Category Archives: Family

Family, Marriage, Truth

Discuss the Issue like Adults

Divorce may loom on the horizon if the following four ways of dealing with conflicts mark your marriage:

  1. Silent treatment – ignoring each other for days, months and even years
  2. Exchanging disrespectful words – calling names
  3. Gossiping about each other to others, especially to family members
  4. Sleeping on a separate bed (bedrooms)

When conflict erupts in your marriage, sit around the table and discuss the issue like adults. If you can’t do that, invite someone else to come in between; and it would be great if that someone is not related to you or your spouse and that you both feel comfortable to talk to. ///

Family, Love, Marriage, Truth

A Bully Needs a Man to Stand on His Way

Stop Bullying

It was around this season that my husband and I began looking for a good school for our first son (Abel). After we visited a number of schools in our area, we found one school that was close to my husband’s work. I was home with our daughter (who was two) and our little one was four or five months old.

Just like many married couples, my husband and I didn’t have any clue what it meant to be parents. So, we bought Dr. James Dobson’s books on parenting. Oh, how I bless Dr. Dobson, founder of Focus on the Family! I wonder if Dr. Dobson knows how many families, children and marriages God rescued, salvaged, and saved through his books and radio messages! May the LORD bless him and all who belong to him!

So, I always read Dr. Dobson’s book and I learned that I needed to pay close attention to my little ones when they begin to go to school. Why? Some little kids can be victims of bullies.

After Abel went to kindergarten for two and three months, all of a sudden he began to be quiet. I always studied his face in the rear-view mirror when I picked him up from school and I asked him different questions, such as, “What did Ms. Matthews say today?”

On this particular day, my son gave me very quick answers to all my questions turning his head to the outside. Imagine, my daughter was sitting on the left side, my little one was in the center and Abel was sitting on the right side. I couldn’t get him speak that much. Continue reading A Bully Needs a Man to Stand on His Way →

Family, Marriage, Truth

We Both Are Equally Important

The highlight of my life this past week has been my son driving the car all by himself. If you didn’t read my post yesterday, read it so that you’ll have some idea what I am talking about here.
 
I was working on one project the whole day yesterday but my mind and heart was with my son, Abel.
 
When it was round 6:15pm, my son came home and I ran to the door and hugged and kissed him. My first question for him was: “How was it? Did the car slip or slide?”
 
And guess what his dad asked him? “How far did you guys go with the project?”
 
Why did my Berhan and I ask our son different questions? Well, because we are two different people, and one of our differences is this: he is a father and I am a mother. What concerns me doesn’t usually concern him and vice versa. My last worry yesterday was about my son’s school project. Even if I knew that the project was one of those AP courses which will help determine my son’s next undertaking, I couldn’t care less about it. In the middle of the day, the snow turned into ice which made the road very slippery, so do you expect me to worry about his school project? Oh, no, not a chance.

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Family, Truth

Happy President’s Day to all of you who live in America!

I love this holiday for one reason only: It is a federal holiday and everything is closed!
 
Imagine, it is snowing out there and my Love (my husband) and my kids are home. What more do I ask from a holiday? Nothing!
 
Some people argue saying, “So, where in the Bible does it say we need to celebrate President’s Day?”
 
Are you serious!
 
My life is a holiday! Because of Jesus’ cross, I’m on the road of eternity! That is what I call a holiday! The day is evil but because of the One who lives in me, all the days are holidays and when everything is closed like today, it is even better as we gather together laugh, eat and praise God in one accord, in one Spirit.
 
What more do I ask from this life? Nothing! ///
Family, Marriage, Truth

The Story Behind the Picture

Me & Abel 1999

As a young bride who had no mentor in her life, I used to struggle with the feeling of independence. Whenever my Berhan (my husband) suggested something that didn’t agree with mine, I would say, “Oh, well, that is what you think; and this is what I think and I will do it my way and you can do it your way. I don’t need to listen to you and I don’t need your approval for doing it on my own way.”
 
Talk about being a knucklehead, I was “it” in full measure.

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