You know, I am now in a place where I am surrounded by so many people. While I am trying to interact with others, one thought keeps coming into my mind. This is not the first time this particular thought came to my mind. So while people here (I assume) are thinking that I’m texting someone, let me quickly leave this two cents worth of advice to newly young married couples.
Here we go!
If you are a newly married person, it is good to hide your marriage from the “whole wide world” (www) at least for a year or two.
How? By keeping your marriage mainly away from social media!
I know, it is hard to do that nowadays where we all constantly get tempted to share with everyone the picture of our tasty meal, fun times and sleep. And there are married couples who are sharing their day to day life with the whole world on social media starting from their wedding day.
Hmm! Let me not say much about that for now, but let me briefly say this: Trying to copy these people can be a bit tricky, at times dangerous because there is more to their story than what is projected on social media. So be very careful!
When it comes to your newly established marriage, care must be taken. Wisdom has to be called into.
If, for example, you have a special date night or nice short getaways with your spouse, focus on your spouse and the special time you are spending instead of thinking how you are going to share the picture of that special night or vacation with others. I mean, take as many pictures as you want to as part of having fun with your spouse and keep those memorable moments alive but don’t invite everybody into your newly formed marriage by posting pictures of those moments.
Try to see your marriage as a seed that you planted in the ground. And if, let’s say, you now and then come back to the ground and pull that “germinated seed” out to take a quick look at it and put it back into the ground, what do you think would happen to that seed?
When you plant a seed, you should always remember that you first need to bury it under the ground, not forever but for a season. While everybody thinks that your seed is dead, the seed takes root and you start to see the fruit of your hard work; the seed sends out a shoot. Then you slowly start sharing one or two pictures of that tiny shoot with your friends and families and/or fans.
Actually well taken care of seed doesn’t need your help to show itself to the whole world that it is growing well. People will see when the fruit of the tree covers the whole earth. So be wise! If you have to be on social media, focus on other things, leaving out the topic of your marriage.
Aha! Tough, isn’t it? I know!
But it is worth every ounce of your effort to build a healthy marriage. Remember, the first few years of marriage determines the rest of your married life. So, you will never regret that you take radical measures such as this one to make sure that the foundation of your marriage is firm and strong.
Guess what? I have a Bible verse to convince you to do that.
“If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married.” (Deuteronomy 24:5)
Change every word of the above verse without changing the message into the language of our times and you will arrive at a similar message that I’m trying to share with you here. ///