Unwanted Same-Sex Attraction
A4P Guest: Hi, I’m a born again Christian man. I was born and raised in a Christian home in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia. I left Addis at the age of 14. I am now 28 years old. I love my mom and my two older brothers to death. My dad walked out of our life when I was six years old. I have no love or care for him since he used to physically abuse my mom, my two brothers and I. I am the youngest. At the age of eight, I was sexually molested by two men who used to live next to our house. At the time, I didn’t know what was going on and didn’t know what to do with it. I still have nightmares once in a while and I cry like a little boy. I have never told this part of my story to anyone. Those two men might be out there now and I pray they don’t do such a thing to any other little boys. I don’t know if this part of my story has anything to do with what I’m going through since I was 13. I have never been attracted to a girl but a man. I have received Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior when I was fourteen years old. My tendency to be sexually attracted to men didn’t leave me alone even after I received Jesus Christ. Because I fear someone may find out what is going on in my mind and heart, I don’t usually go to a Bible study or a small group gathering of any sort. I now go to one American’s mega church here in my city and that is it. I know I don’t want to be a homosexual and I am not a homosexual. About a couple years ago, I searched online and joined a group of people who have similar stories like mine and I kind of felt relieved for a short period of time but I couldn’t embrace it as they advised me to embrace my same-sex attraction struggle as my identity. I want to do life as the Word of God says. Deep in my heart, I know that I’m a heterosexual and I want to declare that but I have this deep seated struggle which doesn’t seem to leave me alone. I still get attracted to men, not women. I prayed and prayed and prayed. Nothing seems to work. Right now, with all the animosity going around with the Supreme Court decision to redefine marriage, I totally lost interest to go to church. I don’t want to hear anyone making jokes about my struggle. Now, here I’m in my small one bedroom apartment, reading almost all your posts, I sobbed! I want to die! I want to end it right here. I want this struggle to stop! You see, I want to live a happy life. I want to marry one woman and have kids but this struggle is with me. I’m not sure what my future holds. Missy, does God really care about my struggle? Does He really know what I am going through? When am I going to rest from this struggle or will this struggle ever leave me?
The Second Contestant is from Revere, Massachusetts
Her favorite quote from my first book, “Beyond the Fairy Tale” is: Continue reading The Second Contestant is from Revere, Massachusetts
THE WAY!
All these things which are unfolding before our eyes are, in part, results of fatherless homes. Take note if you are a father.
The Bible says, “Train up a child in the way he should go” (Proverbs 22:6). It says, “IN THE WAY!”
You can’t create a way and train up your son in your creative ways and expect him to turn out to be a good citizen or a leader. The Bible doesn’t say, “Train up a child in a way” but in “THE WAY!”
THE WAY has already been set, never to be changed, defined or redefined!
Jesus said, “I’m THE WAY and the truth and the life.” (John 14:6)
While it is still “DAY TIME,” train up your son in THE WAY! Because the NIGHT is soon falling!
Woe to you if you abandon your son to himself and the society because your own son comes back to you as your enemy in the night and bit you!
If you yourself grew up in a fatherless home, you are not alone. The good news is, now you have THE FATHER in Christ. So, learn how to be a father and a man from Him and from those who are trained up by Him for a long period of time. Then be a father to your son! ///
Another plea to encourage you all!
If you especially have young kids as young as 12, this book will be an excellent resource to fight the fight that is raging against our kids and families. If you’ve ever wondered how to initiate a difficult conversation, such as sex and sexual orientation, with your kids, this will be a great tool.
We have to lock our hands together and protect our kids; rescue the next generation from this furious enemies of our soul!
Please buy this book! The war is on! And the best way to fight back is by discipling the next generation. This is a small contribution to help parents and church youth ministry leaders fight for our children.
If I ever get a chance, I will give the full testimony of this book, how the sponsors appeared from nowhere to support it when I was asking God how to fund it.
My friends, God is behind this vision. The current news we hear and listen to is a testimony of how timely His provision is.
Order your copy today! Don’t say, “I will do it tomorrow!” There is no tomorrow my dearest! Today is the day! ///
The US Supreme Court Redefined Marriage in all 50 States
A4P Guest: Did you hear the news yesterday about the US Supreme Court Decision about marriage?
A4P: Yes, I did!
A4P Guest: Can you say something about it?
A4P: I am not sure what you are asking me. Are you asking me whether I am for or against the decision?
A4P Guest: I know you only believe in a marriage between one man and one woman. No, that is not what I’m asking you. I’m just asking what your take is on the issue, like the implication the Supreme Court decision has on us, Christians. Continue reading The US Supreme Court Redefined Marriage in all 50 States
The Unquenchable Desire to be Complimented by Others
I didn’t pay any extra attention to my outfit or hair. I went out to run some errands. Then a woman complimented my pair of slippers. I said, “Thank you!”
The thing is, I didn’t pay that much attention to my shiny slippers lately but oh, well, somebody did. Within few minutes, a guy said, “Beautiful hair color.” I said to myself, “My hair color? What color is that? Last time I checked, my hair has no one definite color!” But who cares? Somebody liked it. So, I turned around and said, “Thank you! That is very nice of you!”
And when the third person gave me a nice compliment about my summer outfit, a worn out pair of shorts and a t-shirt, I said, “Okay, hands down. I look good! These people are not crazy for saying the same thing!” And I felt like the whole world was a wonderful place to live in; and I kind of wanted to go around and give a squishy hug to everyone. Continue reading The Unquenchable Desire to be Complimented by Others
STOP!
If you feel like you found the love of your life, a person so beautiful/handsome who understands you more than anybody else, a person you can talk to for hours without realizing that you talked for six hours and you are already thinking about your wedding and your children you are going to have with this person BUT it’s only been two or three weeks since you met this person, STOP!
You are acting CRAZY! So, stop and take one step back. Then take like three days off from everyone, including yourself and be present before God. Let the Word of God do some kind of mental and emotional check up on you. You know, when we ride in a very speedy train of life, MORE OFTEN THAN NOT, we end up in a ditch where nobody can snatch us out until we harvest all the consequences of our carelessness and mindlessness. ///
#God won’t put us in a position we can’t #conquer!
“No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.” (1 Corinthians 13:10)
I don’t know about you but for me, this verse alone anchors me in safety and security in these dark and trying times. ///
Killing Two Birds with One Stone
A4P Guest: I’ve been married for four years now. My husband and I have two kids, two years old boy and seven month old baby girl. I love my husband and I know he loves me too. I used to be happy with my marriage but not anymore.
A4P: Why aren’t you happy?
A4P Guest: I’m not sure how I can tell you.
A4P: If you can’t tell me, I can’t help you. Most married couples come to this ministry because they have sexual problems. Is that the case with you?
A4P Guest: Yes.
A4P: Okay. Let me hear about it and see if I can be of any help. Continue reading Killing Two Birds with One Stone