A4P Guest: I’m a 22 year old woman and the man I’m seeing is 27 years old. We met in our church’s yearly young adults’ retreat and it’s been a year now since we’ve been dating officially. I love him very much but he flirts with every girl in our church. I told him to stop once and I let it go and chose to pray. He cheated on me once and I forgave him. A couple weeks ago, I found something on his phone and I asked him about it. He confessed that he cheated on me again a month ago. So, I called it quits and tried to move on with my life but I can’t stop thinking about him. Yesterday night, he called me and cried saying, “I want to celebrate the New Year with you. Please forgive me one last time.” I told him that I will get back with him. I know God wants me to forgive him and wants me to be with him, because that is what Jesus did for me. He takes me back whenever I come to Him. So, what do you advise me to do? I think he needs help, don’t you think so?
A4P: No, I don’t think so. The one who needs help here is you, not him. I think the man knows what he is doing and he is fine with it. But you don’t. Continue reading “I think he needs help”→
I did this video last year but for some reason I’m thinking of Galatians 5:1 & 13 today and I thought this might be a good message to pass along to you today.
Remember, freedom comes with boundaries; including the freedom we have in Christ. Freedom without boundaries are called enslavement or bondage. ///
P. S. One correction on this video: 1 Corinthian 6:18 (not 6:8)
Did I ever say, “Save sex and all the kissing and touching business for marriage?”
Oops, I did say that multiple times. But, hey, it won’t hurt if I say it again and again.
After all, unless we hear something again and again, we don’t believe it because faith comes by hearing. And we live by faith; means our lifestyle reflects what we truly accept and believe.
So, it is always excellent to give our ears to something we want to believe and live for. ///
Many young people are dropping me their questions saying, “We got it! We now understand that all those mini-sex acts (kissing, touching, cuddling, petting and all) are not good for us before marriage. They push us to do what we vowed not to do; which is sex before marriage. The problem is, we’ve been practicing mini-sex acts since day one that it seemed impossible for us to stop now. We keep falling short of our promises we made to one another. What should we do?” Continue reading Want to do Dating Right→
Sometimes in the middle of counseling, I ask this question, “So, who do you want to be in the next 10 years or so?”
The response I always get is something like, “I want to be a person who loves and serves God and others with everything I am and with everything I have.”
So, my follow-up question is, “So, what are you doing today to get there then?”
Why am I asking that? Well, for all the counseling sessions to be effective and fruitful, the person I am counseling primarily needs to know that there is what is called “the law of sowing and reaping.” Knowing this fact will help the person change his/her course or direction of life for good!
In my yesterday’s post, “I made a covenant with my eyes,” I see that one particular paragraph seemed to throw some people off.
If I’m not mistaken, “If a woman chooses to go half or fully naked” seems to be the one which created some confusion, or I will say, misunderstanding, to what I was trying to communicate. So, I want to clarify that today.
Well, my intention when I wrote yesterday’s post was to shine the light on the main source of sexual immorality which is a lustful heart. While I did that, I concurrently wanted to address one common excuse I usually hear from some men: “I would control my eyes if the women wear appropriately.” Continue reading Is Modesty Optional for women?→
I heard about the wedding of a virgin couple the same week they got married here in the city I live in. Today one of my Facebook friends sent me the interview they gave to “Good Day” Fox 5 and I want to share it with you all.
What shook the social media was not their virginity but “the certificate of virginity” the bride presented to her father, Pastor Mike Freeman, on her wedding day.
