A4P Guest: Hi Missy. After reading many of your conversations you had with lots of people, I felt like I wanted to ask you this question. For some reason, I kind of know what you’re going to tell me but I wanna hear it from you. I’m 25 years old. I was in my church’s worship team and I had a very good life until I met this man. He is 28 years old. We met in church and he asked me out, actually he said to me, “I want to get married soon and I have no plan to get entangled in this dating process.
Category Archives: Singles
Dating “thou shalt not’s”
My lovely English speaking followers, this is the message I am sharing in this video:
If you’re in a dating season of life, make sure you pay attention to the following few dating “thou shalt not’s”:
- Don’t rush into making your relationship too serious. Let your relationship goes through natural progress
- Don’t disconnect with others just because you are seeing someone. You need your friends and relatives and it is good to spend time with your friends and relatives too.
- Don’t be scared to ask tough questions. If you see something that you don’t like or don’t understand/appreciate, ask and get answer before you tie the knot and say, “I knew there was something but I didn’t want to ask.”
- Don’t make your date the center of your life – that can suffocate him/her – Instead, be independent and do your life.
- Don’t get into “Let’s pray and study the Bible every day on Skype” kind of business. Do your own Bible study alone or with other brothers/sisters in Christ and let your date does his/hers.
- Don’t make all your outings a Bible study time! No! There is time for everything. Dating has a goal, to know each other. So, talk about life.
- Don’t make major life decisions alone. Have mentor(s) in your life – spiritually, mentally and emotionally matured mentors who dare to speak the truth into your life but never try to control your life.
“A wise man will hear and increase in learning, And a man of understanding will acquire wise counsel,” (Proverbs 1:5)
“He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm.” (Proverbs 13:20)
If you’ve been following my message for a while, you might ask, “How come you didn’t say anything about premarital sex?” Well, my answer is this: The above seven “thou shalt not’s” are few of the preventative measures a person takes to save sex for marriage. ///
A Second Thought To Marry Him
A4P Guest: Missy, I hope I’m not losing my mind here. So my “man” whom I am thinking of marrying soon just told me that he doesn’t believe in giving money to the church. Now I am having a second thought to marry him?
A4P: Does he believe in going to church and receiving spiritual benefit from the church?
Sweet and Colorful Marshmallow
I read about “Marshmallow Test” study today done at Stanford University in 1960. The subjects were children of ages four to six year olds.
These little kids will be given one marshmallow (can be cookies or pretzel sticks). They are told that they would be rewarded with the second marshmallow if they wait for 15 minutes “without giving in to the temptation.” Continue reading Sweet and Colorful Marshmallow
He Moved On
A4P Guest: I’m 28 years old. I am a born-again Christian and I am very serious when it comes to opposite sex relationships.
A4P: What do you mean?
A4P Guest: You know how people take relationships? I am not one of them.
A4P: I’m confused.
Think Like a Man
I read this on Facebook yesterday (actually watched the story in a short video clip) and I want to share it with you. I made few changes to the story though so it fits right into the message of this page.
So, a man gets attracted to three girls at the same time. He knows that he cannot marry three of them. So, he struggles to choose one.
A Jerk?
A4P Guest: I am 27 years old and my girlfriend is 26. I am pursuing medicine, soon to graduate. I plan to pursue further studies to do my PhD in medical research. My girlfriend, who loves Jesus Christ very much and loves life, on the other hand, has absolutely no interest in any form of formal education. She wants to be a businesswoman. Her parents have business and both of her parents have no higher education and she wants to follow their footsteps. I told her that I would pay for her school if she goes to school but she is not interested at all. Missy, please understand me. I want an educated wife, not that I want her to pursue medicine, but at least I want her to have a degree or something. So, after I think about it long and hard, I decided to call it quits. Am I a jerk?
Such a Terrible Mistake!
A4P Guest: I am 27 years old. I met this man in my church. I am in our church choir and he is involved in other different ministries in the same church. I first was not interested in him but after we talked on the phone for sometimes, I developed feeling for him. Then we started seeing each other at least once or twice a week, in addition to seeing each other in church once or twice a week. He knows what I like and he surprises me with a gift. I mean, Missy, will you blame me if I deeply fall in love with this man?
True Love Waits!
A4P Guest: I’m a 36 year-old woman and I’ve been dating a man (38 years old) for a couple years now. We both are born again Christians. This year, I was expecting him to propose to me but he doesn’t even talk about marriage at all. I told him in several occasions how much I desire to get married. But he usually changes the subject and avoids it totally. What do you advise me to do?
He Is Not a Church Kinda Guy
A4P Guest: I am 24 years old and my boyfriend is 27. We’ve been together for over eight months. He proposed to me last week and I am super excited.
A4P: Congratulations! I’m happy for you! Continue reading He Is Not a Church Kinda Guy