Category Archives: Marriage

Marriage, Sexual Purity, Truth

Sex Positions

Regardless of our belief or religious affiliation, most of us are curious about sex positions. We want to know if there is any other sex position we know nothing about. If we are religious people, we want to know which sex positions are considered “holy” and which ones are considered “unholy” or “sinful”. Sure we want to live for God and we want to do the next right thing.
 
In the book of Song of Solomon, the book that mostly talks about love and sex (the best book that pictures the love and oneness of Jesus and His bride, the Church), we find more than one place where “sex positions” are implied; Song 2:6; 8:3 and 8:6a. Other than these verses, I don’t know if there is any other Bible verse that deals with “sex positions”.
 
You may ask: “Why didn’t God list all the biblically accepted sex positions in the Bible?”

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Marriage, Truth

Issue of In-Laws

A4P Guest: I’m married and have a one-year old son. I used to consider myself blessed to have the most peaceful marriage ever until my husband’s mother came from Ethiopia a year ago to help us with our first child.
 
A4P: What happened?
 
A4P Guest: My mother-in-law is a Christian, she loves God, prays a lot and all. But she pretty much wants to be the woman of the house. She criticizes my cooking, the way I handle my son and more. Her intention might be good but her action irritates me so much that I sometimes lock myself up in my bedroom for the whole day. I feel like leaving or ask her to leave the house.

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Marriage, Sexual Purity, Singles, Truth

Terry Crews Says:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GKGmMe5rLNk&feature=youtu.be

“For years, years and years I was addicted to pornography”
 
“It was my secret that nobody knew and that allowed to grow and it got bad”
 
“My wife literally said, “I don’t know you anymore. I’m outta here.” And that changed me”
 
“I literally had to go to rehab for it”
 
“I did not get help so I could get my wife back. . . I got help because I needed it . . . my wife decided to stay with me because she knew I was repentant; she knew I was going to get help; she knew I was sorry. Let me tell you, IT IS NOT ENOUGH TO JUST ASK FORGIVENESS. It is always necessary to make amends; fix the problem, do whatever you can to fix the problem.” – and Terry said more.

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Family, Love, Marriage, Truth

A Bully Needs a Man to Stand on His Way

Stop Bullying

It was around this season that my husband and I began looking for a good school for our first son (Abel). After we visited a number of schools in our area, we found one school that was close to my husband’s work. I was home with our daughter (who was two) and our little one was four or five months old.

Just like many married couples, my husband and I didn’t have any clue what it meant to be parents. So, we bought Dr. James Dobson’s books on parenting. Oh, how I bless Dr. Dobson, founder of Focus on the Family! I wonder if Dr. Dobson knows how many families, children and marriages God rescued, salvaged, and saved through his books and radio messages! May the LORD bless him and all who belong to him!

So, I always read Dr. Dobson’s book and I learned that I needed to pay close attention to my little ones when they begin to go to school. Why? Some little kids can be victims of bullies.

After Abel went to kindergarten for two and three months, all of a sudden he began to be quiet. I always studied his face in the rear-view mirror when I picked him up from school and I asked him different questions, such as, “What did Ms. Matthews say today?”

On this particular day, my son gave me very quick answers to all my questions turning his head to the outside. Imagine, my daughter was sitting on the left side, my little one was in the center and Abel was sitting on the right side. I couldn’t get him speak that much. Continue reading A Bully Needs a Man to Stand on His Way →

Family, Marriage, Truth

We Both Are Equally Important

The highlight of my life this past week has been my son driving the car all by himself. If you didn’t read my post yesterday, read it so that you’ll have some idea what I am talking about here.
 
I was working on one project the whole day yesterday but my mind and heart was with my son, Abel.
 
When it was round 6:15pm, my son came home and I ran to the door and hugged and kissed him. My first question for him was: “How was it? Did the car slip or slide?”
 
And guess what his dad asked him? “How far did you guys go with the project?”
 
Why did my Berhan and I ask our son different questions? Well, because we are two different people, and one of our differences is this: he is a father and I am a mother. What concerns me doesn’t usually concern him and vice versa. My last worry yesterday was about my son’s school project. Even if I knew that the project was one of those AP courses which will help determine my son’s next undertaking, I couldn’t care less about it. In the middle of the day, the snow turned into ice which made the road very slippery, so do you expect me to worry about his school project? Oh, no, not a chance.

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Family, Marriage, Truth

The Story Behind the Picture

Me & Abel 1999

As a young bride who had no mentor in her life, I used to struggle with the feeling of independence. Whenever my Berhan (my husband) suggested something that didn’t agree with mine, I would say, “Oh, well, that is what you think; and this is what I think and I will do it my way and you can do it your way. I don’t need to listen to you and I don’t need your approval for doing it on my own way.”
 
Talk about being a knucklehead, I was “it” in full measure.

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Love, Marriage, Sexual Purity, Truth

“Isn’t suffering a ground for divorce?”

A4P Guest: I’m 35 years old and my wife is 30. We’ve been married five years. She was my first one and I’m her first. I’m miserable now. I feel like I waited so long for nothing because my wife doesn’t satisfy me in the bedroom and I don’t enjoy my marriage at all. I’m suffering. Isn’t suffering a ground for divorce? Do you think God wants me to stay in this marriage where I suffer day and night?
 
A4P: I believe with all my heart that God wants you to stay in your marriage because God didn’t design marriage to make you happy but holy, just like Christ. That means, suffering comes with “the package” called marriage.

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