word he uttered. He encouraged me to grow in Christ and used to text me spiritual messages almost everyday.
A4P Guest: I’m 25 years old and I’ve been chatting with this man for almost one year now. I think I can say that we are dating even though we are dating online. He lives in America and I live in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia. He is 29 years old. We pretty much talk almost everyday on Facebook or Viber and sometimes on Skype if I find good Internet connection. Now we are kind of agreeing to get married. We both are born again Christians and we want to do dating and marriage according to God’s will. I’m dropping you this message today because of one issue. Few months ago, we started to talk about sex, how we both had never been sexual with another person and all. Then one thing led to the other, now we are talking about sex almost every day. And last week he asked me to send him – – – pictures of me. Do you think it is wrong to talk about sex and send – – – pictures to the man I am planning to marry?”
Most nutritionists advise people not to go to grocery shopping while hungry. Do you know why? Well, if you are hungry, you buy everything regardless of the fat content and the calorie count of the food and end up destroying your health and excellent body figure.
As going out to grocery shopping while hungry is a dangerous business, so is looking for a spouse while you are desperately looking for someone to marry. Do you know why?
They “WAITED” to have sex until marriage and they wrote a book called, “WAIT.”
Well, two of my good Facebook friends have dropped me this couple’s interview in my inbox on different days and I decided to share one of their interviews with you all today. (Thank you my friends!)
Pastor Franklin, he was 22 years old when he decided to wait for marriage and he stayed away from sex for ten or eleven years. But before that, he was sexually active and he was in porn too (you can find that on the interview they gave to Fox News 5). Continue reading Meagan Good and DeVon Franklin→
If he is older than 28 years old, believe me in this, many girls might have already asked him that same question. So, wow him by being different from most girls and ask him something like, “So, how did your day go by so far today?” and give him your listening ears.
Wedding is a ceremony, and marriage is a ministry. These two are very different things. Wedding is a one-day deal and after that, it is gone, done, finished, “finito”! Whereas marriage, it is a lifetime commitment.
Here in America, “50 billion dollars a year is spent only for wedding ceremonies. One million copies of bridal magazines are sold each month” (from “Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts” – by Parrott and Parrott).
Regardless of people spending billions of dollars on their weddings, one out of two marriages are still ending in divorce.
“For years, years and years I was addicted to pornography”
“It was my secret that nobody knew and that allowed to grow and it got bad”
“My wife literally said, “I don’t know you anymore. I’m outta here.” And that changed me”
“I literally had to go to rehab for it”
“I did not get help so I could get my wife back. . . I got help because I needed it . . . my wife decided to stay with me because she knew I was repentant; she knew I was going to get help; she knew I was sorry. Let me tell you, IT IS NOT ENOUGH TO JUST ASK FORGIVENESS. It is always necessary to make amends; fix the problem, do whatever you can to fix the problem.” – and Terry said more.
A4P Guest: My boyfriend and I grew up in church and we both had decided never to have sex before marriage; but yesterday we accidentally had sex. What should we do now?
A4P: What does “accidentally” mean?
A4P Guest: You know accident that happens before you know it.
A4P: Well, I ask this question because sex is not a rock you stumble over when you walk on a street. Sex requires many things to be set in place for it to happen; for example, you have to find a place where you guys can be all alone. But let me ask you. So, why did you guys decide to keep sex for marriage in the first place?
A4P Guest: Because Jesus said so.
A4P: Did Jesus say “Save sex for marriage?” Where?
