When I find a minute or so, I sometimes sit and read comments dropped off on the posts. And this morning, while I was readingthe comments, I ran into this comment which was dropped off on the post titled “My Friend’s husband asked me to sleep with him,” and the comment goes like this:
Sexual addiction and suicidal thought usually go hand in hand because sexual addiction is an attack on self (1 Corinthians 6:18). When the attack gets serious, self wants to check out from this life because soul and spirit of the person begin asking, “Where is joy? Where is peace? Where is rest? Where is pleasure?” And they drive the person crazy to the point of ordering him/her to commit suicide.
The only way to escape from this is by repenting and becoming clean before God.
Please don’t listen to the devil. Don’t say “I will repent tomorrow”. There is no tomorrow. We only have “today”. Tomorrow is only found in a fantasy world. Today is the day of salvation (1 Corinthians 6:1-2).
If you don’t do it today, you won’t do it tomorrow.
And please don’t try to do it alone. Didn’t you try multiple times to stop it? Didn’t you fall back to it all over again? What makes you think then that you can do it again ALONE? Seek help from other believers and save your life. Some rejected this kind of warning and they went to their eternal sleep; gone never to be back again. Please don’t be one of them. Run to others for help and rescue your life. ///
(This was originally posted on January 29, 2013 – here it is with few new added points)
A4P Guest: My friend’s husband called me recently and asked me to sleep with him. I was very shocked. I’m married and they’ve been married now for three years. My husband and I and my friend and her husband, we all are Christians and we go to the same church. Now, I don’t know what I need to do. Of course I hung up the phone on him but do you think I need to tell my friend that her husband asked me to sleep with him? If I don’t tell her, I feel like I am hiding a secret from her and I read what you posted yesterday and I felt like God wants me to bring this secret out from the dark. What do you advise me?
A wedding is not a marriage! A wedding is a ceremony and a marriage is a ministry. These two are very different. A wedding is a one day deal and after that, it is gone, done, finished, “finito”!
Whereas a marriage, it is a lifetime commitment. Wedding and marriage have to be handled differently. Here in America, “50 billion dollar a year is spent only for wedding ceremonies. One million copies of bridal magazines are sold each month” (from “Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts” – by Parrott and Parrott).
That’s an absolutely staggering number since we know that one out of two marriages ends in divorce. All that investment on the wedding is not going to add a thing to the marriage.
Wise are couples who invest on their marriages (before they get married) as they attend premarital counseling sessions; buy and read together books about marriage and go counseling together (not to get validation for their relationship but to listen and apply what they learn). /// (this was originally posted on 12/02/2013)
P. S. For those of you who may be new to the page, this is what is going on with Appeal for Purity (A4P) this month. As part of the A4P one year anniversary celebration (which is coming up on Oct. 31), I’m going to re-post my earlier posts throughout the month of Oct (only weekdays though). The first person who is going to drop their nice comment on the first re-post on October 1 and the last person who is going to drop their nice comment on the last re-post on Oct 31, will receive prize from A4P as part of the celebration (the winner for Oct. 1 has already been selected and the gift has already been shipped to the winner). But in the meantime, if the Holy Spirit gives me a message to share with you all, I will go ahead and post it daily.
The dictionary meaning of the word secret is: “done, made, or conducted without the knowledge of others”.
Notice, the most important word from the above definition is “others.”
“Christianity puts people in bondage. What kind of god is he who doesn’t give total freedom to his people and calls himself loving? We all have to enjoy our life, to the fullest.”
If you are married and are going to be around DC for the next four Sundays, don’t forget to come and join me and the other married couples for a four weeks long class I’m giving on the topic of sexual intimacy at the International Ethiopian Evangelical Church (IEEC) in DC.
I have to tell you this because I know you love to read this kind of story.
I’m now at the hair salon. So when I drove to come here, I stopped at one of the traffic lights which is like three quarters away from the hair salon. You know how you stop at the red traffic light and look at your right and left side to see who is next to you. So, as the drivers next to me look at me and I at them, I realized that there was something in my car for the people next to me might be interested to stare at.
It was like two or three years ago. I was pumping gas when I heard someone saying “hello”.
I looked up to see who that was. It was the guy across me. I said to myself, “Okay, I don’t know you” after I respectfully responded back to his greeting with a quick head nod. He continued and said something to complement me in ways I didn’t feel comfortable to say “Thank you” for. But not to be rude, I smiled. Well, he continued saying something and I totally ignored him.
A4P Guest: I opened my Facebook account and the only post I got today was about you feeling disappointed about the contribution. Then I knew that was the reason you didn’t write anything. I’m so sorry. I completely forgot about it. I will donate when my husband comes. My husband doesn’t really care about supporting any ministry. So, I will try to convince him and support the cause as much as I can. Are you going to stop writing if as many people as you expected won’t support you?