Category Archives: Singles

It Is Complicated!

Sex is beautiful, pleasurable, messy, yucky, sacred, holy, breathtaking, mysterious, confusing, refreshing, frustrating, fun, fulfilling, rejuvenating, exciting, thrilling and exhilarating! (Song of Solomon)
Do you see how complicated sex is?
It is not the way Hollywood movies, Fifty Shades of Gray or Darker or porn industries are portraying it as on screen. It is not.

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“I Was a Virgin”

A4P Guest: Hi Missy. After reading many of your conversations you had with lots of people, I felt like I wanted to ask you this question. For some reason, I kind of know what you’re going to tell me but I wanna hear it from you. I’m 25 years old. I was in my church’s worship team and I had a very good life until I met this man. He is 28 years old. We met in church and he asked me out, actually he said to me, “I want to get married soon and I have no plan to get entangled in this dating process.

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Dating “thou shalt not’s”

My lovely English speaking followers, this is the message I am sharing in this video:

If you’re in a dating season of life, make sure you pay attention to the following few dating “thou shalt not’s”:

  1. Don’t rush into making your relationship too serious. Let your relationship goes through natural progress
  2. Don’t disconnect with others just because you are seeing someone. You need your friends and relatives and it is good to spend time with your friends and relatives too.
  3. Don’t be scared to ask tough questions. If you see something that you don’t like or don’t understand/appreciate, ask and get answer before you tie the knot and say, “I knew there was something but I didn’t want to ask.”
  4. Don’t make your date the center of your life – that can suffocate him/her – Instead, be independent and do your life.
  5. Don’t get into “Let’s pray and study the Bible every day on Skype” kind of business. Do your own Bible study alone or with other brothers/sisters in Christ and let your date does his/hers.
  6. Don’t make all your outings a Bible study time! No! There is time for everything. Dating has a goal, to know each other. So, talk about life.
  7. Don’t make major life decisions alone. Have mentor(s) in your life – spiritually, mentally and emotionally matured mentors who dare to speak the truth into your life but never try to control your life.

“A wise man will hear and increase in learning, And a man of understanding will acquire wise counsel,” (Proverbs 1:5)

“He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm.” (Proverbs 13:20)

If you’ve been following my message for a while, you might ask, “How come you didn’t say anything about premarital sex?” Well, my answer is this: The above seven “thou shalt not’s” are few of the preventative measures a person takes to save sex for marriage. ///

Sweet and Colorful Marshmallow

I read about “Marshmallow Test” study today done at Stanford University in 1960. The subjects were children of ages four to six year olds.

These little kids will be given one marshmallow (can be cookies or pretzel sticks). They are told that they would be rewarded with the second marshmallow if they wait for 15 minutes “without giving in to the temptation.” Continue reading Sweet and Colorful Marshmallow