Category Archives: Marriage

A Very Risky Business

A wife has to be wise when she rejects her husband’s sexual advances.

Healthy and good communication is key here! If a couple has good communication, a wife can wisely tell her husband her reasons why she doesn’t want sex for that specific day.

However, if a husband is mentally, emotionally and physically abusing his wife, he shouldn’t expect any positive response from her because sex is something a wife can’t welcome in the presence of abuse. The abuse has to first stop because where there is any form of abuse, not only the sex but the marriage itself can’t thrive. If there is any form of abuse in the marriage or unresolved conflicts, the couple has to seek counseling from their own local church marriage counselors, ministers and pastors.

If there is no abuse in the marriage, rejecting husband’s sexual advances can be a very risky business that can be the cause for the disintegration of a beautiful marriage. That is why the Bible says:

“Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” (1 Corinthians 7:5)

Here, “Do not deprive each other” is not a suggestion but a command and disobeying this command can rob us of our joy and fulfillment in our lives and marriages. ///

P.S. Make Note: This same biblical principle applies to where a husband rejects his wife’s sexual advances; however that is not a commonly seen problem.

Woman’s Sexual Nature is different from man’s

The one problem in marriage is a husband thinking that his wife is created like him; and a wife thinking that her husband is created like her. But according to the Bible, God created them male and female; means they are two different creatures especially in the department of sex.

This is a clip from “For Married Couples’ only” conference/seminar in Calgary, Canada. ///

I’m back to Maryland

Praise God! I came back from Calgary, Canada yesterday morning and guess what? Calgary got covered with snow the day I left. It must be God who kept me from seeing it, seriously! God knows how I passionately don’t like and appreciate seeing snow. I praise His name! And I always thank Him for not putting snow in heaven. No snow in heaven, do you know that? Oh, no, there is none! Thank You, LORD!
 
I’m happy to be back to Maryland and before I tell you all about my stay in Calgary, Canada, I would like to write a thank you note to people who made my stay in Calgary a success.
 
I first would like to say thank you to all the four local churches’ pastors who came as one to put the program together: Pastor Workneh Mogesse from Philadelphia Church; Pastor Meron W/Hawariat (with Pastor Nahod) from Global Faith Ministries; Pastor Chalachew Eshetu, from Ethiopian Evangelical Church and Pastor Tewodros Damtew from Agape International Church.

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Four Symptoms of an Unhealthy Marriage

The health of a marriage depends on how a couple deals with their marital conflicts. In reality, every married couple deals with conflicts here and there and the presence of a conflict doesn’t indicate that the marriage is an unhealthy one. Rather the presence of the following four ways of dealing with conflicts may show that the marriage is an unhealthy one:

Exchanging disrespectful words; (name calling); Continue reading Four Symptoms of an Unhealthy Marriage

Worth Living With Him?

A4P Guest: I have one short quick question; I have no love for my husband. Is it worth living with him without me having any feeling for him?

A4P: My friend, the Bible never says, “If you love your husband, live with him; but if you don’t feel any love towards him, it is not worth living with him; divorce him.” Continue reading

Phone-Sex?

A4P Guest: I have a question. Is phone -sex recommended for Christian husband and wife?

A4P: What is “phone-sex?” The phrase itself is counterintuitive and I will tell you why.

Sex is the physical, spiritual, mental and emotional union and oneness of a husband and a wife. This union includes the presence of God who is the only source of sexual pleasure (assuming that both of them are the temples of the Holy Spirit). In view of these two points (and more), the word “phone-sex” is counterintuitive. Continue reading Phone-Sex?

Happy Two Year Anniversary to Appeal for Purity!

You have no idea how excited I’m right now. Yes, God is faithful to seeing me through the thick and thin of life these past two years. There were not easy times by no means but they were wonderful and fulfilling. Wow! Two years have gone by just like that! Time indeed flies, doesn’t it?

May the Name of Jesus Christ be praised forever! Well, guys, thank you for hanging out with me and thank you for all your support, encouragement and love.

I’m asking everyone who is benefiting from this ministry to support this ministry in every way  you can so that the message of this ministry will reach the end of the earth.  The rest of my message is on the video.

Again, happy two year anniversary to Appeal for Purity.

BTW, our website domain is not only .org but also .com and .net. (Make sure you check out our website.)

Have a blessed Saturday to all of you! ///

P. S. The English version of the above video will be uploaded soon!

Ten Signs of Domestic Violence and Abuse

  1. Accuse you of cheating and being disloyal?
  2. Make you feel worthless?
  3. Hurt you by hitting, choking or kicking you?
  4. Intimidate and threaten to hurt you or someone you love?
  5. Threaten to hurt themselves if they don’t get what they want?
  6. Try to control what you do and who you see?
  7. Isolate you?
  8. Pressure or force you into unwanted sex?
  9. Control your access to money?
  10. Stalk you, including calling you constantly or following you? (from the Safehorizon website)

Continue reading Ten Signs of Domestic Violence and Abuse

A God of Second Chance

She is very good at making people feel at home. Most people get attracted to her because she gives everything she has; her time, money or anything she can give. But one thing people don’t know about her is this: She gives everything she has because she is scared of being left alone.

As she quietly celebrated her 46th birthday in her townhouse, she turned the TV on and sat down across the TV. She didn’t even know why she turned it on because she was not watching. She was “zoomed out” to somewhere else. As if the TV was talking to her, reaching to the remote control, she said, “I don’t think you’ll be of any help for me today,” and she turned it off.

She wished if someone called and said, “Happy birthday! Let’s go out and have fun,” but who? Just few years ago, her phone used to ring every minute. Not anymore. Continue reading A God of Second Chance