One of the most interesting questions I was asked this week was this:
“What is your take on the thought of “Woman’s role after marriage (which some tend to call it: Biblical Womanhood)? Certain groups of people from this group called "womanhood" are actually writing books and are saying that a woman after she is married, she has to work at home, take care of the household and raise her kids. They say that it is wrong to use birth control, it is wrong to send kids to school rather than home schooling them. They said that the husband is not only the head but the priest of the house. What do you think about these things?”
BTW, they also say that woman should never teach or preach.
Well, I love those people who stand behind the thought of “womanhood”. These people are the ones who are calling America and the Church back to their original place. These are the people who are receiving all the threat and hatred emails titled “You Bigots” whenever the definition of marriage is on the table. They are almost the only ones who appear on TV and mainstream media (MSM) to speak about faith, marriage and family according to the Word of God, fearlessly. They play the most important role on preserving the sanctity of human life since they are against any form of abortion.
Not only I love them but I support some of their ministries too (I wish I could support all their ministries). They ministered to me, personally, in a unique and godly way. I’m very thankful for them all!!!
Yes, I do love and support them BUT I don’t agree on some of their stands. Just because I disagree with some of their stands, I won’t hold my love and support from them.
As a rule of thumb, I believe, our love and support should win over our minor disagreements. I believe we should not let one or two disagreements divide us over. When we are divided, we lose power because the Spirit of God only works through love!!!
So, I agree with most of their stands but not all of them. That doesn’t mean that I will send them a hate email or rally against them, holding a sign that says “Go back to the 12th Century”.
Are you kidding? It is because of them that I’m freely able to launch a ministry such as "Appeal for Purity" which is touching on the very sensitive life issues of human life such as SEX, MARRIAGE BETWEEN ONE MAN AND ONE WOMAN and sexual purity!!! May the LORD increase their numbers throughout the world!!!
So, where do I disagree with them?
Okay, let’s see. They say, "It is wrong to use birth control."
Well, I give a four month long class, with a good brother and pastor of our church family ministry. It is a premarital class given to couples who are going to marriage this year (we give these classes every year). So, you can just imagine which topics I’m responsible to teach.
So, when I get to the birth control issue, I always say this: As a couple, please sit down and discuss your personal conviction around birth control. If you think that God convicted you both to
use nothing whatsoever to prevent pregnancy, please by all means, follow your conviction. However, if, for example, a husband thinks that birth control is sin and if a wife thinks that it is good to use birth control, please don’t proceed to marriage because you will face serious conflict which may end your marriage.
Yes, it is a big issue. They have to be on the same page.
I personally don’t want to preach to anyone what to do in this regard. However, I will tell you what I know and understand to be against the Word of God and it is up to you to accept or reject it.
Fertilization begins within 24 hours of fertilization (the egg of the woman is being fertilized by the sperm of the husband). That fertilized egg is life, my Dear! That is not a piece of meat. Why? Because the Bible says this:
“For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
Your eyes saw my unformed body;
all the days ordained for me were written in your book” Psalm 139: 13, 16
“Unformed body”, means, there is no leg, brain, heart or anything. It is unformed body and God is in the process of knitting it.
Another Bible verse that makes my eyes teary is this: “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you” (Jeremiah 1:5a)
My Dearest, I’m not only talking about a fertilized egg here but also about a life that is known only by God. This Bible verse tells us one big TRUTH! Are you ready??? Well, this Bible verse tells us that NO BABY IS AN ACCIDENT!!! They come because God already thought them even before they were knitted and formed in their mothers’ womb.
That being said, any procedure or medicine or method that prevents a fertilized egg from growing is against the Word of God; which makes the act sinful.
Some researchers said, “Today, the most risky and unsafe place for a kid to be found is not a public high school, or a college or a bad neighborhood in Africa but TO BE FOUND IN HIS MOTHER’S WOMB!” (They said this because of the increase in number of babies who get aborted every year. One abortion clinics, for example, in Chicago, their sewage system was clogged and when the maintenance people came, they found little babies’ body parts – you can find the news on Google).
Continuing on with the topic, all methods, medicines and procedures, which kill the “unformed body” of a baby are called abortion methods.
Let’s see some of them if they are considered as abortion methods. First, of course, we should know that the literal procedure of abortion is included in the category of a procedure which kills a baby – (any form of abortion which is done in all pregnancy stages are considered abortion or the killing of the baby. The barbaric method of abortion is the one they do when the baby comes out of his mother’s womb. It is called partial birth abortion. When they baby comes out of his mom’s body, it is his/her head that comes first; then the mom will be told not to push until they suck her baby’s brain out. Then the still or dead body of the baby will be cut into pieces so that it will come out easily. Google and learn from the women who let this procedure be done on them and who found it hard to forgive themselves. Very sad!)
Who tells us all these things? Who brings out all these things to light??? Mostly, people from “womanhood” group!!!
I know it is very hard to read this and hard for me to write it down but it is very necessary sometimes to spell everything. Why? I meet people who say to me, “I didn’t know that they were doing it this way. Now I regret that I let them do that barbaric procedure on me and my baby. How can I forgive myself?”
So, you and I can help create awareness everywhere we go so that no woman will be victim of ignorance.
By the way, abortion is a multimillion dollar business. Some think and claim that it is a non-profit business “to help women”. Outrageous!!! It is not helping women; it is destroying their spirit!!!
Some people say to me: “These people who do abortion are doing it to help woman not to be poor. They are very kind and they die for the cause to help all women because they are convinced by the safe method of abortion and how women are benefited from it.” Hilarious!!! (Those of you who are in Africa, take note of this because they are in every city of African, publicizing their abortion meds as birth control – I will come to this in the next paragraphs. Please read on).
My Dearest, abortion clinics are making million dollars by convincing people, like you and me, so that we decide to kill our own kids. Are you kidding? They should die for the cause because the cause is their only money generating avenue.
Well, if I’m asked to take one side from the two sides, the one side which is against birth control, and the other side which is for birth control, I will choose the one which is against because it doesn’t give flesh an opportunity to play with fire.
Few years ago, a lady called me. And she said she wanted to start one of the birth control methods. And she said, “What do you think of IUD?”
I said this to her in simple sentence: “I think and believe IUD is not a birth control method but a method which kills a fertilized egg. Yes, I know sometimes it may prevent the sperm from getting to the egg but there is evidence that shows that IUD preventing the implantation of a fertilized egg on a uterus or in another word “it prevents or stops the development of an the unformed body” of the baby.”
She said quickly, “I’m a Christian and I grow up in a Christian family. We all are Christians. Most my families are ministers. All the women in my family are using IUD as a birth control.”
I said, “Okay?”
She said, “I mean, what is wrong with it? All my family members said that it is safe.”
“First, something is safe doesn’t mean that it is right. Second, two wrongs don’t add up to make the action right. Because all your families use it doesn’t mean that it is a right method.”
She said, “But I don’t think it is wrong to use IUD.”
I said, “You asked me a question, I answered it to the best of my knowledge and conviction. Making a decision or a choice is yours.”
I sometimes get a little confused why people ask if they already made up their mind on the issue. I really don’t know!
Okay, the next idea of “womanhood” is this: “Home schooling kids is the best strategy to raise kids for the Kingdom of God. If we send them to school, we are sinning against God.”
I agree, but I don’t agree where they said that it is sin to send our kids to school. As we stay home with our kids, and train them up in ways they should go, we sure want them to stay outside bringing others to Christ. Do you know 70% of born again Christians come to Christ before the age of 18?
Yes, we need our kids to be out on a field, if you know what I mean.
If I decide to teach them home, the whole day, that is fine too as long as I give them a certain exposure to the outside world. But I believe that I won’t sin against God if I send them to school.
Another point, “It is sin for a woman to work outside of home”.
Well, I agree that it is the best way for we, mothers, to choose to stay home with our kids. But I don’t agree categorizing all women who are in the work force as sinners. For some, their work might be their call. I mean, it would have been wonderful if all mothers chose to stay home and raised their kids. That would be a gift for our society.
But I don’t know if it is wise to condemn those people who have to work outside their house for many reasons.
BTW, I am a full-time mom and I am doing my role of mothering with joy and happiness. But I refrain from considering those of my friends who work outside their house as sinners.
If it was sin for a woman to work outside of her house, Proverbs 31st woman would have been a candidate for hell. Precious, she was a very known and respected merchant. People may argue saying that she was doing her work at home. Well, she can’t do her business sitting in her kitchen. She didn’t have a laptop. As we read on Proverbs 31st, she had servants to take care of the house chores while she did what? Doing business; buying and selling.
Another womanhood’s people idea: “Husbands are not only leaders of their household but they are also priests of their household”, I agree 100% but they forgot that husbands are servants too as Jesus was to His Disciples (He washed their feet).
Another one, “Women should not speak in the church or teach.”
Well, I will be in trouble if I said I agree with this thought because I am one of the women who stand behind the pulpit.
Well: “There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” (Galatians 3:28) Did you hear that?
The one thing Jesus demolished from those religious society (Jews), the society He came from, was man’s supremacy. Beloved without Jesus, we women would have been continued to be looked at as a second citizen and/or (as I read it on the book of one particular religion), we would have been considered as “a piece of Lucifer” or as "a piece of hades (hell)” or even trash.
But Jesus set us all free, may all the glory and grace be to Him!!! So, NO ONE, I WILL SAY IT AGAIN, NO ONE CAN TAKE THAT FREEDOM AWAY FROM ME!!! (Read the story of Jesus in all four Books of the Gospel and notice what kinds of women Jesus chose to talk to, eat with, touch, heal and tell the Gospel to!!!! Just beautiful!!!)
I still believe, though, men should be at the leader position with some reservation (I have no problem with women being CEOs of a company but I choose – again, not to be divided over, but I choose a church to be led by a man.)
I will discuss some other time why Paul said those things some people (or I may say, respectfully, some men) get obsessed with (1 Corinthians 14).
Well, by now, you know where my stand is when it comes to the idea of womanhood. This is not all. I will deal with the rest of things another time. For now, I think this is enough. The bottom line is this: I LOVE THOSE PEOPLE WHO ARE FOR WOMANHOOD! And I agree with them in most of their points.