Who Should Prime the Pump?

When a husband receives respect from his wife, he finds it very easy to love his wife. In the same way, when a wife receives unconditional love from her husband, respecting and honoring her husband becomes her second nature.
But, for this biblical love-respect principle to work in a marriage, somebody has to “prime the pump” first.
Who? A husband or a wife?
One of them who is spiritually more matured and the one who loves Christ more will do. ///