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Issue of kissing, AGAIN!

"If I kiss my girlfriend, is that considered as a sin?"

Assuming that our common point of reference is the Bible, let’s see what the Bible says:

"- – -anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Matthew 5:27-28 (notice the last word, "his heart" – Key word)

When a man looks at a woman he is not married to, he thinks about taking her clothes off and imagining her naked body and – – – (that is a short overview of lust in man’s brain, let me save you from the detail).

When a man lets his eyes wonder off and his heart and mind follow, the man is considered "adulterer" according to the Bible because the damage of sin has already been done to the soul (heart) of that person. Sin of adultery has already been committed at a spiritual realm, a realm you and I are called to know and worship God (John 4:24). (BTW, this is the main difference between the Old and the New Testament Law!)

Remember, the man didn’t even touch the woman when he is held responsible for a sin of adultery.

If seeing a woman lustfully is considered as “adultery” (dangerous sin which has a potential to wreck one’s future), how do you think exchanging saliva with a woman a man is not married to through kissing is considered as? As “holiness" or as “a different face of adultery?" I leave that question for you.

Remember, the issue here is not the actual pre-marital sex but the condition of the heart and mind of a person because one’s body is like a “robot.” It does what the heart and mind of the person instruct it to do so.

What does a man think when he kisses a girl he is not married to? How wonderful Matthew 5:27-28 verses are??? Or something else?

I leave that question for you too.

BTW, when a man kisses his woman, a woman he is married to, what goes on in his mind is not Matthew 5:27-28 but images of his wife’s naked body and how exciting the sex is going to be (and more, again I save you from the detail). And, that kind of thinking and imagining, my dear, is like a holy worship. Do you know why? Because it is the will and word of God for the man to be consummated in sexual intimacy with one woman he is married to. When the two become one, their sexual intimacy gets decorated by God’s presence. God’s presence in turn makes their sexual union pure and honorable (Hebrews 13:4) and fulfilling and pleasurable more than you can ever think or imagine (Song of Solomon 3).

This being so, don’t you think “Is kissing a sin” kind of question is nothing but baloney? ///

His Unchanging Love

Our little son is the one who usually comes up with a biblical question which makes our brains hurt.

“Is God fair?”

You may say, “Duh, God is always fair.” Well, if you say that, let me ask you this: If a plane crashes and a loving husband of one woman and a father of four little kids die but another loving husband of one woman and a father of two survived, is God fair for both families for the second family? Tricky! Tricky! Continue reading His Unchanging Love

Our Sexuality

Satan always works hard to take away our love and devotion for Christ Jesus. And to do that, he targets one thing from our life and that is our sexuality. He uses anything to get us stumble in sexual sin so that we deny our Lord Jesus Christ by the way we live. Satan knows that there is no sin like sexual sin which has power to take away our “first love” from our heart and make us enemies of the Cross. Continue reading Our Sexuality

Concern and/or Question

“Somebody invited me to your page like a month ago. I read some of your articles and I think I like some of them but whenever I read what you’ve been writing about men, I sometimes cringe a little because some of the things you are saying, things such as “most men are colorblind” don’t represent me nor men in my life. So, I can’t help but think if you are saying those things about the men in your life than men in general. And if so, I think it is wise for you to say, “The men in my life are colorblind” or something similar. So, let me ask you “Are you talking about men in your life or men in general?” I hope you won’t get offended by me asking this question. Continue reading Concern and/or Question

Kohathites

The Bible verse I meditated this morning is not leaving me alone. I think I will find rest if I share it with you all.

Before I let you know of the verse, let me give you a background of the story. On the Book of Numbers, chapter 7, God told Moses to accept gifts from every tribe of Israel and give those gifts to the Levites who can use them according to their assigned responsibilities in the tent of meeting. Continue reading Kohathites

First day of school for our kids!

Well, it is not that exciting day for me! I got up at 4am because I was a little, well, emotional to see my kids going to school today. They stayed with me for the whole summer and today, they have to go.

Yesterday, we wanted to have a small party and we went grocery shopping to brighten up our night. Then at the checkout, the cashier said, “So, are three of them your kids?” Continue reading First day of school for our kids!

“Are you tired?”

Through the hard day of work, one thought carries a husband and brings him home. That thought is this: “Sex is in store for you at the end of the day.”

After a husband finishes his task for a day, the one thought that remains with him is SEX! He is very happy that he is able to provide to his wife and kids but above all, he enjoys that sex is included in the package. Whether his day is good or bad, he loves to comfort his soul by saying things like, “Sex is in the menu.” Continue reading “Are you tired?”