Category Archives: Sexual Purity

“Lone Ranger-ism” in Christianity!

If you look in the dictionary for the word or phrase “a lone ranger” you will find this definition: “one who acts alone and without consultation or the approval of others.”

Can one of my organs be a lone ranger and make it?

Hmm! Can you just imagine if my heart one day wants to act alone, take a decision without consulting with my brain and without the approval of the other body organs and say something like this: “I want to chill today; I want to take a one week vacation because I am tired of pumping blood?”
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“Where are they?”

A4P Guest: “I’ve been following your page for quiet sometimes now. And according to most of your writings and teachings you posted on this Facebook page and on your YouTube videos, you said that sexually addicted people are lonely people and you suggested that they seek help from others. I think it sounds good but the problem is when it comes to putting it into practice.

Who are the people you are referring to, for us to go and talk to, for us to go and tell our secret and dark life to? Most church ministers today have their own issues to deal with and some of them don’t seem to care about anybody. They mind their own business. Some of them don’t even help us but tell our stories to others and make us feel guilty for opening up. So where are you telling us to go? Who are these people you keep on saying “Go and seek help” from? Where are they?” Continue reading “Where are they?”

The Truth can change us only when we Let it!

When we get confronted with the Truth, we sometimes react in the way which is ugly for others to watch. We badmouth people and we look for others who can join us so that we can get together to put down those who told us the Truth.

The thing is if the Truth doesn’t confront us squarely, it can’t directly come to our hearts where the root of sin is found. If it doesn’t come to our hearts, it stays in our brain and makes us “good theologians” who know everything about the Bible but have nothing to do with it. For the truth to confront us, we have to be willing to get hurt by it because Truth crashes our egos and prides which are our number one enemies we carry with us. But the good news is the hurt the Truth brings to our life is the beginning of our healing.

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Speed Cameras

Thank you for the State of District of Columbia (DC) for teaching our sweet State, Maryland, to put those speed cameras on our beautiful roads, almost at every major and minor road. I mean, how can we drive?

I’m not happy with those cameras at all!  Seriously! I don’t like them!

Sure, they warn you and they tell you on the news that speed cameras are going to come to your neighborhood. The problem is that warning didn’t register in my brain until I’ve received multiple speeding tickets at the same time!

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We can’t have it both ways!

Have you ever heard this proverb: “You can’t have the cake and eat it too”?

I love it very much! And I use it almost every day because I live with teenagers.

Teenagers have this tendency where they want to watch movies every night and at the same time, they want to get straight A+ on their exams. I mean, how can anybody do that? We can’t have it both ways, period!

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Ten Days from today!

Flyer for Bethel Church Nov 23 2014

If you are going to be in Alexandria, VA on Sunday, Nov. 23, 2014, join me and the Bethel church folks for the Sunday worship service at 5pm.

I can’t tell you how excited I’m for this opportunity! If God wills, this is the title of the message I’m planning to present:

“Post-modernization Era – God knows about it too!”

You don’t want to miss it! If you want to be challenged and encouraged to stand on the Word even on 21st century, come and be part of this program. Of course, come prayerfully because only the Spirit of God knows how to meet us wherever we are. ///



“Am I a hypocrite?”

A4P Guest: I feel so hypocrite whenever I try to talk to my kids about sexual purity. Am I a hypocrite for telling them to wait for sex until marriage as the Bible says even though I was not fortunate enough to do it that way?

A4P: Well, I hope you are feeling like a hypocrite about your past, not your present, am I right?

A4P Guest: Correct! I feel bad about my past. I didn’t do dating and marriage according to the Word of God. Yes, once I know the truth, I turned around and I’m now married and live a praiseworthy life before God and man.

A4P: Excellent! Good for you! Well, feeling like a hypocrite when you talk about the life you didn’t live in the past is normal. Since you have no good track record, you may feel like you are not the one to talk about it. But who can then tell your kids about it other than you?  And who can be the best story teller than the one who has been there? Think about it!

This is what I do with my kids. When I get to the point where I feel like the devil is whispering into my ears saying “You’re so hypocrite,” I will say to them, “You have no idea how lucky and blessed you are to have a mother who tells you this because I didn’t have anybody to tell me all these and because I didn’t have anybody and didn’t have any clue what I was doing, I messed up real bad.”

Well, my daughter usually doesn’t pass me by like that. She presses on, asking, “How bad was it?” And one of my boys will say, “That is enough information. We don’t need to hear it all.” Yeah, they save me from her, lol.

If one or all of your kids tend to ask you more questions than you expect, make sure you address them all to the best of your knowledge. If you have to ask or read, do your homework and get back to them. Don’t ever think that they don’t know what they are asking. They usually do and they have good reason.

Hoping that your kids won’t press you like my kids, try to be open with them about your past; but make sure you take into consideration of their age and mental and emotional maturity level. And remember, don’t try to present “the perfect you” to them; but the “real you”. If you do that, they find it easy to see Christ and His powerful grace and mercy in your life. Otherwise they think that you are the end of perfection! Since you and I know that you are not, when they find you tripping, they will be very disappointed to the point of not wanting to know God or His Word. Show them what kind of a merciful God they have; a God who is good at giving strength to the weak; and hope to the hopeless. This will show them the way back to their “Home” if in case they decide to take “the wrong exist” in their life. ///

A God of Second Chance

She is very good at making people feel at home. Most people get attracted to her because she gives everything she has; her time, money or anything she can give. But one thing people don’t know about her is this: She gives everything she has because she is scared of being left alone.

As she quietly celebrated her 46th birthday in her townhouse, she turned the TV on and sat down across the TV. She didn’t even know why she turned it on because she was not watching. She was “zoomed out” to somewhere else. As if the TV was talking to her, reaching to the remote control, she said, “I don’t think you be of any help for me today,” and she turned it off.

She wished if someone called and said, “Happy birthday! Let’s go out and have fun,” but who? Just ten years ago, her phone used to ring every minute. Not anymore.

She had to initiate any fun; and as long as she provided, most people would accept her invitation. Party, lunch, breakfast, picnic, home party, dinner party; you name it, she did it all so that she would be with others. But one thing she yearned; and that was for someone to look for her; to ask her out for lunch or something. Continue reading A God of Second Chance