They “WAITED” to have sex until marriage and they wrote a book called, “WAIT.”
Well, two of my good Facebook friends have dropped me this couple’s interview in my inbox on different days and I decided to share one of their interviews with you all today. (Thank you my friends!)
Pastor Franklin, he was 22 years old when he decided to wait for marriage and he stayed away from sex for ten or eleven years. But before that, he was sexually active and he was in porn too (you can find that on the interview they gave to Fox News 5). Continue reading Meagan Good and DeVon Franklin→
If he is older than 28 years old, believe me in this, many girls might have already asked him that same question. So, wow him by being different from most girls and ask him something like, “So, how did your day go by so far today?” and give him your listening ears.
Wedding is a ceremony, and marriage is a ministry. These two are very different things. Wedding is a one-day deal and after that, it is gone, done, finished, “finito”! Whereas marriage, it is a lifetime commitment.
Here in America, “50 billion dollars a year is spent only for wedding ceremonies. One million copies of bridal magazines are sold each month” (from “Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts” – by Parrott and Parrott).
Regardless of people spending billions of dollars on their weddings, one out of two marriages are still ending in divorce.
A4P Guest: My boyfriend and I grew up in church and we both had decided never to have sex before marriage; but yesterday we accidentally had sex. What should we do now?
A4P: What does “accidentally” mean?
A4P Guest: You know accident that happens before you know it.
A4P: Well, I ask this question because sex is not a rock you stumble over when you walk on a street. Sex requires many things to be set in place for it to happen; for example, you have to find a place where you guys can be all alone. But let me ask you. So, why did you guys decide to keep sex for marriage in the first place?
A4P Guest: Because Jesus said so.
A4P: Did Jesus say “Save sex for marriage?” Where?
“Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me. Fool me 50 thousand times, you are the weather man.”
Makes you smile and think twice, doesn’t it? Nobody fools you more than once unless you let them, and after you let them fool you multiple times, going around and blaming them for fooling you makes you look even more foolish.
You definitely teach others how to treat you. So, before you blame others for what they did to you, ask yourself this important question:
A4P Guest: “I’m a 25-year-old man. I am one of the solo singers in my church. I graduated from university with my first degree in electrical engineering last year and I am currently working on my profession. I wanted to start a brand new life this year. The problem is, a year ago; I made the most serious mistake of my life. I slept with one of the girls who sing in our church choir. She is very pretty and loves God like nobody else. The next day, I went to her and asked her forgiveness and we both cried before God. Then I went to one of the ministers in our church and told him the whole story. He counseled both of us and told us to stay away from ministry for three months which we both did. Throughout those three months, I was fasting and praying and going for counseling with this particular minister who restored my life. The thing is, Missy, I don’t want to have any relationship with the girl I slept with. I know you may judge me here for saying that but please hear me well first. I thought I loved her but after that incidence; I didn’t even want to see her. Whenever I see her, I remember the whole episode which I don’t want to remember in my life. I lusted after her and the consequence of my lust had been the most painful experience of my life. She wanted to continue to have a relationship with me saying that I was her first. She cried on me lots of times. I couldn’t open my mouth to tell her that I have no love for her. Oh, God, please help me. I know I sinned against her, the church and God; but I can’t punish myself by marrying her for what I did. I have interest to neither marry nor have any relationship with her. Please Missy, understand me. Two of her sisters quoted the story of King David’s Son, Amnon, who slept with his sister, Tamar (2 Samuel 13), and later despised her and how God punished him. But our case is not like that. I didn’t rape her. We both agreed to do it and we both made the stupidest mistake of our lives. Even if I struggle to forgive myself, I can’t force myself to marry her against my desire. Everybody thinks that I have another relationship with another girl for rejecting her but I don’t and I don’t think I will have any relationship with any girl soon. I want to first find myself. Please advise me how to communicate this with her without hurting her.”
