Category Archives: Sexual Purity

CG-STAT, Love, Sexual Purity, Singles

Issue of kissing, AGAIN!

"If I kiss my girlfriend, is that considered as a sin?"

Assuming that our common point of reference is the Bible, let’s see what the Bible says:

"- – -anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Matthew 5:27-28 (notice the last word, "his heart" – Key word)

When a man looks at a woman he is not married to, he thinks about taking her clothes off and imagining her naked body and – – – (that is a short overview of lust in man’s brain, let me save you from the detail).

When a man lets his eyes wonder off and his heart and mind follow, the man is considered "adulterer" according to the Bible because the damage of sin has already been done to the soul (heart) of that person. Sin of adultery has already been committed at a spiritual realm, a realm you and I are called to know and worship God (John 4:24). (BTW, this is the main difference between the Old and the New Testament Law!)

Remember, the man didn’t even touch the woman when he is held responsible for a sin of adultery.

If seeing a woman lustfully is considered as “adultery” (dangerous sin which has a potential to wreck one’s future), how do you think exchanging saliva with a woman a man is not married to through kissing is considered as? As “holiness" or as “a different face of adultery?" I leave that question for you.

Remember, the issue here is not the actual pre-marital sex but the condition of the heart and mind of a person because one’s body is like a “robot.” It does what the heart and mind of the person instruct it to do so.

What does a man think when he kisses a girl he is not married to? How wonderful Matthew 5:27-28 verses are??? Or something else?

I leave that question for you too.

BTW, when a man kisses his woman, a woman he is married to, what goes on in his mind is not Matthew 5:27-28 but images of his wife’s naked body and how exciting the sex is going to be (and more, again I save you from the detail). And, that kind of thinking and imagining, my dear, is like a holy worship. Do you know why? Because it is the will and word of God for the man to be consummated in sexual intimacy with one woman he is married to. When the two become one, their sexual intimacy gets decorated by God’s presence. God’s presence in turn makes their sexual union pure and honorable (Hebrews 13:4) and fulfilling and pleasurable more than you can ever think or imagine (Song of Solomon 3).

This being so, don’t you think “Is kissing a sin” kind of question is nothing but baloney? ///

Love, Sexual Purity, Truth

His Unchanging Love

Our little son is the one who usually comes up with a biblical question which makes our brains hurt.

“Is God fair?”

You may say, “Duh, God is always fair.” Well, if you say that, let me ask you this: If a plane crashes and a loving husband of one woman and a father of four little kids die but another loving husband of one woman and a father of two survived, is God fair for both families for the second family? Tricky! Tricky! Continue reading His Unchanging Love →

Sexual Purity, Truth

Our Sexuality

Satan always works hard to take away our love and devotion for Christ Jesus. And to do that, he targets one thing from our life and that is our sexuality. He uses anything to get us stumble in sexual sin so that we deny our Lord Jesus Christ by the way we live. Satan knows that there is no sin like sexual sin which has power to take away our “first love” from our heart and make us enemies of the Cross. Continue reading Our Sexuality →

Sexual Purity

Kohathites

The Bible verse I meditated this morning is not leaving me alone. I think I will find rest if I share it with you all.

Before I let you know of the verse, let me give you a background of the story. On the Book of Numbers, chapter 7, God told Moses to accept gifts from every tribe of Israel and give those gifts to the Levites who can use them according to their assigned responsibilities in the tent of meeting. Continue reading Kohathites →

Sexual Purity

A Young Man and Sexual Integrity

For a young man to say “No” to porn, he has to have a healthy and strong relationship with other men who are walking in righteousness. It is excellent for him to have a good and personal relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ but that is not enough. He has to know and be trained by righteous and sexually pure men who teach him how to channel his sexual desires and urges. Without these men in his life, the world and his flesh play “soccer” with his sexuality and drop it into a net of “meaninglessness.” Continue reading A Young Man and Sexual Integrity →

Sexual Purity, Singles

Did I say, “Sex outside marriage can’t quench our sexual thirst?”

Oops! I think I already said that. Well, it won’t hurt if I say it again, will it? No, it won’t.

But do you know why sex outside marriage can’t quench our sexual thirst? Because God is not in it! Guess who is in it? You guessed it, it is the devil, with his horn and tail and he loves to keep us in there, telling us, “Don’t worry, have fun now and you will ask forgiveness later and you will be free”. Wow, how many years have passed since he promised that???

Hey, if you are the one the devil is lying to, redeem your day today and come out of that sinful lifestyle. Come to the Shepherd of your soul who knows how to take care of all your thirsts and hungers because He created them all. ///

CG-STAT, Family, Sexual Purity

A book you may want to read

I almost forgot to share with you all one of the fantastic books I read over my vacation. I know, how dare I keep away anything that is good for you? Do you know how I remembered? Well, I ordered some books and they came yesterday night and I opened the box and kissed them. I know you may think that I’m lunatic but believe me in this; there are anointed and gifted authors out there who made you forget the whole world out there and soaked you in the Word of God! Continue reading A book you may want to read →

CG-STAT, Love, Sexual Purity, Singles

When a girl first falls in love with a man

A4P Guest: “I am 22 years old and I am active in my church. I’ve never dated or been in love with a man before but now I think I am in love with a guy I’m ministering with. We are in the same ministry and I don’t think he is noticing me in that way. Last time, he took everybody’s number to give us all a call to remind us about our prayer meeting. He called me once and he never called me after that. I constantly think about him and I don’t know what I need to do. I don’t think he has the same feeling for me as I do for him. What should I do?” Continue reading When a girl first falls in love with a man →

Family, Sexual Purity

“Mom, I don’t want to talk right now.”

As I told you last time, I was in one of the New Jersey Hotels over the weekend.

Well, I had a choice to go to the New Jersey 6th flags which has the tallest roller coaster in the world but why do I want to experience death? No reason! So, I chose to stay in the hotel.

My daughter after the ride, she expressed her experience this way, laughingly, “Mom, I saw heaven.” Continue reading “Mom, I don’t want to talk right now.” →