Choose to be Wise than Prudent

I sometimes feel like our family is a little crazy. Seriously! Sometimes the whole house is full of music and dancing at every corner you turn to. And the next day, nobody has time to talk. Everybody takes his/her corner with a book or laptop and the house feels like nobody is living in it. And another time, humor fills the house. Joke might not be a reason for us to laugh but action we see on the movie or one of us “funny way” of falling down the stairs. I know we find that to be very entertaining.

Do we fight? You better believe it! We do fight but I think we fight a GOOD fight! Continue reading Choose to be Wise than Prudent

My upcoming new book cover page!

You know me; I can’t keep good news for myself for long. I have to share it with you all so that my joy will be complete.

So, here is the cover page of my upcoming new book, “Beyond the Fairytale”. My publisher sent it to me to share it with all my fans and supporters.

As you know, the cover page of a new book comes out way before the actual book so that people can hear about it ahead of time. Continue reading My upcoming new book cover page!

Hang in there!

If you are receiving suffering for choosing to do the right thing, hang in there.

If you are striving to do all things right before the eyes of God but suffer the consequence while others who do it all wrong seem to benefit from their rebelliousness, hang in there; because there is a God in heaven who sees everything and waits for His time to come to reward you! So, hang in there.

“For I envied the arrogant
when I saw the prosperity of the wicked. – – –
How suddenly are they destroyed,
completely swept away by terrors!
They are like a dream when one awakes; – – –
But as for me, it is good to be near God.
I have made the Sovereign LORD my refuge;
I will tell of all your deeds.” (Psalms 73: 3, 19-20, 28) ///

Weight Gain and Sexual Intimacy

I was not overweight before I got married. After I had my two kids, I gained more than 20 pounds and I am still struggling to lose but nothing seems to work. My major problem though is my embarrassment before my husband. I feel like he doesn’t like me anymore because of the extra pounds I put on especially around my belly. I feel so unattractive. I feel exposed whenever I think of sexual intimacy. My husband repeatedly told me that he doesn’t care. Does weight gain affect sexual intimacy? What do I need to do to feel good about myself and enjoy my intimate moments with my husband as I used to?”

Very interesting question! Continue reading Weight Gain and Sexual Intimacy

The Number One Motivator to Get a Man Change is Called – – –

Sexual addiction mainly causes spiritual and psychological pain but most men in sexual addiction escape the pain by pairing it with other addictions such as social drugs (tobacco and alcohol), prescription drugs and by sleeping with different women. Why? To numb and silence the pain!

If you take a man who is in a serious sexual addiction problem and put him in a sort of “a sexually pure men camp,” and leave him there to himself, the man will kill himself. Why? The pain will be overwhelming. Continue reading The Number One Motivator to Get a Man Change is Called – – –

Good morning to you all!

I know it’s been long time since I said this but hey, today is the day!

If you have any question you want to ask me or you have something to share with me, go ahead and inbox me with your messages. I just received a beautiful message from one of my strong supporters letting me know about one minister I need to listen to since he/she is teaching in the same area as I’m. I love it! You see, even if I live on the land of treasure, I won’t be able to know everything out there. So, if you have a ministry you want to tell me about or a book you suggest that I read, let me know. Of course, if you also have those crazy questions, such as, “Why are you in this ministry?”, let me know. I guess that is the question I am still searching an answer for, lol.

So, I will be on Facebook for the next three hours. Yes, my kids are out from school (summer vacation) and they are not morning people. Yeah, the Bankos are strangers for sunrise unless there is school and work. Well, I wonder where I came from.

Anyways, until my house turns into a public arena, I can hang out with you.

Looking forward to hearing from you,

In Christ Jesus, Missy. ///

Struggle to Get Over Withdrawal Effect

A4P Guest: “After reading some of your articles, I got convicted of flirting with men around me. I’m one of the worship leaders in my church. I used to like to wear tight pants and/or short dresses. I was enjoying the attention the men were giving me. A couple weeks ago, I decided to buy a dress which is neither tight nor short but still cute. I wore to the next church program. I was actually leading the worship that day. For some reason, I felt clean standing before the people of God, consciously dressing up in a non-seductive way, if you know what I mean. I loved the feeling I had but when the program was over, I had some kind of “withdrawal” feeling, lol, from missing all the attention those men used to give me. I knew I did the right thing but not receiving that “addictive attention” from the men made me kind of feel down. Believe me I will continue dressing up honorably even if I still have temptation to wear those seductive dresses, but let me ask you: When do you think I will get over this withdrawal feeling?” Continue reading Struggle to Get Over Withdrawal Effect

“- – – Hold On to My Sexual Desire Until I Get Married?”

A4P Guest: “I’m sixteen years old. I don’t have a girlfriend and I don’t think it is the right time for me to have one. But I have this strong sexual desire which drives me nuts. It makes me do things I don’t want to do. I believe in God and I am active in my church. I also have good friends I can talk to and all of them have similar struggles. My whole family members are believers. I know nothing about this world. I grew up in the church, I love God and the people of God, and I know God has a purpose and plan for my life. But these days, I doubt the goodness of God in my life. If God is good to me, why didn’t He hold on to my sexual desire until I get married? Missy, I don’t want to sin against God. I hate what I’m doing with myself. I hate myself and I sometimes want to end it all. I always remember my classmate who committed suicide last year. I wonder if he was in a similar situation as me. Would you say that God is good for me in this? If He is, why am I going through this? I hate it! I hate myself! Please help me.” Continue reading “- – – Hold On to My Sexual Desire Until I Get Married?”

Purity for the brave hearted!