Category Archives: Sexual Purity

Wonderful and gorgeous Monday morning!

I’m lying! It is not gorgeous at all down here! However, this is the day the Lord has given me and I choose to rejoice and be glad in it even if it is gloomy! (Psalm 118:24) Yes, I choose to rejoice in the LORD who is the Maker of this day! (Philippians 4:4)

Well, today is the day we will being the second round of competition that focuses on, “Beyond the Fairy Tale,” my first book.

So, as you did last time, drop us a picture of you with my book in the inbox. Once we receive your picture, we will go ahead and post it on the page. If your picture receives the highest number of likes, you will be the winner of this competition and receive two gifts: Continue reading Wonderful and gorgeous Monday morning!

I Need A Short Answer

A4P Guest: “I have a very serious sexual struggle with porn, masturbation and sleeping with girls. It is just impossible for me to stop these things. I always find it very easy to convince a Christian girl to sleep with me; whether she is a virgin or not. I always get up and decide never to do it again but I will find myself going back to it. I invite a girl to my apartment and persuade her to watch porn with me and the rest is history. I ran into your page recently, like a week ago. So, I decided to ask you this. What should I do to stop this vicious cycle of deciding never to do it and going back to it all over again? I want to straighten out my life before God. But please do me a favor; I don’t need a ten-page long answer. I only need one line. I don’t have time and patience to read your long answers.”

A4P: Hmm. Okay. So, here is my short answer: I so far wrote and posted more than 400 short as well as long articles on this page in the area of sexual purity/immorality. So, get busy reading and putting into practice the biblical principles you find in them. ///

It is getting stronger and stronger

A4P Guest: “I’m a 24-year-old Christian man. I know that sex before marriage is a sin and I don’t want to sin against God but because of my unique sexual nature, I’m sinning against God almost every day with porn and everything. My sexual desire is getting stronger and stronger every day. What should I do to decrease it? It is driving me nuts!”

A4P: (Thank you for giving me permission to share this on the page! Bless you!)

First, congratulations for having sexual desires, one of the signs of good physical health.

Second, as far as I know, there is no “my sexual desire is getting stronger and stronger every day” kind of thing unless you have a serious health problem, for example, high testosterone level in your bloodstream. Continue reading It is getting stronger and stronger

Is it okay for a girl to ask a man for a date?

A4P Guest: I’m a 26-year-old Christian girl, and I’m a fourth year university student. I’m one of the five leaders of the campus Christian fellowship (two of us are girls). Through time and from working very closely in this fellowship, I developed a strong feeling to one of the guys, but he doesn’t seem to have any special feelings for me other than seeing me as his sister-in-Christ. Is it okay for me to pursue him? Is it okay for me to ask him for a date?

A4P: My heart goes out to you. It’s just a tough spot for a young girl like you to find herself in. I know you may wish me saying something like, “It is okay for a girl to ask a man for a date; there is no Bible verse that forbids her to do that. It is just culture, – – -” Continue reading Is it okay for a girl to ask a man for a date?

My Take on “Why men don’t ask for direction”

My Take on “Why men don’t ask for direction”

First things first: Thank you all for your kind words on the Banko’s family picture I posted yesterday!I read each and every comment. I took none of your kind words for granted. I appreciate them all. May the LORD Jesus Christ take all the praise and honor, for He is the Author of every good and perfect gift!

So, going back to the topic of why men don’t ask for direction, from all the comments which were dropped off on that post (I’m referring to last Saturday, Aug 8’s post) my number one favorite comment is this one: “a woman is right next to him to ask.” Seriously this comment made my Sunday! I love it! Continue reading My Take on “Why men don’t ask for direction”

Online Dating

Online Dating

Hmm! I personally don’t like the phrase “Online dating” let alone the actual dating being done online.

Sure, we are now doing life more on a virtual world than on the real one. I worked for a company for five years without meeting the person who interviewed me and later became my boss. Why? There was no need for me and her to meet in person. The work was done perfectly and we both loved it! Why do we need to meet? No need!

Meeting people online is a good way to meet people whom we may not otherwise be able to, given our hectic lifestyle. However meeting people online, dating them online and later deciding to marry them to do marriage in the real world is a very tricky and risky business. Continue reading Online Dating