Category Archives: Sexual Purity

Hang in there!

If you are receiving suffering for choosing to do the right thing, hang in there.

If you are striving to do all things right before the eyes of God but suffer the consequence while others who do it all wrong seem to benefit from their rebelliousness, hang in there; because there is a God in heaven who sees everything and waits for His time to come to reward you! So, hang in there.

“For I envied the arrogant
when I saw the prosperity of the wicked. – – –
How suddenly are they destroyed,
completely swept away by terrors!
They are like a dream when one awakes; – – –
But as for me, it is good to be near God.
I have made the Sovereign LORD my refuge;
I will tell of all your deeds.” (Psalms 73: 3, 19-20, 28) ///

Weight Gain and Sexual Intimacy

I was not overweight before I got married. After I had my two kids, I gained more than 20 pounds and I am still struggling to lose but nothing seems to work. My major problem though is my embarrassment before my husband. I feel like he doesn’t like me anymore because of the extra pounds I put on especially around my belly. I feel so unattractive. I feel exposed whenever I think of sexual intimacy. My husband repeatedly told me that he doesn’t care. Does weight gain affect sexual intimacy? What do I need to do to feel good about myself and enjoy my intimate moments with my husband as I used to?”

Very interesting question! Continue reading Weight Gain and Sexual Intimacy

The Number One Motivator to Get a Man Change is Called – – –

Sexual addiction mainly causes spiritual and psychological pain but most men in sexual addiction escape the pain by pairing it with other addictions such as social drugs (tobacco and alcohol), prescription drugs and by sleeping with different women. Why? To numb and silence the pain!

If you take a man who is in a serious sexual addiction problem and put him in a sort of “a sexually pure men camp,” and leave him there to himself, the man will kill himself. Why? The pain will be overwhelming. Continue reading The Number One Motivator to Get a Man Change is Called – – –

Struggle to Get Over Withdrawal Effect

A4P Guest: “After reading some of your articles, I got convicted of flirting with men around me. I’m one of the worship leaders in my church. I used to like to wear tight pants and/or short dresses. I was enjoying the attention the men were giving me. A couple weeks ago, I decided to buy a dress which is neither tight nor short but still cute. I wore to the next church program. I was actually leading the worship that day. For some reason, I felt clean standing before the people of God, consciously dressing up in a non-seductive way, if you know what I mean. I loved the feeling I had but when the program was over, I had some kind of “withdrawal” feeling, lol, from missing all the attention those men used to give me. I knew I did the right thing but not receiving that “addictive attention” from the men made me kind of feel down. Believe me I will continue dressing up honorably even if I still have temptation to wear those seductive dresses, but let me ask you: When do you think I will get over this withdrawal feeling?” Continue reading Struggle to Get Over Withdrawal Effect

“- – – Hold On to My Sexual Desire Until I Get Married?”

A4P Guest: “I’m sixteen years old. I don’t have a girlfriend and I don’t think it is the right time for me to have one. But I have this strong sexual desire which drives me nuts. It makes me do things I don’t want to do. I believe in God and I am active in my church. I also have good friends I can talk to and all of them have similar struggles. My whole family members are believers. I know nothing about this world. I grew up in the church, I love God and the people of God, and I know God has a purpose and plan for my life. But these days, I doubt the goodness of God in my life. If God is good to me, why didn’t He hold on to my sexual desire until I get married? Missy, I don’t want to sin against God. I hate what I’m doing with myself. I hate myself and I sometimes want to end it all. I always remember my classmate who committed suicide last year. I wonder if he was in a similar situation as me. Would you say that God is good for me in this? If He is, why am I going through this? I hate it! I hate myself! Please help me.” Continue reading “- – – Hold On to My Sexual Desire Until I Get Married?”

“Waiting on God to bring me a wife”

A4P Guest: “I’m a 34-year-old single man. I strive to be sexually pure. I have male friends with whom I pray and discuss personal issues, including our sexual struggles. But I have a question for you. I’ve been praying for God to give me a wife but God is not answering my prayer. I’m not in any addiction or sinful lifestyle. Why do you think that God is not answering my prayer?”

A4P: Kudos to you for keeping yourself away from a sexually immoral lifestyle! Continue reading “Waiting on God to bring me a wife”

Name Changed?

Most of you by now know what my “nickname” used to be, don’t you?
 
Well, let me refresh your memory. My nickname used to be a moth. In Amharic, the direct translation is: “Dinner of Fire.” (By the way, this is one of the zillion nicknames I’ve earned for myself so far.)

After I learned the English name of “Dinner of Fire”, I began reading about moths. Let me share with you some of the things I learned. Continue reading Name Changed?

“Who says it has to be itsy bitsy?”

Summer vacation, swimsuits, and modesty – and more!

Hmm! Actress and designer Jessica Rey – one of the actresses in the TV series Power Ranger – talking about bikini – Interesting!

She said, “Bikini inspires men to see women as objects something to be used; not rather than someone to connect with. – – – So, wearing a bikini gives women power; power to shut down man’s ability to see her as a person but rather as an object.”

The medial frontal context of the brain (TAKE NOTE) of a man will shut off when he sees woman in a bikini and the brain part which is able to identify objects such as a screw-driver or a chair will turn on. That means a man who is looking at the woman with a bikini can’t see her as a human being but as an object.

She said, "You can dress modestly without sacrificing fashion. – – – Modesty is not about covering our body because they are bad; modesty is not about hiding ourselves; it is about revealing our dignity." Wow!

Phenomenal speech!

Make sure you hear the whole presentation. She designs her own swimsuits. If you want to buy similar swimsuits she is recommending to wear so that your dignity will be out on a display, make sure you shop quick to any department stores because they are selling out very fast. Yes, most women want to follow their natural God given instinct of modesty.///

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Looking of a Wife

What if the prayer of Abraham’s servant who was sent out to look for a wife for Isaac was like this (Genesis 24):

“God, please let that woman be the wife of Isaac who gives me a cup of water when I tell her that I’m thirsty.”

Well, any woman on his way; any woman who came first; any woman with a skirt would have been Isaac’s wife.

But Abraham’s servant was wise. He prayed in the way to filter out the word “any” from the prefix of the word “woman” so that he would end up with “the unique, rare and hard to find” one.

So, if you are a single man, looking for a wife, don’t pray for “any” woman to be your wife. Rather pray to find a woman who has a potential to be a Proverbs 31 kind of wife; a wife who has a potential to live for you and your kids. Since you are called to die for her, you need a wife who is going to live for you and your kids.

One of the identifying characteristics of that kind of wife is this: She serves others out of her way. She is not into herself. She reaches out. She may dress up nice and beautiful but that is not where her life ends. She is willing to go the extra mile to do good for others who are not able to pay her back.

But as usual, you can only see and find her if you are sexually pure (Matthew 5:27-28) because sexual immorality blinds your sight so that you won’t be able to see anything that is honorable and pure. If your sight is not there, you will pick a woman who will make you curse the rest of your life.

So, first get your sight back if you already lost it because of sexual immorality; then seek and find a woman who makes you bless the rest of your life on earth. Yes, she is in your vicinity. Yes, she is around. ///

A man in a Black Tuxedo

It is wonderful to watch a church wedding ceremony where the bride walks down the aisle, with her dad walking beside her. Everybody’s eyes including her husband to be are fixed on her.

The funny thing is: Have you ever been in the wedding where you vividly remember how the groom looked like? No, you won’t.

You may probably say, “Yes, I do remember. He wore a black tuxedo.”

Well, okay, let me prove you wrong then: How was his hairstyle?

Got you, didn’t I?

Yes, nobody pays attention to the groom. He is just boring. No earrings, no makeup, his clothes don’t fill the floor; his face is just bare and naked. What do you see? Nothing! There is nothing exciting about him. And that is how it should be!

But the bride is the one all eyes staring at. Just by looking at her, we can tell how good “a pursuer” the man in the tuxedo is. We can tell how “persuasive” he is to make this beautiful bride his.

With her decent and respectful smile, waving her hands to the people she recognized among the guests, she steals everyone’s attention.

“Wow, she is pretty,” people say. And they add, “Where did he find her?”

Why? The Bible says, his woman is his crown (Proverbs 12:4) and glory (1 Corinthians 11:7).

The black suit or the tuxedo the groom wears brings the truth of God to light; the one that says, “He gave Himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25-33).

She wears a white gown; which is a sign of not only sexual purity but a beginning of a brand new life. He wears a BLACK suit or a tuxedo because that day is the end of him; that day is the end of his life; it is somehow a “mourning day” which in a way is a “funeral service” for him. (And to tell you the truth, in light of the truth I just told you, I don’t know if I like to see a groom with a shiny white suit or tuxedo, with a design haircut. I mean, think about it!)

God created a man to be a fighter and a warrior who protects and rescues the women and children under his care or around his area. When he marries a girl, he is called to be a hero who EVERY DAY lays down his life for her and the kids as he provides and cares for and protects them.

There is only one girl given to him from the whole world for him to be one with. The rest of the women are his sisters in Christ to protect from any physical, emotional and mental danger. Can you just imagine then a man sleeping with his sister or taking advantage of her, breaking her heart as he leaves her to her own and using her for his sexual fantasies?

God forbid for any man in Christ to do such a thing!

God bestowed on a man an anointing to lead; to lead in truth, honesty and sexual integrity.

Lots of movie directors made countless movies where the hero kills all his enemies and recuses his woman to marry her at the end, for them to live “happily ever after.”

Well, I love to watch those kinds of movies where my favorite hero comes out of fire, or drops from the sky, alive, in one piece. I don’t want to cry; I want to laugh and say, “Oh, good! Thank God! I’m glad he didn’t die!”

But deep in my soul, I also adore to watch those movies where the hero, the main actor, the MAN in charge dies so that others may live happily ever after. It touches me too deep that I wipe my tears and at the same time, I laugh and say, “Oh, what a wonderful movie! HE IS THE MAN!”

Yes, that is the perfect picture of creation. How many women go to war to keep the peace of the society? How many women are fire fighters? How many women are in the US Navy Seals? Isn’t that self-explanatory?

God created every man to be a fighter to save and rescue others, especially women and children at the cost of his life. When we read the Bible, we see men going to war to save their women and children. And when enemies come, they take their women and children because they know that their women and children are the ones they are dying for. So, in a way, they kill their purpose for life by taking away the very thing they are fighting for.

Do you think Satan wants a man to find his call and purpose he is created for? Are you serious! If a man finds his purpose in life, if he finds his spiritual call, Satan will be doomed. The man will be unstoppable!

Guess where a man mainly finds his spiritual call and purpose in life?

IN HIS SEXUALITY!

What? Yes, there is a lot at stake in the man’s sexuality than we think. HIS SEXUALITY IS THE ONLY TARGET SATAN PUTS HIS EYES ON!

Until a man finds this foundational and spiritual call of God which is HIDDEN IN HIS SEXUALITY, his life will be a waste before God. Yes, he may drive nice car and holds a well-paying job, surrounding himself with beautiful girls but when everything is said and down, his life will be a waste.

Man’s call is intertwined with his sexuality. If he gains control over his sexuality to the point of honoring God in his sexual life, his call will be accomplished to its full extent. When a man gets control of his sexual desire, he lives for God’s call. He willingly lays his life for the people who are under his care. He desires their well-being more than anything. Precious, that is a disaster for the kingdom of Satan and this world.

So, Satan and this world invite the man to live for himself. They promise him pleasure and happiness at no cost. They promise him that he has to work nothing to earn what they are promising him to give.

The account of the story where Jesus blessed those five loaves of bread and two fish, gives us the total number of men; leaving out women and children. Why? Were they considered useless? Were they seen as second citizens, second to the men?

Oh, no, they were not. But those women and kids were at the care of those men around them. If those men were not there, they wouldn’t be there either. If nobody was there to provide, protect and fight for them, they wouldn’t be found that day.

Satan then hates the man because the man is “A COVERING” for many!

A single man who is living by himself, doing his own things, is also a “rescuer” of women and children.

So, the easy and short way for the devil and this world to destroy many is by making the man out of the game. And the one way to make the man out of the game is to mess his sexuality up.

Once a man is out of the game, he sees women as sex toys, commodities and he may even make statements such as this: “God created women for man’s sexual pleasure”. "Porn is movie. The women in the porn movies are actors to bring pleasure for me."

He also sees kids as “inconveniences” or a source of “financial benefit” as he writes them off for tax return.

He didn’t know that he has been targeted and killed in the game so that he can’t be a kind of a husband to his wife and a father to his children and an honorable citizen to the society he is living in. He didn’t know that his sexuality is sabotaged and kidnapped.

A man is called to protect a woman. He is not required to go around and say to the women in his neighborhood, “Do not fear. I’m here; I will protect you.”

Oh, no, he won’t do that.

One best way he protects the woman in his vicinity is this way: Just like Joseph, if a woman entices him for extra- or premarital sex, he leaves his jacket to her and runs away. Why? He knows that he is there to protect her; not to take advantage of her. He knows that the way he chooses to handle the woman he is called to protect is the one which determines the rest of his life. So, he runs away.

Here is the message for today then: If you are a man, single or married, know that your sexuality is at stake. The war is waged against your sexual desire. As long as you follow the biblical prescription of sexual fulfillment, Satan and this world will lose interest to hunt you down. They won’t have anything to do with you. If you are already scammed by their tricks and gimmicks, please seek help so that you will stop the curse from your life and the life of others who are under your care. Claim your sexuality back from Satan and this world and save a generation. Once you take control of your sexuality to the glory of God, you shall receive back your peace, tranquility and joy. ///