I hope and pray that this video clip will take away some misunderstandings some people had regarding the definition of sexual purity.
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My Wish to Marry A Christian Man
A4P Guest: “I am a 40 year old woman. I grew up in a well-educated family, have a BA, on the looks department, I am okay, I have a pretty face, bit short, great confidence, beautiful heart,( as told by people). I am not a born-again Christian, but I am faithful, love to read the Bible, and Christian articles, very curious for knowledge, I love to read a variety of books, from children’s stories to politics. I love to dance, I don’t drink. I have had a range of boyfriends, mostly kind and good guys never had a full sexual relationship with anyone, due to my views, that sexual relationships are best only in marriage, as I believe God’s wish is. Right now, I don’t have any boyfriend, but these days I am facing a big problem, my family is pressuring me either to get married or have a baby out of wedlock (I am the eldest child, out of four siblings). I do understand their concern, and wish/dream to become grandparents, uncles, aunties, but it is also against my wish and belief to have a child out of wedlock. The option of being married is out of the picture right now. So what do I do? I know my parents are not getting any younger, nor am I for that matter. My wish to marry a humble Christian man, be a faithful wife, build a Christian family is becoming almost a mirage. I have prayed hard for the right partner, but my Boaz is nowhere to be found. I am stuck between fulfilling my and my family’s wishes the wrong way, or spend the rest of my life, alone, childless, and killing everyone’s dream and wishes, what do I do? You can share it on your Facebook page, some women might have the same problem so we can learn from each other, but keep my identity a secret.”
A4P: I believe you are at a tough place in life. Sure you are a bit older. I get it, you are 40 but I’m not sure why you said “The option of being married is out of the picture right now.”
I Am Crying Out of Joy
I am shedding tears of joy now and I want y’all to cry with me.
I don’t want to spoil the story. Just watch this video.
Does Age Difference Matter in a Marriage?
We can’t afford to ignore this issue just because it makes some people feel uncomfortable, can we? No, we can’t. And I believe, this issue matters more for those who are yet in the process of finding their lifelong partner than the people who already are married.
Let me first say this: As far as I know, there is no “age-difference” topic in the Bible. So, this is a simple answer for anyone who may ask for a Bible reference for the points I’m about to make. Some people argue, “If the Bible ignores this issue, we don’t need to talk about it.” And some say, “What matters the most is how much the couple loves each other.” Hmm! I better leave these lines of reasoning right here and move on to my point, not because I don’t want to deal with them but I may easily get sidetracked from the point I wanna make today trying to address them.
“And Adam knew Eve his wife;”
Eve has a description. It doesn’t just say, Adam knew a girl named Eve.
Are you kidding? Oh, no, the Word of God doesn’t say that! It says, “And Adam knew Eve HIS WIFE;” (Genesis 4:1a KJV – capitalization is mine)
“And” shows that there were necessary events that had to occur before Adam “knew” his wife (the girl had to be publicly declared as “his wife”) and the semi colon (;) shows that “knowing” (making love, NIV) is not the end in and of itself. There is more blessing following it, depending on at what stage “the knowing” occurs.
Singleness is Fun Only When Sex is Put Out of the Game!
One of my good Facebook friends sent me the above link; I love it very much and I want to share it with you all.
Continue reading Singleness is Fun Only When Sex is Put Out of the Game!
“Give Me a Wife”
A4P Guest: “I’m a 34-year-old single man. I strive to be sexually pure. I have male friends with whom I pray and discuss personal issues, including our sexual struggles. But I have a question for you. I’ve been praying for God to give me a wife but God is not answering my prayer. I’m not in any addiction or sinful lifestyle. Why do you think that God is not answering my prayer?”
A4P: Before I say anything, let me say this: Kudos to you, my dear brother, for keeping yourself away from a sexually immoral lifestyle!
“Hold On To My Sexual Desire”
A4P Guest: “I’m sixteen years old. I don’t have a girlfriend and I don’t think it is the right time for me to have one. But I have this strong sexual desire which drives me nuts. It makes me do things I don’t want to do. I believe in God and I am active in my church. I also have good friends I can talk to and all of them have similar struggles. My whole family members are believers. I know nothing about this world. I grew up in the church, I love God and the people of God, and I know God has a purpose and plan for my life. But these days, I doubt the goodness of God in my life. Continue reading “Hold On To My Sexual Desire”
“I’d been flirting with men”
A4P Guest: “After reading some of your articles, I got convicted that I’d been flirting with men around me. I’m one of the worship leaders in my church. I used to like to wear tight pants and/or short dresses. I was enjoying the attention the men were giving me. A couple weeks ago, I decided to buy a dress which is neither tight nor short but still cute. I wore it to the next church program. I was actually leading the worship that day. Continue reading “I’d been flirting with men”
“How Far is Too Far?”
“How far is too far?” is one of the most famous questions I receive after I give a class or seminar on sexual purity.
The question itself makes me cringe a bit because it sounds like this: “What kind of sin can God tolerate?” or “Which sin can I do without severing my fellowship with the Holy Spirit?”