A4P Guest: I lived outside of Ethiopia since 2000. Last time I went back home was in 2011. I met this amazing girl at that time and fell in love with her instantly. We couldn’t spend much time together since I had to come back in short period of time. Before I went for vacation, I told my friends that I was going to meet my future wife and told them that I wouldn’t touch her except shaking her hands and that was exactly what I did. It’s been more than three years now and we are still together. We are actually more in love now than back then. I’m planning to bring her down here anytime soon. My eyes are dying to see her. I missed her so much. My question is when she arrives here, she only has me. I don’t want to sin against God and I’m a bit worried. I don’t even know if I can kiss her before we get married. I’ve already made my mind to propose to her. I just want to know if we can start kissing after I propose to her. What do you think about that? Continue reading “I Dated My Girl Online for Three Years Now”
Category Archives: Singles
“What’s wrong with me?”
A4P Guest: “I’m a 22 year-old girl. I’ve been seeing this nice guy, 24 years old, for a couple years now. He is very serious about his faith in Christ (which I love the most). He is solid on his stand about sexual purity and what marriage should be. He loves me and cares about me. But these days, I feel like he doesn’t care about me but about himself and his goals. He is a very hard-worker, loves education and serves in his church. But he is not that passionate about me anymore. He used to at the beginning of our relationship but not anymore. He is just too busy with other things. I don’t even know how I can decide to marry him. I’m tired of being in a relationship but not being happy. What’s wrong with me?”
A4P: (Thank you for giving me permission to post our conversation on this page. Bless you!) Continue reading “What’s wrong with me?”
It just Turns a Woman Off…
After my Berhan and I met for the first time, we didn’t start dating right away. I was busy with my school work and didn’t have time for other stuff. So, I was only willing to talk to him over the phone. I always had exams to worry about and didn’t accept his “Can I take you out for a cup of tea” requests for more than six months. What were we talking about on the phone then? Well, I used to tell him about my future plan, what I would like to be and most importantly I used to tell him what kind of man I might be interested in to marry. Mind you, I was 17. Continue reading It just Turns a Woman Off…
I Believe It Goes Both Ways!
Somebody shared this with me this morning and I want to share it with you all.
The truth goes both ways though:
If a man is looking for a woman who is an angel, he has to be
“heaven” since angels don’t live in hell.
If a woman is looking for a man who is an angel, she has to be “heaven” since angles don’t live in hell. ///
I Need A Short Answer
A4P Guest: “I have a very serious sexual struggle with porn, masturbation and sleeping with girls. It is just impossible for me to stop these things. I always find it very easy to convince a Christian girl to sleep with me; whether she is a virgin or not. I always get up and decide never to do it again but I will find myself going back to it. I invite a girl to my apartment and persuade her to watch porn with me and the rest is history. I ran into your page recently, like a week ago. So, I decided to ask you this. What should I do to stop this vicious cycle of deciding never to do it and going back to it all over again? I want to straighten out my life before God. But please do me a favor; I don’t need a ten-page long answer. I only need one line. I don’t have time and patience to read your long answers.”
A4P: Hmm. Okay. So, here is my short answer: I so far wrote and posted more than 400 short as well as long articles on this page in the area of sexual purity/immorality. So, get busy reading and putting into practice the biblical principles you find in them. ///
It is getting stronger and stronger
A4P Guest: “I’m a 24-year-old Christian man. I know that sex before marriage is a sin and I don’t want to sin against God but because of my unique sexual nature, I’m sinning against God almost every day with porn and everything. My sexual desire is getting stronger and stronger every day. What should I do to decrease it? It is driving me nuts!”
A4P: (Thank you for giving me permission to share this on the page! Bless you!)
First, congratulations for having sexual desires, one of the signs of good physical health.
Second, as far as I know, there is no “my sexual desire is getting stronger and stronger every day” kind of thing unless you have a serious health problem, for example, high testosterone level in your bloodstream. Continue reading It is getting stronger and stronger
Is it okay for a girl to ask a man for a date?
A4P Guest: I’m a 26-year-old Christian girl, and I’m a fourth year university student. I’m one of the five leaders of the campus Christian fellowship (two of us are girls). Through time and from working very closely in this fellowship, I developed a strong feeling to one of the guys, but he doesn’t seem to have any special feelings for me other than seeing me as his sister-in-Christ. Is it okay for me to pursue him? Is it okay for me to ask him for a date?
A4P: My heart goes out to you. It’s just a tough spot for a young girl like you to find herself in. I know you may wish me saying something like, “It is okay for a girl to ask a man for a date; there is no Bible verse that forbids her to do that. It is just culture, – – -” Continue reading Is it okay for a girl to ask a man for a date?
Online Dating
Online Dating
Hmm! I personally don’t like the phrase “Online dating” let alone the actual dating being done online.
Sure, we are now doing life more on a virtual world than on the real one. I worked for a company for five years without meeting the person who interviewed me and later became my boss. Why? There was no need for me and her to meet in person. The work was done perfectly and we both loved it! Why do we need to meet? No need!
Meeting people online is a good way to meet people whom we may not otherwise be able to, given our hectic lifestyle. However meeting people online, dating them online and later deciding to marry them to do marriage in the real world is a very tricky and risky business. Continue reading Online Dating
Online Relationship! Lol!
Dating, Courting and Proposing on Facebook
A4P Guest: I am in love with a girl I’ve known since high school. We were just friends back then, but now, we each found out that we are in love. We study the Bible online once a day and we talk about everything under the sun. I feel very connected to her and I think this is THE ONE! We both want to honor God in our dating as well as marriage life. So, do you advise us to take a premarital class now or wait until I propose to her and start the wedding process?
A4P: (Thank you for giving me permission to share our conversation on the page! Bless you!)
Congratulations for finding THE ONE! I am very happy for you! Yeah, sure, I advise you to propose to her first before you guys take a premarital class. Continue reading Dating, Courting and Proposing on Facebook