A4P Guest: I want to ask you about something that is bothering and confusing me these days. I am a 25-year old Christian girl. I grew up in a Christian family and I learned early on that sex before marriage is a grievous sin before God. I’ve been holding on to that truth since childhood. Nowadays, though, my faith is being shaken because many Christians are having sex before marriage and they seem okay with it. They are still coming to church and their relationship with God seems unshaken and unaffected by their sinful lifestyle; they seem to be happy and enjoying life to the fullest while I struggle and wage war against my flesh to keep my body, soul, and spirit pure; they seem to get married quickly, throwing their wedding parties in churches, and having kids too. Comparing my life with theirs, I began to doubt the importance or relevance of my stand against sexual immorality. If I get into that kind of life, God will forgive me and I should be able to move on with life just like them. It is hard for me now to see sexual sin as different from any other sin such as lying. And I feel like God won’t do anything special for me because I keep myself from sexual sin. Please tell me if I’m wrong in my thinking. I don’t know if the devil is deceiving me in this. What does “God forgives us” mean? Does it mean that when God forgives, He takes away the consequences of our sins and our life will be bliss?
A4P: What a precious topic for me to deal with on this gorgeous Sunday afternoon! Praise God!
A4P Guest: Is my worth as a woman attached to being a virgin?
A4P: What do you mean?
A4P Guest: Does a virgin mean a worthy woman to marry?
A4P: Hmm, I’m not really sure what you are asking me. Give me some background to your story so I can see your question in the same way you see/feel it.
A4P Guest: Okay, I’m a 25-year old Christian girl. After I dated a Christian man for a year, he dumped me for a silly reason. I cried for two or three days and begged him to come back but he left me just like that. Then one guy came into the picture. I was not attracted to him but I thought I would forget the first guy by going out with this other man. Well, this other guy was not a committed Christian and asked me for sex on our second date and I told him that I was a virgin and he promised that he would stay with me for the rest of his life and I slept with him. Well, it’s been a month now since I heard from him. And my first boyfriend called me two weeks ago and told me that he wanted to come back to me after he ignored me for six months. He knew that I was a virgin before he left me. So, I thought it would be fair to tell him and I told him that I slept with a man I dated and he said, “I will never forgive you for it, so we may as well continue going our separate ways” and he hung up the phone. Now, I’m doubting my worth.
The Melbourne, Australia’s conference is officially over.
I had a wonderful time. Let me tell you something. This conference is one of a kind! It is exceptional in many ways! I have that sense of accomplishment which is a rare feeling I get after a conference. This is a ten-day conference. So, I felt fulfilled. Praise God! Continue reading The Conference is Over and I’m already missing many people→
This morning, I found this comment on my YouTube video, “Looking for a spiritual man to marry:”
“I can relate to the woman who wrote you that letter. The last 3 women I dated cured my loneliness but didn’t make me happy. One was Catholic the next claimed she was a Christian but she supported the lgbt and the last wasn’t a Christian at all. I’m going to be single forever unless the next woman I decide to have a relationship with is a God fearing Bible believing born again woman.”
Don’t you love seeing/hearing this kind of determination from a young man! I love it! (The man learned from his mistakes.)
Porn cannot give you anything because it has NOTHING to give.
Rather, porn takes from you every precious and God-given treasure you have. It takes them one by one until you have NOTHING left.
“What kind of treasure?”
Prayer, thirst and hunger for the things of God, self-control, confidence to speak about God, peace, joy, rest, good and restful sleep, love, patience, ability to focus, think and reason, on and on and on, including your precious God-given sexual desire.
Somebody may ask: “What? Sexual desire? I go to porn because of my sexual desire. It doesn’t take my desires away; it fixes it, does it not?”
Well, from the outside, it looks like you go to porn because of your sexual desire but the truth is, you go to porn because of your wounded soul; a soul that cries out for authentic and genuine intimacy with its Creator as well as human beings.
A woman’s beauty and charm have a short shelf life. They expire before you even get a chance to introduce her to all your friends; families and co-workers.
But a woman’s internal beauty that only comes from the fear of God has no expiration date. It lives on!
So, before you let yourself fall in love, check the expiration date. ///
